Relationship Issues Secrets

I’m keeping a secret from my loved one.

Ex-husband, new boyfriend, and unwanted sex

Monday, 15 May 2017

My ex had cheated on me and I moved in with my new bf. My ex went back to Oregon, as did I a few months after to see family. We have a daughter together and every time we went to see him on out vacation he would force me into bathrooms and try to kiss me and get laid. I’d push him off over and over but the last night I was there I gave in and we had sex, I cried half way through and made him get off of me because I felt so gross. When I came back I planned to tell my bf but then we found out I was pregnant. Now it’s almost three years later and the guilt is crushing me. I know he will leave if I say anything. I deserve it I guess...

Keeping my emotions wrapped too tightly

Sunday, 12 March 2017

I don’t trust anyone. No point in trusting anyway. I don’t exactly have anything I’d want to talk about. I don’t need to let out any emotions. I’ll just let them simmer under the surface. Then I’ll burst. Happens maybe once or twice a year. I don’t have emotions the rest of the year. It doesn’t bother me ’cuz I’ve created this perfect mask. I only use it around those who care about me. They’re the most dangerous. They are the reason I’m cutting off contact. Don’t wanna bring them down with me.

Still missing him

Monday, 6 February 2017

I’m at the point after a break up where I want to be around him as much as possible, not to talk to him, but to laugh near him so he sees I am over him. Which I am obviously not.

Hate my masturbating boyfriend

Monday, 16 January 2017

I really hate when my boyfriend masturbates. I’ve begged him to stop but he won’t listen to me. It makes me love him less and less.

My brother stole from the family

Monday, 16 January 2017

My brother borrowed $5,000 from our father and never paid it back although he was asked to do so. Our father passed away, I was executor of the estate, said brother never mentioned a word about the money he had borrowed. I gave our other sibling an extra $5,000 lump sum out of the estate to make up for what our brother had already received.

When cleaning out the house we came upon a large jar of money, about $500. Said brother volunteered to take it to the bank, have it counted, then split it between the siblings two months ago. No one received anything.

I am disgusted with my brother’s dishonesty and it is hard for me to interact with him knowing he is a liar and a cheat.

Broke up with my lying, cheating boyfriend

Monday, 16 January 2017

I just broke up with my compulsive liar boyfriend. He was a serial cheater and anytime I suspected it. He would say I was acting crazy. He never had money because I was doing OK. A week ago I found out he was dating a girl from my neighbor and I confronted him. He denied but I didn’t believe him. I spoke to her and she was gushing about how they are dating. It broke my heart he told her we were just friends. I confronted him and broke up with him. After 3 years he is still a liar.

I wanted her to cheat on me cause it turns me on

Sunday, 18 December 2016

When I was with my ex girlfriend; she’d admitted many many dirty, and extremely wild sexual adventures; many of which involved her enjoying cheating on her ex’s. This turned me on so much. I loved the idea of her cheating on me. Well, while having sex or masturbating. Then after orgasm, thinking about her cheating on me would make me sad. I would end up getting crazy horny, and start jerking; then begin begging and begging her to tell me more stories from her past, and then would ask for stories from while we were together. Also, I’d beg her to fuck another guy and she’d always refuse and then I started often saying that she could cheat on me and it was ok and wouldn’t technically be cheating. But no luck (that I knew of) until I started begging her to cheat on me and that she wouldn’t have to tell me for a certain amount of time. She didn’t go for that, so I began saying it all the way; I’d ask and beg her to cheat on me and simply never tell me; that I loved the thought so much that I just hoped it was happening and when telling her how much I wanted it; I’d smile and say "well, I assume you are!" And much of the time she’d act like she may have been.

