Secrets about infidelity and cheating.
I became the other woman
Wow has my world been turned upside down in the last few weeks. I have been with my husband for 15 years. I met a man, who I though was single because he told me he was. We met online; he said he was a divorced dad of a 12-year old. He said he didn’t have custody of his daughter but had her occasionally, when asked. He told me his wife had frequent boyfriends and that was a real challenge for him due to his daughter being involved. He said he had a male roommate for the last 9 years. We live about 9 hours apart so I had no way of knowing the truth of his living situation. I was completely honest about being married but thinking about leaving my current situation. We spent a lot of time texting, emailing etc. Eventually things became romantic and he asked if we would ever meet in person. We did meet in person and spent two nights together. Amazing. Then several months later we spent one night together, two nights the next month, and then three nights in Fabulous Las Vegas the third month. This entire relationship had gone on for about a year. I had an idea that there was something off a few times but didn’t seem too pry into it. I plugged his last name in Facebook one day and uncovered the truth about him. He had been married the entire time. Very much with his wife and daughter. Never had a roommate. We fell in love. So, now I sit her in love with a man who I thought was someone but turned out to be someone else completely. I was so angry and betrayed. Crushed and still going through a grieving process. I thought maybe there was a chance for us to be together one day, but low and behold he wants to stay with his family, that I knew nothing about. So hard to be in this position. I want to forgive but believe that will take time. I want to tell his wife but am unsure of what that will do. So undecided at this point of how to move forward.
Cheating in multiple formats
I had an affair with a good friend’s partner over four months. Not only that but I saw several other women over the last two years too, although they were more on a one nightstand basis.
Keeping track of my cheating
I cheated on my boyfriend three times with two different people.
Cheating at massage parlors
I have been with my girlfriend for five years in NYC. I have repeatedly cheated on her by going to massage parlors to get a ‘happy ending’ and sometimes full sex, with ‘backpage’ prostitutes. I have a problem, because, I feel like I can not stop myself. My girlfriend is wonderful, and she deserves so much better than me. I also thought I was a better person than this. I have tried on numerous occasions to break up with her without telling her the truth about what I’ve done. However, I am a coward and have never followed through.
Sex with my ex
I am sleeping with my ex-boyfriend and we are both married with kids. We have both tried for years to stay away from each other and after a year of no connection, we spent the most wonderful night together. Now I have to find a way to stay away from him because I want him so badly...and we both know this is wrong.
Chemistry with a married man
I have been having an almost year long affair with a married man. I never thought I would have an affair; the chemistry between us is off the charts. We started off harmlessly flirting then friendly texting that turned to sexting then that turned physical. I feel guilty about it but I can’t seem to stop myself. We see each other 4 to 5 times a week and talk almost every day. I already know it’s going to end one day and I will be hurt but I accepted that risk when I agreed to enter into this.
His porn and my cheating
I cheated on my husband a year ago with an old high school boyfriend (I hated it but like the way he told me I was beautiful). I love my husband with all my heart -- he is my best friend and was so stupid filled with weakness as our marriage felt lost. I ended it felt better for a while until I found out about my husband’s porn addiction and he would do it every morning before work and check out woman all the time and be consumed with sex. I was angry with him but no reason to be because what I did was worse. I need help my guilt is ruining me. I can’t tell him about my affair. I can’t cause him more pain; we are in a good place now except my guilt is consuming me.
Cheating After Less than a Year of Marriage
I have been married for less than a year. I traveled to another country and I met someone who is crazy about me. At first I rejected him but he could not let go. Then we started our secret romance. However, I feel so bad about all this but I do not know how to stop!!!
Heartbroken over my husband’s cheating
I recently found out that the man I have been married to for the last year, and dated 4 years before that, was frequenting single sites and cheated on me twice in the year we have been married. He met both women through the dating sites ... one of the women he had sex with on our anniversary month. All this time I thought my husband had a sexual dysfunction, but he’s been sexting and sending videos of himself masturbating, sending pictures of his penis to other women... all while I have been at work. My trust is forever broken. I don’t know what to do. I love the life we were building together, we bought a house, have a brand new vehicle under both of our names... and while a part of me wants to hand him a divorce on the spot, another part of me wants to see if with a therapist we can perhaps mend our marriage. I don’t understand how the man I love betrayed me in this way. I don’t understand why my attention and my desire for him wasn’t enough. I am seriously heartbroken and I don’t know what I am going to do!
Cheated on my boyfriend yesterday
I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years I cheated on him yesterday. I love him, and I know it was an isolated mistake. It doesn’t feel right to confess and transfer my guilt into his pain, knowing it will never ever happen again. He loves me with all of himself, and I can’t break him. I need to start living my life the way he sees me, with grace and gratitude for everything he’s given me. This does feel very cathartic, and I’m glad I have somewhere to write this out.
My affair helped me realize who I am
I have been having a highly illicit sexual affair with a married man for 5 months. I am married as well. I have realized a few things recently 1) I’m not happy in my relationship anymore 2) I ended my affair amicably last week 3) I am just pretending to be someone I’m not and lastly 4) I am not interested in repairing my marriage. I’ll be moving out soon.
Cheating with my co-worker
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and I cheated on him with a co-worker, 3 times to be exact. My coworker is also in a relationship of 3 years so we both do not want it to get out. Only he and I know what we've done but the guilt is just eating away at me. In private, I cry to myself because I'm hurting myself but around everyone, I'm always smiling. We both agreed that we have the willpower to stop. I'm hoping that I will be able to do it, but there is still that part of me that doesn't want to stop. I'm stuck in a hole and I don't know how to get out.
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