Snooping and Spying Secrets

Sometimes I snoop or spy.

By snooping I found her stash of sexual photos

Friday, 4 August 2017

I’ve been with my girl for a couple of years now. It’s long distance but it is worth it to me. Even though we have been together in the past, we don’t currently have sex because we are waiting till we are married. It was a decision based around wanting to live our lives differently... The trouble is that from the beginning a lot of people told me that she was lying to me, playing me, stringing me along etc.

I spent a long time trying to figure out whether or not she was even interested in me and for multiple reasons it took years to work my way into us even being something more than friends on an official level... but during all that time she basically told me there was no one else.

Well, I snooped a while back and I found pictures that showed otherwise... I had been snooping not because I didn’t trust her, but because I knew that prior to our lifestyle change she liked taking naked pictures of herself and I wanted masturbation material. So long as we weren’t having sex, but we were together I figured I should still be able to do enjoy that at least... but I also knew that with this newfound chastity, she wouldn’t send me any new pics... So, I snooped in her stuff to find them...

And what I found sort of broke me... There hasn’t been anyone during the time that her and I have been together, but the time before we were together, while she was telling me that there was no one, there were apparently lots of people... and she not only took pictures of them, but for them and they definitely had sex... even a picture in the act with someone... who I hate to say, but is much more endowed than I am.

I want to continue trusting her and believing in her. I know she hasn’t cheated because she has no photos of people since we have been together (they would have been in the same place if she had). I know that I want a future with her, but I don’t know how to trust her now. I confronted her about it under the pretense of having heard about or seen the photos because someone with a grudge against her sent them to me... but I feel like I brought it on myself for snooping when I shouldn’t have been... The worst part is... I saved all of them knowing that they were for other people and with other people... and I still get off to them every single night. Sometimes they make me cry, but they are of her and I love her and I just want to be with her.

Jealousy is my master

Monday, 16 January 2017

Snooping and spying

When you take his phone, search it for hours.
When you check under the bed, in the closets.
Deep down to the basement and back to main level.
When you rip apart his car, and go through all his sweater pockets.
And you have searched everywhere in you’re power to try to catch him in a lie....

I guess that puts a rest on a restless mind, or does it....

I snooped on my partner and am having trouble dealing with my feelings

Sunday, 16 January 2016

I snooped in my partners email and discovered that he had had a relationship with an ex-neighbor prior to meeting me. He had kept this from me, even though we had spoken about previous relationships. When I next had an opportunity I took to snooping on his mobile phone and discovered texts between them. It was obvious he still had feelings for her; he told her he still ‘fancied the pants off her’ and had to put any idea of a relationship with her out of his head, all whilst having a loving relationship with me. It was also clear that he had been and had coffee at hers. He hadn’t told me any of this and he had recently done some work at her house (he’s a builder). I asked him about her without letting on how I had rumbled him. He admitted that they had had a short fling and I felt sick, like I’d been betrayed in some way. He tried to reassure me there was nothing there now, all dead and buried, however, I still can’t help myself snooping; his email, mobile phone and even his itemized mobile phone bills to see the contact between them. I’ve stopped snooping his mobile phone but still snoop his email and bills; never found any more emails but there has been some texts. I can’t seem to stop myself, even though I understand I’m also betraying him and his privacy. I know they do remain friends, he said he would still speak to her. I don’t feel she is particularly interested in him romantically. He’s doing more work at her house next week and was honest about that work being planned. Next week will be hard for me, I’ll be constantly fearful and worrying that something is going on. I don’t like the fact that I snoop, I’m trying so hard not do it and focus on all the positive, lovely things that we have in our relationship.

Monitoring all my girlfriends communication

Wednesday, 22 April 2015

I have been monitoring my live-in girlfriend’s phone calls and text messages because I’m certain she is being dishonest about who she is talking to and spending time with. I cannot address it or find a way to bring it to light without causing a catastrophe and still not getting the truth.

Checking my boyfriend’s Facebook account

Sunday, 19 January 2014

I find it hard to trust my boyfriend anymore after hacking his Facebook and finding out that he was lying to me and still talking to two girls who were flirting with him and sending him naked pictures that he had promised to block. He told me he wasn’t talking to them anymore at all and I found out that he was on both Facebook and that smartphone IM thingy called KIK. Eventually we settled things, he blocked them on his phone and Facebook and deleted KIK from his phone. I never told him what I knew or how because I was tired of arguing, but to this day I still get on his Facebook from time to time and snoop in his phone while he’s asleep because I’m scared he’s going to start doing stuff again. Our relationship has definitely been damaged, but I hope we can soon fix things up and be okay again. I might tell him what I did someday, but not just yet.

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