Relationship Issues Secrets
I’m keeping a secret from my loved one.
Boring sex life
I love my husband but the sex is kind of boring. He used to really satisfy me when he watched porn. Now I just satisfy myself when I get a chance. Oh well.
So many lies and secrets
I met my boyfriend of 10 months in high school—back then he was kind of a man whore, but I didn’t know till later on. I lived in a abusive home and one day was forced to break up with him. Well he found me again and I ended up moving away to go to college with him. I have given up my whole life for him, but I just don’t trust him. I have found awful things on his computer like teenage porn and i didn’t want to keep that in so i told him what I found and that I couldn’t be with him if he was to keep watching that stuff. Well we got into a couple fights about it and he finally decided to give it up. He looked at this as an addiction. While I was snooping on his computer a couple weeks ago and I found it again and I got really mad and deleted everything and told him what I had found. He was super mad at me for snooping through his stuff. Well he had lied to me for almost 2 months telling me he wasn’t doing it and hanging it over my head as something important he had done for me. Well in the end I ended up giving up and telling him that i wanted him to get better but i wasn’t gonna force him to stop. My secret is that I am secretly disgusted by him now. I used to love having sex with him. Now when he touches me I just want to run away. I am always worried that when I’m not around that is what he is looking at. And because of all this stress I started smoking again (I had quit a long time before we started dating), but now I am lying to him and unlike him this is eating me up inside. FYI he would probably dump me if he knew I was smoking.
I don’t enjoy having sex
Even though I have been out of the closet as a lesbian for a long time and love women, I secretly desire men. I don’t know how to be sexually satisfied, because no matter which gender I’ve slept with, something’s missing. I feel like a freak. Sometimes, I even think I was born into the wrong body. I hate sex...I wish it would stop being such a big issue to everyone, so I could just pretend I don’t have all of the conflicting feelings I do.
I am gay and have a crush on a friend
I am gay and I have feelings for a friend of mine, but I also love my girlfriend and I don’t know how to tell her. This secret is killing me.
Boyfriend does not know I am a stripper
I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months. He lives 3 hours away, obviously permitting us to spend as much time together as we would like. At first, neither of us were looking for anything serious, just having fun together. Our feelings for each other have grown tremendously, like we are falling in love. In the beginning of our relationship, I wasn’t completely honest with him about money/work. I dance at a topless bar making stupid money. I put myself through college, have a nice apartment, new car, and savings. He has NO idea when we get off the phone I’m not going to bed, I’m going to make my rent. He is under the impression my dad helps me with bills. I have a great day job as well that I love, it just doesn’t pay enough yet. I have been hiding this and the guilt is killing me. I hate lying, I have always been honest and am not ashamed of what I do. I’m just scared of what might happen to us when I break the news. He is such an amazing guy and we both are so gaga over each other, he is a great man and treats me like a princess, but juggling this lie, on top of working 2 full time jobs, plus dating someone 3 hours away has been one of the most stressful times of my life. I feel like I am going to crash. I was hoping once he got know me it would be easy to tell him. He would realize I am not the typical stereotype of the strip club industry. He would see how hard I work and realize my night job is temporary, but I’ve learned he is not ok at ALL with this lifestyle. He is very protective over me and does not want to share me in any way (which is a quality I adore). I really do not want anything to change with us, it’s been wonderful so far. We both see us having a long term future together. I’m scared if I tell him the truth it may ruin our relationship, obviously he will eventually find out. How much longer should I wait??
Thinking about the other guy
I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now and while we have had our ups and downs I think it is a good relationship. However, very close to the time I started dating my boyfriend I was interested in another guy. It turned out things got pretty serious with my boyfriend but that other guy still comes to mind a lot. He and I are friends still, nothing has ever happened between us. The problem is that I find myself fantasizing about him sexually. I feel so guilty because I do love my boyfriend but this guy just drives me crazy on some strange level. I know he liked me and I am pretty sure he knows I like him too. I could have totally seen us going out had I not become involved with my current boyfriend. I sort of feel like my crush on this guy may be a "one that got away" scenario though. All I know is that he comes to mind way more than I’m comfortable with lately. My boyfriend is a good guy though. He’s an excellent lover, attractive and attentive. Geez what’s wrong with me?
She is not my type
I actually have two secrets to share. A co-worker has been hitting on me for years. I keep on putting her off as us just being good friends. I do like her a lot, but only on a friendship level, because I have no physical attraction to her at all. But if she were attractive, I would have probably taken her up a long time ago. We are both married. So the first secret is that I am willing with the right person. The second secret is that I don’t want to hurt her feelings by telling her the truth about the real reason I won’t with her is because she’s just not my type.
My boyfriend forced me to have an abortion
I have 2 different secrets that I’ve kept from my boyfriend and family. Three months ago my boyfriend of quite a few years got me pregnant... I wanted it but he didn’t. He forced me to have an abortion... I haven’t told my family I told then I lost it they still don’t understand why I cry so much. My secret I keep from my boyfriend is since he forced me to do that I don’t feel like I love him anymore it comes and goes but mostly I feel nothing but hate and resentment towards him and I want him to feel the pain I feel on a daily basis. It may seem stupid but if he texts me saying "I love you" and I hate having to say it back. I want to say "Yeah and I loved my baby but that didn’t matter did it you asshole." He lied to everyone about me and treated me so mean and just left me to cry alone and I hate him so much for it. I don’t know why I’m still with him...
I don’t love my husband anymore
My secret is that I don’t think I love my new husband anymore, and that I am growing more and more convinced that it was a mistake to marry him because he is a liar, because I don’t really know who he is or what he believes, because he hides things from me and there is just nothing good left in my heart. All that remains is distrust and suspicion and nausea that I could have gotten myself into such a horrible mess. My life is ruined.
Keeping secrets from my husband
I’ve lied to my husband from the moment I met him and I regret every one of them. He was such a kind and caring man, but he is definitely a person with a lot of integrity. I felt inferior and not good enough, so I lied about my past so that he wouldn’t leave. I told him that the first time I had sex I was raped, and the second time I had sex with my friend just once. I have had sex with 6 different men besides him and I know it would kill him to find that out. I told him I’ve only experimented with weed, coke, and meth when really I’ve also tried shrooms, crack, and prescription pills. I’ve stolen credit cards and used them to purchase gas (this was long before I met him). I’ve only told him half truths and it has been killing me because I feel that he doesn’t know the real me. I’m too afraid to fess up because we have a very loving relationship and I don’t want that to change and I don’t want to end my marriage. I feel so guilty and alone :(
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