Made a Mistake Secrets

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Lost my true love through lies

Sunday, 14 November 2010

Hmmm where do I start from..I’m miserable, complicated :-( long story of my life. In 2005 I met the love of my life I have never felt this way in my life he makes me so happy, I think about him everyday. We were in a long distance relationship for 18months, then he broke up with me on the phone when he was posted to China in late 2006, saying you’re too good for me etc... He moved on I tried too, then a month after our break up my younger sister passed away, I was destroyed, heartbroken, depress, you name it I could not function so I decided to relocate to the States as a student—then we started talking as friends I don’t know if he want us back I can only speak for myself. I never moved on but was afraid to tell him not sure if I could face rejection from him. So we kept talking as friend via email and text. In 2008 I need to change my immigration status or leave the country after school so I got married to a us citizen. In 2010 I and my ex-boyfriend started talking about trying to get together as he has been posted to my country—I still love this man so we saw each other in sept this year after 3years—we went on 2weeks vacation it was the best time i have had since 2006 it was great!! I still have same feelings for him as I did from the beginning, he never talks about he’s emotional feelings for me and that worries me a lot, I’m did not want to get hurt again so I finally i thought i should let me know my feelings for him so i finally told him in person I’ve never stopped loving him, I miss him etc...he says nothing back, but you’re special to me, so I did not feel confident or comfortable enough to tell him what I’ve done and why I did it, and that I’ve been living with secrets all this while. Few days after He Saw my ID with a different name and asked why the name change i told him i got married for my stay in the states but briefly we did not really talk much about it cause he knew lots of person does that and I lied that I don’t even know the person that well, when I did. Was afraid to tell him the whole story. After our holidays together he went back to work and I came back to the states. At this point we started talking about living together for few months to see if we can work out our relationship, my secret was killing me but I was scared he would not understand or want to have anything to do with me at all i was worried i am gonna loose him again, 3weeks ago my husband found out that I’ve been planing on moving back with my ex-boyfriend, he knows that I’m still in love with him he asked me and i told him the truth yes! I was heartbroken wanting to know why i cannot love him, he has always tried to make me happy and does everything to show me his love for me but all I still think of is my ex-boyfriend—so my husband sent my ex an email telling him about us that I’m his wife etc... And now my ex-boyfriend doesn’t want to have anything to do with the situation and said goodbye and good luck. I’m getting a divorce from my husband not just because of my ex-boyfriend but cause it is the right thing to do—but I want my ex-boyfriend back I don’t know if I can make it knowing that he’s moved on with someone else that will kill me, I think if he doesn’t want me back then he had never cared about me, because we never talked about other people in our lives even when we were just friends. I know I was wrong not telling tell about my life in the states but he has a lot he’s not telling me too and I could/will never find out, even if I do I will not be upset.

Love gone wrong

Wednesday, 25 August 2010

I am in love with someone who, comes to find out, is cheating on someone else with me. They lied to me about their name and who knows what else. I am heartbroken.

kissed coworker cant tell

Saturday, 21 August 2010

I kissed my coworker and can’t tell my husband because I’ve had many opportunities to tell him that I did not take. To tell him now would kill his trust in me, hurt him and make our lives more awkward. I really love him and can’t stand to keep this secret, but I feel like telling him would be worse!

Hiding financial problems from my bf

Saturday, 21 August 2010

I’m taking a semester off of college to work because I don’t have the money for it. Problem is, I haven’t told my boyfriend. We’re in a Long Distance Relationship and I don’t want him to think less of me. So I haven’t said anything. :P

My affair with a married man troubles me

Friday, 20 August 2010

A guy from work and myself had an affair a little while ago. He made the moves, i had just come out of a long relationship. I am young and much younger than him. I knew he was married. It is out of character for me. It ended after 6 months when I started dating properly, which he pushed me to do. He was open about his home life and what our relationship was. I fell for him. It’s been over 12 months, and I cant stop thinking about him. I see him at work everyday. He has started seeing another girl from work, secretly but its beginning to show, and it is driving me crazy. They work the same hours and are always hanging out together. I dream about them having a relationship. His wife has no idea, he is a serial cheat. I just cant stop thinking about him. But I know I don’t want to be with him, because he is a cheating lying husband. I cant leave my job but need to, because of this. What do I do?

I kissed my best friend

Monday, 02 August 2010

I woke up next to my best female friend while my girlfriend was away. We were touching each other, she was moaning... we kissed and kept touching. We did this a few more times.

I have hurt the feelings of the friend and I am a bit worried this secret will come out and crush my girlfriend.

I dated a compulsive liar for ten years

Thursday, 29 July 2010

My secret is that I dated a compulsive liar for ten years. Although I didn’t know it at the time she lied right from our first conversation. She told me that her boyfriend died in a motorcycle accident 18 month before we meet. Then as time went on it changed from motorcycle to car accident. (That put up a red flag). Then she said it was a low speed accident and they never found the body but she is 100% sure he is dead.

To get the attention off him she started to fake serious illnesses. She has had two level 5 brain aneurysms. Three near fatal blood clots and two separate cases of cancer. I know it looks like I am the village idiot for buying her lies. But, I loved her and I wanted to be with her during these ordeals. I see now that the illnesses were her way of keeping me around.

There’s more. She lived with her sister and her sister’s four children. I always noticed she paid extra attention to two of them. yes, you guessed it. She lied about not having kids. Those two were hers. Amazing.

Over the years I would ask her about her about things I thought were strange. Her response was always the same. She would belittle for "not trusting her". She played the victim.

The end came when I finally picked up the phone and called her dead HUSBAND (not boyfriend) and he told me everything.

When I confronted her her exact words were, "Liar!, Go to Hell!. How ironic I am called the liar. Liars are what the are. liars. The relationship is finally over. I feel bad about it because of the feelings I had for her.

My advise to others: Follow your gut, where there is smoke there is fire. Don’t lie to yourself. Move on and don’t wait for an apology because it’s not coming.

Visited a topless bar

Friday, 21 May 2010

I was alone one night a girlfriend was out of town. I had visited a few bars and a local topless bar. I got there and there was this on girl that I was so hot I couldn’t help myself but get a lap dance. Seems harmless enough right, well as she was doing her dance she started rubbing her body on me. I got really turned on and started to get excited. Long story short, I got too excited..... I have since not forgotten about it. How would I ever tell? I don’t know how she would react. So what do I do? I guess writing this down is supposed to help, so we will see how it works out.

Girl friend is paying for my education...

Thursday, 29 April 2010

My girlfriend has been paying for my schooling for the past two quarters. Lately, I have suffered from depression and have almost completely stopped going. I attend school maybe two or three of the five days I am enrolled for. We do not live together so I am able to lie to her and tell her I attended class. I want to stop lying to her about it, but I don’t know how to come out and tell her I have missed almost half of my classes.

My child may not be my husband’s

Tuesday, 17 November 2009

I had a threesome twice on two different occasions, and I am not sure if my child is from that experience. I was a newlywed but had been with my husband before marriage for 10 years and now I am terrified that my child is not his. He knows of the affair and the possibility, but his family does not. I don’t know what to do and if I can keep this up any longer.

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