Made a Mistake Secrets

I’ve done something I shouldn’t have.

I had an affair with my wife’s friend

Wednesday, 05 July 2006

After my marriage started falling apart, I had an affair with my wife’s best friend for over a year. At the time, we were both married, although she divorced during the affair. She started dating other people once she was single, and the affair ended rather badly.

Credit card debt

Wednesday, 22 March 2006

I have about $10,000.00 in credit card debt that is in my name that my husband does not know about. I have three children and our income is simply not enough to support our lifestyle. I got a credit card and ran it up in about 2 years buying school stuff, paying bills on it and helping out with vacation. I feel so bad for hiding it but I know that if I tell him he will kill me or never trust me again. I keep the payments up and hope to have it paid off in about five years. It drives me crazy some days just the guilt of it all. Your website has helped me deal with this a little bit although its still hard.

Secret baby

Monday, 13 February 2006

I cheated on my boyfriend of six years. I got pregnant and hid it from everyone until I was seven months along. I finally told my doctor who arranged for me to leave the state and give the child up for adoption. My boyfriend eventually joined me in the new state never having known about the pregnancy or adoption. When he asked me why my stomache was hard, I told him that I had a hemorhage or an ulcer. I eventually felt terrible about the whole thing but in my defense, I walked in on him cheating a couple years earlier. That doesn’t justify but I felt like I was getting back at him eventhough he had no clue. My point is—always tell the truth—no matter how you think your partner will react. You could wake up one day without him and wish that you had been honest.

Fear of HIV

Saturday, 04 February 2006

I had protected vaginal sex and unprotected oral sex with a man that was HIV positive. He didn’t tell me until we had had sex several times. I cared very much for him, so we talked and tried to stay together, but subconsciously I was always worried about exposure and contracting it through oral sex and kissing. My tests so far have been negative. I eventually told him that I didn’t want to see him anymore, and he stopped calling me. Since then, I have kept it a secret and have never told the men that I dated. Even though I have men use a condom every time, I feel as if I am lying to them. Thanks for this opportunity to clear my mind about it.

Sex with a stranger

Monday, 12 December 2005

I recently had a night out with some friends. There was one man there that I had never met before. I had no attraction to him what-so-ever. We all had quite a few drinks, and we all went back to one of the friends house to keep drinking after the bar. I passed out on the couch, but I remember glimpses of what happened. I had sex with the guy I had never met before. I didn’t want to, but from what I remember, I didn’t stop it either. I feel so guilty, like I should be put in jail for cheating on my boyfriend. I truly love him with all my heart and I don’t want to hurt him. I feel like I should tell him that it happened, but at the same time, it would only hurt him to find out. I wish I didn’t drink so much, then I know I wouldn’t have done it.

Sleeping with Ex

Thursday, 08 December 2005

My husband and I seperated 2yrs ago. I left because it was a very abusive relationship. My son was only 2wks old when he locked us out of our house. Recently my husband has been deemed fit enough to visit our son on his own without supervision—we decided to be ammicable and try to co-parent. At first he tried to get back together with me and than said he was not ready. We have been sleeping together for several months now. He has been with a girl pretty much since our seperation, who in no way compares to me at ALL. I am not trying to be mean I do not know her and am sure she is nice but, I just don’t understand. I am very happy in my life right now, I don’t think I even want him back. I should stop sleeping with him, I know, but it is comfortable and I am presently single and very busy. So having him around to sleep with fits into my busy life and I do not have to put up with his day to day crap like before.

Inappropriate touch

Sunday, 27 November 2005

I touched my brother in an inappropriate way when we were kids. I never even told my therapist about it and I feel horrible about it to this day. I often wonder if it would make both him and me feel better if I spoke to him about it and apologized but I am so scared of wrecking my family even though i am an adult with kids of my own. Everyone says what a wonderful mother I am but I feel like I can’t be because of that.

Tired of boyfriend

Tuesday, 22 November 2005

I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a few years now. I recently found out he’s been using drugs behind my back. He’s lied to me about it so many times and I feel like a fool for ever trusting him. Now he’s over his problem, but as time goes by I’m finding myself more attracted to other guys. I just don’t know if things can ever be the way they used to be.

Slept with Ex

Wednesday, 09 November 2005

Last night I had sex with my ex-boyfriend even through I have a new love in my life. I vowed never to cheat and it happened.

Caught snooping

Thursday, 20 October 2005

My boyfriend realized that I was snooping through his phone. He confronted me and I lied about it. I didn’t want him to think that I’m insecure, but now he probably thinks I crazy AND insecure.

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