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Made a Mistake Secrets
I’ve done something I shouldn’t have.
I came close to cheating
I recently had a girls night out with a friend who is about to get married. Her fiance and my boyfriend of over four years were spending the evening at a bachelor party in Atlantic City. There evening was going to be filled with strippers and clubs. We decided to go out and have a girls night. She immediately declared our mission was to have boys hit on us all night. To make a long story short, after many beverages, men were constantly hitting on us. A guy I encountered at the gym proceded to flirt with me all night and was feeding me an enourmous amount of compliments. I flirted right back but did tell him early on that I had a boyfriend. At the end of the night they invited us back for afterhours, we decided to go. Nothing happened, the guy did put his arm around me a few times but nothing else. He asked to kiss me, but I didn’t. My friend on the other hand (who is getting married), was a bit over the top with the flirting and even wanted to go in the guy’s bedroom. I pretty much dragged her out of there. I am just feeling really guilty for going there, nothing happened and I was upfront about my boyfriend. I just know it wasn’t appropriate. I put myself and my relationship in the wrong place, luckily with impaired judgement it didn’t go to far. Just feeling bad about my poor choice, and I know that this is one of those things I should let go but I am having trouble doing it.
Online love and lying
For the first time ever, I feel loved. I know this love is real and true.
I met this wonderful man online. I lied to him for months about myself. I was terrified to confess. Fear ripped me apart. I was afraid he would not accept the real me, but I hoped our love was strong enough to deal with it, to find a way to make things work.
He has lost trust in me, and feels there is no way to rebuild trust. I never listened to the things others told me about him, I believed in our love. He has ‘given up’ on us, but I cannot let go.
I regret not being truthful once the feelings began to develop between us. I regret this more than anything in my entire life. I never intended to hurt him. I know love isn’t enough, but it is a start. I beg him not to throw it all away. It is totally my own fault. It hurts more knowing that I have hurt him than it does to lose him.
I have hurt the only man who ever loved me....
I cheated and I lied to his girlfriend
The only guy that I thought I ever loved called me last year out of the blue after having not talked to me for a couple years. We hung out several times, and one night I got drunk and we had oral sex.
I found out about a month later that he’s had a girlfriend for over a year, and wanted to marry her. He ditched me, and denied that any of this happened. He also told me that he "hoped I got HIV and died."
I started to panic, so I told him that I’d tell his girlfriend that the whole thing was a lie if he would take a Home Access HIV Test and let me call in for the results. So he did, and I "confessed" to his girlfriend.
I feel horrible about it. She is still with him to this day, and he might cheat on her again. I know he’s a pathological liar, and I really feel like he’ll do this thing over and over again.
The sad thing is I’m a liar now too. I know what happened, and I denied it because I was scared and selfish.
I cheated on him with his best friend
I’m afraid of commitment. I lost the love of my life because I cheated on him with his best friend. I was extremely intoxicated- I know its a lousy excuse. It was a long distance relationship and I missed him.
I sent my husband to prison
I have known my husband for 10 years—been married to him for 6 and we have 2 children. 4 years out of these 10 he spent in prison. I called the police on him one day because I was mad at him and I told them about something he had done, knowing it would land him in jail. This was over 5 years ago and to this day he still doesn’t know it was me that led the police to him. We are divorced now and have tried to work things out a few times, but our timing is always off. If it’s not one thing, it’s another. We love each other, but I guess it isn’t enough. Second, I had cheated on him with 8 guys while he was in prison and... I got pregnant by one of those guys (but had an abortion). He doesn’t know ANY of this at all. I lie to him about a lot of things, even simple things not worth lying about. Just to make myself "look good" in his eyes. I really love this man and we both want to make a fresh clean start. I don’t want to tell him any of this because I know for sure we won’t get back together. But then I do, because I can go back into our relationship clear minded and make a clean fresh start.
