Made a Mistake Secrets

I’ve done something I shouldn’t have.

Not following the rules when it comes to porn

Friday, 26 April 2019

I’m an elder in a very strict religious organization (think "cult"). I have violated the organizations policies on pornography a number of times.

Misbehaving during a massage

Friday, 29 March 2019

I went to a sketchy massage parlor and the lady tried to jerk me off but I have a fiancée so I opted out and the masseuse said that I could jerk myself off while she finishes the massage. Initially I thought it was fine because the lady didn’t do it, but now I feel bad because I’m not sure if that’s technically cheating or not.

Cut myself

Friday, 29 March 2019

I got in trouble at school because someone found out I had cut my arms and thighs. Everyone knew what I had done, I told my friends that I would never do it again, but I still do. The secret hurts more than my cuts.

Screwed up a relationship

Monday, 10 September 2018

I may or may not have just ruined a relationship that isn’t mine. Oh well not in my control now.

Using a misunderstanding to betray my boyfriend

Sunday, 18 March 2018

I made out with someone. I already told my bf but he misunderstood and then I lied.

Lost my virginity on Grindr

Monday, 4 December 2017

I just lost my virginity to a random guy off of Grindr. I’m gonna lie and still say I’m a virgin because I want to save it for my boyfriend.

First kiss was with a sex worker

Tuesday, 3 October 2017

I went to erotic massage parlors for two years, and have stopped, but I’m afraid that I will fall into the trap again. I never thought that I would go to those places for sexual relief, and stole money from my parents to fuel that habit. I feel so ashamed of that and that I also had my first kiss with a girl at a massage parlor. I’m afraid that the girl I love now will know about this secret — whether it’s through me telling her or through finding out, and spurn me. I feel so unworthy and like a piece of trash.

Hooked up with an old hookup

Friday, 4 August 2017

I fooled around with an old hookup after only about a month in to my brand new, amazing, head over heels relationship. The guilt is eating me alive, but if I told him he would never speak to me again, and I honestly think he’s the one. As long as I learned from my mistake and know better not to let myself get into a tempting situation like that again, I can move on.

Start an affair while my partner is pregnant

Friday, 4 August 2017

I have started an affair. I have continued it since discovering my partner is pregnant and I have hidden this from my lover because I don’t want to end the affair.

My past cheating is eating me up

Saturday, 15 July 2017

I cheated on my then girlfriend now wife with an old fling in a weak (and alcohol-infused) moment while she was out of town a couple of years ago. I took my fling home and had sex with me in my girlfriend’s bed. The next day I was terrified that I was gonna get caught so I cleaned the whole apartment 3 times, changed the sheets (and blamed it on a coffee spill). The reason was because we had a "bad" period in our lives and a couple of months later had "the talk" but agreed to give it one more try.

I’ve also the last couple of months began to buy webcam shows from webcam-sites, and I just feel disgusted with myself right now. I logged in again today and a girl even recognized me (or well my username since I’ve bought shows from her before).

We are now married, bought a house and are waiting for our first kid and I can’t shake the feeling that this is all based on a lie. I love my wife to death and I hope she never finds out but this is eating me up from within. The strangest thing is that I’ve gone like 3 years without giving it much thought but since there’s so much going on right now I think my anxiety is bringing this up and making me feel like I don’t deserve the amount of happiness I actually have in my life. I have control issues and this feels like something I can’t control right now, even though the girl I cheated with did the same thing to her ex (not with me though), and she never told him.

I’ll end my account on the webcam site, and probably delete the fling from social media as well since I can’t really have her popping up and reminding me about it all the time. She’s getting married now as well, and now seems like a good time to do it, since we’ve talked on and off since my affair.

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