Relationship Issues Secrets

Messed around with my ex

I’m huge on telling the truth because I’ve been lied to so much in the past by others, which is why this situation makes me feel awful about myself. At this time I was in a relationship with a new guy for only a month and a half. I made plans to hang out with an ex and the intentions were true, just to drink and hang out, completely platonic. We ended up getting super drunk and falling back into old habits, cuddling, playing around. We skinny-dipped in a hot tub, but it wasn’t meant to be sexual, it was just meant to be goofy and spontaneous. However, the temptation was there, and feelings of nostalgia surfaced. We came close to kissing but I told him I couldn’t do this because I knew there was no way I could live with the guilt if I had cheated. However, it still wasn’t the most honest thing to do while in a relationship with someone else. I told my current boyfriend half the truth -- that my ex tried kissing me but I turned it down. I’ve been with this guy for about five months now and things are getting serious and going great. Telling him would crush him and ruin everything we have but the guilt is killing me.

Lost love

I hate that I couldn’t say goodbye to you when I left. I hated that it was awkward between us even though I tried to joke around and make light of the situation we were in. I hate that I had to drive away and think I’ll never hear from you again my friend. I’ve hovered over your name in my phone and sat with a message open only to never hit send. Afraid of what response I might get telling me to go away, or worse. A response that will never come and that’s my biggest fear is to be ignored and undeserving of a reason.

Husband Only Lies

I have been married to a compulsive, pathological liar for 29yrs. I regret I didn’t read the signs. He should be an actor. I trusted and believed him because he lies so well. Tells you what you want to hear with compassion. I need a divorce.

Lied about the father of my child

I lied about my child's fatherhood. I had sex with my current husband (B) while I was still with my ex-boyfriend (A). I developed deep feelings for B and decided to leave A. But unfortunately I was already pregnant with A’s baby but only discovered this when I was about three months pregnant but in new relationship with B. I decided to tell B that he is the father. He accepted the pregnancy. This happened 23 years back and the child passed on last year.

Many people know about this and are talking behind my back. I seriously don't know whether B knows about this or not.

Although my child is no more and I want to confess this to B because my child left a baby behind and I don't want him (baby) to be deceived that B is his grandfather. I don't want to hurt B’s feelings. Love him so much but the truth must come out now.

Thinking about cheating my way out

I feel so stuck. And no way out of my relationship, I don’t know what to do I lie ever day that I love him. I refuse to cheat but want to. I want him to catch me so he can leave me. Or me to catch him.

Love with someone who treats me like dirt

I am so in love with my best male friend. I am married. My guy bff doesn’t like me like that. It hurts so bad. He takes me for granted and makes me feel so bad. I am his doormat. He uses me. He wants too hang out if he benefits. I think of him all day everyday. I have a great husband at home but I love a man who treats me like shit.

Not Happy

I am addicted to pornography. My husband knows this and is extremely supportive of my need for help. What he doesn’t know is how much time I spend fantasizing about my life not being what it is, but being someone else entirely. I have good kids, and an amazing man in my life. And yet, I am unhappy. My sexual fantasies NEVER include him, always someone else. I have also been non-orgasmic the whole of our marriage. This he also knows, and he hates because he blames himself, which bothers me because I know that it is me. And I am not just saying that.

I hate myself. Where do I turn from here? Where is the light at the end of the tunnel? Where is the hope because too long has it been since I’ve had any.

I’m a sex worker

I have sex for money, he would never understand.

Celibate with my partner, but not the sexy guy

I’ve been dating someone for a couple of months now. It’s been great...I’ve decided to become celibate for spiritual reasons, and have been celibate for a while now. We started off having sex, but then I decided about 1 month into the relationship that I would become celibate. He was very resistant at first, but decided to take the journey with me spiritually. We have been together since and it has been pretty steady. We get along very well, and our communication has been stellar. I love him very much. A couple of months in, he started to check my phone behind my back, and wanted most of my time. I was okay with the spending time with him, but checking my phone when I really wasn’t doing anything, upset me greatly. It pushed me away, and I started to entertain the conversation of other men. Everyone knew I was in a relationship, but was okay with chatting it up with me from time to time. I met this one guy, who I was really attracted to as far as conversation and physical attributions. Not my usual type, but he is so charismatic.

Messages boards are rough on Truth About Deception

I was a member of this board years ago trying to work on my marriage. I invited my wife here to discuss our issues and see where we needed work. Dan Kwan and sunny often gave advice usually ending up with me needing work as I knew I needed. I was discarded from this forum because I cleared my browser history of porn; my wife had garnered them onto her side because of how I was acting. Trying desperately to fight for my name. I just wanted to let you two know, she is a covert narcissist and I have been isolated from friends, family and I only recognized it when she started abusing my brother. Thanks for being flying monkeys, I told you it wasn’t like it seemed.