Relationship Issues Secrets

I’m keeping a secret from my loved one.

My boyfriend is an alcoholic

Sunday, 06 January 2013

I get upset when my boyfriend drinks because he is an alcoholic. He promised he would quit drinking if I gave him another chance. He went 4 months without drinking and now has been gone all day because he is drinking and doesn’t want to see how I am going to react when he comes home. I even quit drinking with him because it was causing problems in our relationship. We broke up before he quit and I slept with another guy, He encouraged me to because he said I needed to have sex with other people because I was in a marriage with another man for 20 years and needed to experience sex with others. We are back together but I am still not happy and i think of my ex-husband and the other guy I had sex with.

Thinking about sex with the other guy

Saturday, 05 January 2013

I don’t know what to do anymore. I am currently with my boyfriend that I have been living with for the last year and a half and I am am thinking constantly about the hot guy I had sex with when we broke up for a month in the summer. I him promised when we got back together that I would not see or talk to the hot guy again but he text me at Christmas and New Years and now I can’t stop thinking about him. My boyfriend left his email open the other day and I found out he’s been paying to watch porn on the Internet.

Not getting what I want

Thursday, 03 January 2013

I feel used. I am doing everything a wife would do yet he doesn’t want to marry me. I am supporting his two kids and the household. I feel resentful and obligated at the same time. I am torn because I love them, but yet I feel unfulfilled. I thought maybe we could be a family, but I now realize I will always be on the outside looking in. How do I walk away when there are so many hearts in the balance?

She does not trust me

Sunday, 30 December 2012

I am in a relationship where by I have submitted myself fully to my girlfriend to a point of even trusting her to run my business. Despite doing all these, she still doubts me and is always complaining. I really love this lady soooo much and want her to be the mother of my kids. What do I do?

My boyfriend will not work

Saturday, 29 December 2012

I am overwhelmed by this situation and I have no idea how to make myself feel better. I have been in a committed relationship for the past two years and the love I share with this man is immense and my spirit tells me I will never love or be loved like this ever again. Unfortunately, I am the only one in this relationship who works. My lover brings no money to the house and he doesn’t seem to want to change anything about that. I spend all my money on him, money that I could use for my own pleasure. I don’t think I can go on like this for much longer... I need support and I know how selfish this sounds, but damn it already, it’s been much too long and this just doesn’t feel right. As if this guilt wasn’t enough, I am falling in love with one of my lover’s friends who seems like he could fulfill the imperfections of my current relationship. What is there to do? I can’t think right and I know there is no solution for this. There is no salvation. I would never hurt my man, but the lust is so strong and then there is the money problem. I want my lover to start working and show me he deserves me and everything I’ve done for him so far. I can’t take it any longer.

Desire my wife’s best friend

Monday, 24 December 2012

I helplessly desire my wife’s best friend. It’s an agonizing feeling that terrorizes me daily that I never want to go away. It’s certainly the most confusing painful feeling ever. It might not be so bad if she were not my wife’s best friend. I see her all the time and she is always beautiful, my thought’s about her are never anything less than charged... I truly love my wife and I only wish that I could have eye’s only for her. I love my son and would never want to cause him the pain of living with parents who couldn’t handle their marriage. The temptation is so terrifying to me. It’s gotten to the point that I dread when she comes over, as it seems like every time I see her it becomes more and more difficult for me to keep myself restrained. I don’t feel like I can even trust myself... uhg.

Hate my boyfriends past life

Wednesday, 19 December 2012

My boyfriend lived with his ex for 12 years and they have four children together. I feel very insecure about this since they had lots of memories together and I even saw some photos of them together. I feel like he’s lied about many things to me especially about his ex. I’m very hurt about it and he thinks its no big deal. I feel torn because I don’t know if I can really trust him while I’m not around. I don’t want to be with a man who lies. I want to have a man that’s all to myself. But I still love him and though I know I’d be able to move on quickly without him. I’m afraid of breaking up because he will be lonely and sad for sure and will be embarrassed about being rejected especially since he left his ex to be with me.

Lack of sex is tearing me apart

Monday, 17 December 2012

I’m an attractive, 45 year old single woman who leads an active life (job, family, and friends) but I have not had sex in 13 years and it’s tearing me apart. I wake up at night worrying about it. I think about sex, and my lack of it, all the time. Sometimes I don’t even feel like I’m human anymore, like I’m somehow living on the outskirts of the human race. I’m afraid no one will ever touch me again and I don’t know how to fix the problem in a way that’s realistic and reasonable for me. Everything I’ve tried has been a dead end. I feel like there’s no where to go, no one to talk to and no one who can help me. When I was younger and sexually active, I never thought I’d find myself in this ridiculous situation.

Like to objectify women

Tuesday, 11 December 2012

I want women just for sex. I want to touch them, feel them, use them for my primal desire. They are nothing but a living organism that can bring me pleasure. I want the smell, the feel, the taste...

I resent my girlfriend for cheating on me

Thursday, 06 December 2012

I give all my heart to a girl but this girl has cheated on me. I know of this because I saw it with my own eyes. I don’t know how or if I even should tell her. I fear revealing the information will end our relationship of seven years. I also know that by not saying anything it will surely happen again. So, I guess clearly the answer is to move on. I just don’t understand how so many people in the world today can be so morally inconsiderate. I would never do such a thing to her and I’ve always believed in her and I have been there to support her for everything from school to the death of a relative. I have given up several opportunities to be close to her, there is no way I could have abandoned her. I have seen her at her weakest moments and I have help pulled her through these things. I don’t believe she "owes" me for being there for her but I do feel, resentment I suppose.

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