I am afraid of love
I am in a relationship with a guy in The Navy. I broke off my relationship with someone else to be with him. I never was over my ex completely, now he’s moved on to some really odd girl, not even his type. She’s not as pretty as me by any means. My ex moved across the country with another part of his family. My reasoning for breaking up with him is the fact that he’s a pathological liar. Now it makes me jealous to see him kiss this girl and hold her in photos... He seems so much happier now and gives her great respect he never gave me. He gives her nicknames, hugs her kisses her, isn’t ashamed of her; Even though she is really ugly and heavy set. Not that being heavy set is ugly, but I’m very pretty... and I know that. But I did everything he could want, gave him anything he wanted, sexually and romantically pleased him. Now I find myself unable to commit to anyone, I’m attracted to people I can’t have, because I’m afraid of love.
Needed the money
My husband paid off my car. And I went out and got a title loan on it, my husband doesn’t know about it. I lost my job 2 weeks ago and I am afraid it will be repossessed.
I cheated on my boyfriend of 6 years
I cheated on my loving boyfriend of 6 years I feel a lot of guilt. I have surprised myself as I never knew I was capable of doing such a thing. I’ve always done the right thing in life and tend to avoid these situations but I did get caught up in the moment and let it get too far. I am afraid I’ve messed every thing up. I am unsure about who I want to be with what I want to do in life. Where do I go? I am so confused I really just feel like disappearing and starting again but I don’t know if I can forgive myself as no matter what decision I make I am hurting someone. It was never my intention to hurt anyone. I always try to help people and make them feel good about themselves and now I’ve done this and I don’t know why. I am the one people turn to for answers. And now I don’t understand my own feelings and I am the one struggling to find answers. I feel like I am them most horrible person in the world right now. I know people have done a lot worse but I hate myself for hurting those I love.
I hid financial problems from my wife
What I kept secret from my beloved wife of 4 years are 99% financial. She allowed me to freely handle our money and pay our bills. She trusted me implicitly. I got behind over and over again, because of my consulting work which came up short due to several clients who did not pay their bills to me. Instead of bringing my wife in on this I hid it so she would not be disappointed in me and to keep her feeling all is okay because she gets sooo stressed about potentially late paid bills. It became harder and harder, covering it all up. It went from bad to disastrous. She is a loving kind person who has given me the benefit of the doubt over and over again. Now she does not trust me and I have ruined our credit, hers and she had perfect credit. She is talking about leaving me, and I am in the process of getting another job paying very well, but a few glitches in the process has delayed it and she does not believe that I am telling her the truth. M y work involves sensitive issues. It is hard to give her the evidence right now. I feel that I am losing her despite the fact that I know she loves me and I desperately love her! I am spinning around like a top not knowing where I will fall and end up with her and everything in my life. I want things to come out but they are serious and I don’t know if it will be the icing on the cake and then out the door she goes. I am working each day like an alcoholic to stop hiding, covering up and lying about things that just creates more and more problems. Does anyone out there have any advice for me? I feel like a drug addict with the lying. I don’t cheat with another person; I don’t drink, do drugs or gamble. I don’t buy things for myself. I am just over my head and I need a way to get out, the right way!!
I am cheating on my boyfriend
I have been cheating on my boyfriend for several months with my ex-boyfriend. Every time it happens I feel horrible guilt and anxiety about it and I tell my ex that we have to stop. I know we still care for each other but we had our chance and he blew it and now I have feelings for someone else. I know that I have this weakness for my ex and can’t seem to control myself when I am around him. I want so much to tell my boyfriend that I let this happen with my ex- his forgiveness would be so relieving but I do not want to hurt him or make him feel less than or inadequate. What I did is not about him, it is about unresolved feelings for my ex. I don’t want to tell him, but I am terrified that it is the wrong thing to do and that I am destroying the relationship instead of protecting from my mistake. I really just want to protect his love for me, his trust because my heart is true; it was my body and my mind that strayed. I do not want to loose him and I would take back what I have done if I could.
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