Relationship Issues Secrets

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I am going to leave my husband

Monday, 08 December 2008

I have been married for almost nine years now and I hate it. He is done walking on me like a rug! I have 2 kids with the (swear word). Those 2 boys are the only thing good I did in my life. As soon as I find a job, I am out of this mess. Wish me luck people! Cause boy, I really need it. I am afraid of how to balance raising the kids and working all by myself.

PS... Good luck to anyone else who feels this way. I wish you well, the strength is inside you find it!

I am not attracted to my husband

Monday, 17 November 2008

I am not attracted to my husband. We have been together since we were in high school. It has been 12 years and we have been married for almost 7 of them. I wasn’t attracted to him when we got married. We don’t have sex. We haven’t in almost 4 years. And before that we only had sex once or twice a month. I want to be attracted to him physically. He deserves a good wife. I just can’t see him that way. Because of it, I began seeing someone 1 1/2 years ago. I am trying to end it, but I have real feelings for him and real attraction I have never felt for my husband. Although, my husband is such a great guy and deserves the best and it should be a no brainer that I stop this affair... I want to feel that feeling. We have no connection other than friendship and great business decision-making abilities. I feel horrible. All I wanted was a happy healthy marriage. And this is what I made.

I feel guilty about ignoring my husband

Tuesday, 11 November 2008

My husband married me on a lie. He told me that he was dying from cancer. I loved him, but not in the way one should love their husband. After a couple of months, I found out that he had lied about the cancer. He said it was to get me to marry him.

I decided to stay with him because I did learn to love him and actually, he had never said a bad word to me, not even once. I made it clear to him that it would be hard for me to ever trust him again.

He did have chronic asthma and diabetes and did not work. This caused so much stress for me that I had to work more to support us and probably ignored him too much.

He left me because he felt that I didn’t love him.

They found him dead in a homeless place, 3 months later, from an accidental overdose. I feel like if I had showed him more compassion that he would still be alive today.

The guilt haunts me. He was my best friend and I don’t know that I will ever be okay over this. It’s been 8 months now and it feels as though it was just yesterday. I wish I could tell him how sorry I am.

My boyfriend is terrible in bed

Thursday, 06 November 2008

My secret is that even though my lover claims to be good in bed and a passionate lover, I find that he is not that great. I never orgasm and he is terrible at oral sex. I have asked him to do things differently, subtly ask him to do this or that, but he doesn’t do it right and I end up frustrated and unsatisfied. I want to fix our sex life because he is so attractive and I love him so much and I think he definitely has potential to be awesome in bed, I don’t want to hurt his feelings, so I don’t say anything about it at all. Sometimes I fantasize about him being a better lover.

I have a secret sex life

Saturday, 01 November 2008

I recently got a new girlfriend however what she doesn’t know is that I have been going to a "swingers" group at my college. For those of you who don’t know, a swingers group is a group of people who are unhappy with their sex life and basically trade partners for the night. I made a friend, who also wanted to join the group, and the two of us have been posing as a couple so that we could gain access to multiple sex partners on the weekend. We had to go to a meeting for one of our classes in which we discussed STD’s and unfortunately I think that due to this group I have contracted one. I feel a very strong attachment to my girlfriend but unfortunately I feel the same attachment to my group. We have been going out for about three months now and I am reluctant to say that I have managed to keep it a secret from her though it is tearing me up inside.

I got caught lying about a past relationship

Tuesday, 28 October 2008

Well… in the beginning of my relationship, I told my boyfriend that I had been in a relationship before. This was true. He was devastated and so I panicked and told him that what I said was a lie. For the past several months, I have been trying to convince him that I have only ever been with him, but today he talked to one of my co-workers (someone who knew my ex) and she told him everything. Tomorrow morning he wants me to tell her that I lied to her too, but since she knows my ex… well, I’m sure you get the idea. So as far as I can tell, I have three options: ask my co-worker to say I told her that I had lied, tell my boyfriend everything and hope he doesn’t blow a gasket, or sever my connections with all parties and get out of here. Though the third is the most appealing right now, it’s the least practical. I feel like a scared kid, even though the whole thing is ridiculous. It would be so easy for me to create excuses as to why I am in the right, but essentially I lied… about lying, but it was still wrong. I don’t know how to repair things now that his trust has been broken once already, and the whole basis on which it was rebuilt was a lie. I feel like a horrible person, but I don’t think it was entirely my fault. I just wish I knew what to do. I can’t take living with this lie, and it is so hard to get things done with him questioning me all the time. But if I tell him, will it break him? If he leaves me, so be it, I feel I deserve it. I just hope he is (will be) all right.

I married my husband for financial security

Saturday, 18 October 2008

I married my husband because I needed a person with a good job and money so that my son could go to college. I am not "in love" with him but after 22 years of marriage, I’m attached to him. But, if I was financially able, I would leave and try to make myself Happy!

I am cheating on my boyfriend who might be gay

Tuesday, 14 October 2008

I am 28 yrs. old, three kids, never married, but I am engaged to a good man and I am cheating on him with my boss! The problem is this is not the first time and probably won’t be the last. I also cheated on him with my best friend’s brother. I know I love him and I don’t want to lose him but I just keep cheating on him! I think part of the problem is we have threesomes and he is Bi-sexual so we only have them with other men so maybe that is too much temptation for me. And sometimes I think I am a front for him like maybe he is really gay and he uses me to look straight? I don’t know but I am really confused, I don’t feel guilty at all when I cheat on him! I am confused!

My boyfriend was a compulsive liar

Sunday, 28 September 2008

My boyfriend perpetuated the most incredible series of lies for over a year and a half. He was in law school and led me to believe that he was in his second year. He is very closeted about his homosexuality and I am out. Our lives together were one-sided in that we hung out only with my friends, straight and gay, but never any of his friends did I meet. He then concocted the most horrific story about his mother having leukemia and that he had to drop out of law school to go home and take care of her and his younger sisters. In reality, he had already graduated, taken the bar exam, and then moved back to his home town, and our entire year and a half of relationship was simply an experiment for him. He’ll join a huge law firm, where he will remain closeted. Yet perhaps his downfall will be his penchant for unsafe sex with guys he meets off the internet, which he does a lot. He has profiles and photos on every major gay site. I guess I should be glad I have not contracted any series std from him. I feel used and ashamed that this happened to me.

My boyfriend is driving me crazy by hiding porn

Sunday, 14 September 2008

I can’t seem to get over this feeling that I cannot trust my boyfriend of 10+ years. After discovering that he was looking at porn, it made me wonder what other things he may have been doing as well. I guess it’s because he took such extreme measures to hide this, and that is so silly considering the fact that I am a former stripper/bachelor party dancer and I have always been very open about that fact, and very open with him in our sex life as well. He says he hid it because he was embarrassed. Embarrassed by looking at lesbian porn?! I would have enjoyed sharing that with him!! Honestly, I think he was hiding an online hook-up service and/or watching live sex shows where can you talk to the girls doing them. Something isn’t right, and it is driving me crazy. Maybe I am losing it, but I want to know the whole truth. It just seems there was way too much effort to hide something I wouldn’t have been offended by in the first place....

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