Relationship Issues Secrets

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Crush on my ex husband’s brother

Saturday, 23 February 2013

My ex husband has been in prison for over 5 years he has 20 more years to go and was a monster of a person. His brother and I have had a crush on each other for 6 yrs and finally confessed to each other. He is infatuated with me and I fantasize about him.... Haven’t crossed that line yet.

Love someone else and lacking love in my relationship

Thursday, 21 February 2013

I have been with my partner for 5 years, yet I’m still in love with my first love. I think about this first love all the time and we have had recent contact and shared a kiss, we also have had an ‘emotional’ affair, texting/meeting etc. I love my partner a lot, we have a child together, but I can’t help but feel he isn’t enough for me. I’ve cut ties with the first love out of sheer guilt, but my relationship is still suffering because I need my partner to dote on me and he doesn’t. He doesn’t seem interested in me/sex/anything really, and I’m so paranoid that he is getting/giving the attention to someone else.

I am going to cheat on my boyfriend

Monday, 18 February 2013

I recently met a very attractive man at the gym. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 5 plus years. I love him dearly and would love to get married but I can’t wait on him forever. The spark is fizzling and I’ve never had an orgasm when we have sex. I can’t help but feel that I’m missing out. We have only texted so far but I want to do more. I know he does too. And the sad truth is that we will. Lesson: don’t keep your lady on a shelf. She will expire.

Did not tell the complete truth about cheating

Thursday, 14 February 2013

Told my boyfriend I cheated on him, only a kiss mind you. But I didn’t tell him that kiss happened three times and there was texting involved, mainly from him though.

Feel awful for lying to my girlfriend about my virginity

Wednesday, 13 February 2013

I have been dating my girlfriend for 6 years and we are very much in love. We are the kind of couple that are attached at the hip and always have been. I fell hard for her in the beginning and was afraid she didn’t feel the same at first. Because we were young when the topic of virginity came up and I knew she was, I didn’t think she would want to be with me if she knew I had lost mine already. I told her I had messed around with a few girls but had not lost my virginity. I had not been actively having sex, I just "tested" the waters so to speak so in a way I sort of felt like I hadn’t, although I know that I did. Now it is haunting me later on as I feel I am a horrible person and that she wouldn’t think of me the same if I told her the truth. I don’t want to lose her and I’m sure she would understand but our 6 years have been so good without her knowing. I don’t know what to do, I feel so guilty that I almost want to break up with her just because I don’t feel like I am worth how perfect she is. She has never done anything to me, and I do trust her that she has not betrayed me like I have her. I know if I could get past this guilt we could live happily but I also feel like I have not been forgiven for it from god, despite asking.

I have a crush on a student

Monday, 04 February 2013

I am a married woman, and I am so in love with my husband. I am a college lecturer, and I can’t help to fall for one of my student. I think it harmless since nobody knows, but I am really afraid someone will notice. I seek opportunity to meet him, to talk to him, and I smile and act pretty in front of him. I am ashamed of myself, its ridiculous-but i cant help this feeling. I think he knew, but i pretend to be as professional as i can be. I hope this feeling will vanish because he is all I can think of all the time. I love my husband very much... But I can’t deny how exited I am to see my student at work.. Hmm, I am a mess.

Ashamed that I don’t have the courage to leave my wife

Tuesday, 29 January 2013

I am married for almost 14 years. It has been a hard marriage. She has an alcohol addiction which makes matters even worse. We have not had a connection for some time and I have struggled with a huge need to feel loved and appreciated (most people need that as well). I dated and loved a girl a long time ago before I got married and it did not work out. I was too immature to realize how special she was and let her get away. I took me a long time to get over her and an even longer time to have anything special, which I still don’t have. I had other relationships that fell short of the magic and love I originally felt. For years I have searched for that original feeling of connection with my wife we once had. I have tried to have the same feelings and when my wife and I got married I thought I would eventually grow into the feelings I once had with my special girl. This searching has led me to make some very bad decisions to try and fulfill my connection needs. I have reason to believe my wife has cheated on me on numerous occasions, especially when she has been drinking. Even when I think she has not been involved with someone, when she drinks makes me go into a delusional state. These situations and incidents make me make some very bad choices. My twisted effort for some sort of connection and distance from the alcoholic drama has caused me to search for an outlet that has manifested in sexual outlets. I have slept with escorts (safe sex only), gone to strip clubs, watch porn and have generally scarred myself over from the pain I have experienced. I know my wrongs are not justified and I continually feel the guilt associated with my behavior. I have been to ALANON and a therapist. I now have almost become obsessed with catching my wife so I will have a valid and tangible reason to leave her. I have no idea if she even loves me or not and I have no idea if I do either. I am sure the logical conclusion is to leave her and take the pain of the emotional breakup and major financial strain that I may never recover from. I guess I get what I deserve. I am sick of myself and what I have created. I want to build up the courage to do what is going to happen, I just can’t find the strength to do it. I am so ashamed.

Open relationship caused some problems

Saturday, 26 January 2013

Infidelity & Deception My partner and I decide to open our relationship to occasionally having a 3rd or couple invited into the bedroom. It was just sex and No kissing was the rule. We had our safe fun of about 5 month before I definitely enjoyed it more than having sex with my partner. One weekday I was off from work and invited 1 of the guys we had hooked up with more than 3 times. He came over, we did our business and that was the end. 4 years later, I went through my partners email and found an email of a guy he had hooked up with the day before. I was sick to my stomach. He’s response after I confronted him was, I had done the same thing before. My partner and I are at a horrible place in our relationship and I have no where to turn to since I cannot tell my closest friends of our sexual lives.... And I fill betrayed an hurt by what he did although I’ve done the same thing, 4 years earlier. I love him with all my heart but my head says I cannot be with someone who doesn’t trust me, let alone someone I can’t trust. He has broken my trust several time and here I am again. Torn & Confused!!

Not telling the truth about herpes

Wednesday, 23 January 2013

I contracted herpes a long time ago from a guy. And although I rarely have any outbreaks, I still cannot find the courage to tell a lover cause I am afraid he will feel gross from me and not want me anymore.

I am an attention seeking hypocrite

Saturday, 19 January 2013

I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years with a man that I love so much. I’ve put him through so much: I loved another man at the beginning of our relationship, I lie to him not to hurt him about all the attention I’m getting from other males...Basically I’m just an attention whore who loves male attention and that always feels the need to be validated, appreciated, admired and noticed and that drives him mad to the point that he doesn’t trust me anymore. I know that if he did even half of what I do I would leave him despite my love for him. I feel like a big attention seeking hypocrite.

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