My 3-way turned into a 2-way without my wife

Sunday, 18 December 2016

I have been married for a long time. I love my wife dearly. We don’t lie to each other at all. We have decided to start a 3-way relationship with another woman. We are all going to sleep together soon. One day I was at this other woman’s house and we ended up having sex. I can’t tell my wife because she will get very hurt but I have crippling guilt. I know that I will never ever do that again without my wife there. It’s the only time this has ever happened. If I leave it alone, we can all begin our sexual journey and all will be well but I just can’t tell my wife. I’m very ashamed of what I did.

I’m emotionally involved with my boss

Sunday, 18 December 2016

I have a partner that I have been with for quite some time and have a child on the way and I love her, and I want to love only her. At work I do most of my socializing and one of my bosses is quite fun to talk to and she’s very beautiful and I get along with her very well. Even from meeting her the first time that I started there, I could feel myself tripping over what I said and I would shy away because I was intimidated by her, but I could feel an unwanted love here.

Her personality is not typically one that would match up with my own, from what I can see on her profile is that she is/was something that would never match to how I am now. She has a partner and I am happy so long as she is happy, it is strange though that I would like to kiss her once, only once. I have never thought of the idea of having sex with her, this kind of feeling that I have for her is that she watches out for me and I want to watch out for her when the time comes, I want to be able to have just general chats with her about how her day is going and share some news with her when it comes up.

I feel as though I am emotionally cheating on my partner, and I really do not want to be. These feelings came up unexpectedly and I really want to get rid of them, but I don’t want to get rid of my boss, the job is great and the socializing there is great too. When the time comes for her to leave though, I will feel a deep sadness, like as though I’m losing a sister, but I hope to feel relief as well so that my recovery from this can start and I can continue to love my partner and only her.

I want to honestly tell her that I have feelings for her and I really do not want them, especially with how my life is right now. Then after that conversation, nothing happens, it’s just acknowledged that she knows what I have said, and she is aware of it and we can continue to work together and maybe we will both be a bit more understanding of this and have a more professional handle on it. But this will never work, because when people learn of things like this, it changes the connection. I want to get drunk with her and tell her all of this, so that hopefully it will either be forgotten, or she will believe it to be just a dream and then just play it off as drunk talk, and I can go on knowing that I have expressed it and will have found out what her reaction is.

This kind of feels nice to get off my chest.

On and off sexting during my marriage

Sunday, 18 December 2016

So I love my wife deeply, and I never ever wanted to or needed to cheat anywhere else. After we got married our marriage went bad fast. We argued all the time and never had sex. I was thinking about getting an annulment.

I was contacted on twitter by someone in a similar state. We both didn’t want to leave our partners, but felt completely isolated. We sexted each other for a few weeks. She would send me very explicit pictures and fantasies. I would send PG pictures occasionally and respond to her fantasies.

She pestered me for a long time to send her a dick pic. I didn’t want to but after a row with my wife I snapchatted her a 3 sec pic.

After that I knew things had gone too far and ended it all. I went to my wife to discuss our marriage and we both made efforts to sort it out. I didn’t tell her about the sexting.

4 years later I was pestered by someone else from twitter who started sending me pictures. At first I was just polite about the whole thing, but eventually ended up sexting with her. She would send me very explicit pics. I would only send PG pics back, never full nudes or genitals.

This was on and off for a few months until I started to get really fed up with it and did my best numerous times to make it stop. I ended up meeting her a few times. With the final time getting drunk and her getting a very quick kiss. I knew immediately that it had all gone to far and I never saw her again.

Everything stopped. I was relieved and grateful for it to be over. In therapy I then learned more about why I had done it in the first place and really grew as a human.

My wife never found out and it has been over 9 months since a message was sent. However, I just found out that sexting is classed as cheating and now I really don’t know what to do.

I never wanted to be physical with anyone. Although I did kiss her, it was a quick drunken smooch that I would forgive anyone for.

So now I don’t know what to do!

Suffering from his fear of commitment

Sunday, 18 December 2016

I found out he sleeps with escorts and I am terrified to ask him if that’s why he won’t commit to me.

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