Made a Mistake Secrets
I’ve done something I shouldn’t have.
Cheated at the start
I am in a happy, committed, and truly loving relationship. But very early on I cheated..
I want to reveal naked photos of his ex
I still have all the naked photos I found on my partners computer of the girl he was seeing while I was overseas for uni. I confronted him about it at the time (1.5 years ago) and he knew I had a copy of them after, but has never asked if I still have them or not. We talked about it in therapy with our psychologist and she said I needed to delete them in order to forgive him and move on (which is what we were trying to do) but I didn’t delete them. We are still together and I still think about it to this day. I would like to print them out one day and send them to her parents address as well as to her boyfriend and any other significant people in her life (especially work colleagues I can find one day). Our therapist told me not to, so I don’t know if I will or not, but I am very much still haunted by this and if my boyfriend knew, he would dump me immediately.
I am going to marry a compulsive liar
I read this post on deception and compulsive liars. I am engaged to one currently. Smoking, porn, money, you name it, he lies about it. I have been labeled the savior in my family growing up so it is no surprise to me that I am still in this relationship trying to fix someone else’s problem. I am getting married in 27 days... to a compulsive liar. And until about two months ago I did not realize what he was doing. He has continually looked at local escorts, let his account go into debt, shut himself off from his friends, and looks at every form of porn that would hurt my feelings. He has tried a multitude of times to quite smoking and still admits to doing so. He is an addict in every sense of the word and yet refuses to look to me for any help. Every time we fight he is given the ultimatum or I’m gone. And each time he swears a new promise and gives me control of whatever is needed. At what point do I become the mother and him the child? In order for him to not look at escorts he needs a phone without internet?? That’s RIDICULOUS—I don’t want to live in constant fear of my husband’s faithfulness. He will always say what he thinks I want to hear in the heat of the moment. We have built this relationship for 2 years and still I find secret credit cards or accounts or online history accounts for local escorts or live webcams. I have a little ray of hope because when I do confront him with the truth he has to take a moment, breathe, and then tell me the truth. This is something he has gotten recently from the therapist. He knows what he is doing and yet he will scream at himself that he doesn’t understand why he does this. He hasn’t grasped the concept that the lies are what hurt and that this will never heal without some sort of re-found trust. But most of all is this feeling of loosing my reality. I’ve never done anything like this to anyone. I question myself now because I cannot tell what is a lie without doing the research myself. I have no trust in this relationship whatsoever, and yet people stand there and say... it could be worse. You could have someone addicted to drugs, alcohol, abusive, and yet you complain about this man who adores you but just lies? It is tearing my mind to pieces trying to believe him and when I do he sits in front of me and just lies. I torture myself in wondering why I do this to him? And then I remember he is lying to me. Over and over and over again. I know I am going to walk down the aisle in a month. I know I may regret it later. So in the end, I think it is my own fault for doing this to myself. My only saving grace is the option of divorce if it doesn’t change.
Messed around with my ex
How could I... While my boyfriend was out of town who I love very much, I had my ex (who is still my good friend) come over to play cards. He still likes me- I have ABSOLUTELY NO FEELINGS FOR HIM- well we got drunk and he started to make moves on me. I told him to stop he didn’t listen. I let him kiss me- and then he tried to have sex with me and I told him to stop!!! I feel so awful right now. I didn’t tell my boyfriend that my ex and I were going to hang out, so he has no idea. I love my boyfriend more than anything. I don’t believe in keeping secrets, but I know that if I tell him what happened it will be the end of us. I don’t want to lose him. I am ending my friendship with my ex- and I am hoping to put this behind me and move on with my life. My boyfriend is the man I hope to marry some day- why did this happen-I just wish I could erase this!!
Had sex with someone far too young
I had sex with someone far too young and I’m afraid it will not allow me to have healthy future relationships. I can’t tell anyone because it’s embarrassing and the person I’m with now I really love and the thought of them rejecting me and telling everybody scares me to death. I am the only one who knows this happened besides the person I did that with. I’m ashamed and I want to forget about it, but I can’t seem to. It’s a huge regret and I sometimes even question if it makes me a bad person. Although I know it doesn’t, it still is very devastating. I needed to let this out.
Lied about number of past sex partners
I lied to my boyfriend saying I had slept with 3 people but I have really slept with 5. The 2 people I am ashamed of and haven’t talked to for ages so I don’t really feel as though it should matter, though I’m still scared.
Lied to my boyfriend about being raped
I lied to my boyfriend and said I was raped when I wasn’t.
Kissed a boy
I kissed a boy while I was on vacation. It meant NOTHING to me but I still feel absolutely horrible about it :(
I am sorry about the past
I am sorry i lied to you all those times. Everything would have been fine had I thought with a clear head. However I didn’t and you found out about it. I am so sorry. Always will be. It’s all in the past now though, all of it. I look forward to a bright future, hopefully with you.
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