Secrets about infidelity and cheating.
I am a serial cheater
I am a serial cheater. I’ve cheated on every partner I’ve had with either a future or past partner. I would be devastated if I were cheated on. For the first time I feel regret for the things I’ve done.
Having an affair with the neighbor
I am married with two beautiful children. My husband is the best thing that has ever happened to me, yet I cannot help but think about another man. Not only is he my friends husband but he also lives next door. The affair is too convenient. He is an amazing lover and friend and I just keep telling myself "one more time and then I will end this" but it never does. On one hand I feel bad and on the other I enjoy every minute of it.
One year later—still feel awful about cheating
I feel awful because I cheated on my husband with his best friend, who is also married. The thing is I am not even attracted to him it just happened because my hubby and I were having problems and I was miserable and felt unappreciated, etc but still it’s no excuse. The affair consisted of a failed attempt at sex once, oral sex twice and mostly kissing. I feel absolutely horrible. My hubby was suspicious but never really believed I would cheat on him with his best friend. I feel disgusting even though this happened a year ago and I have nothing to do with his best friend anymore, and I have prayed to God to make me a better wife and I am doing everything I can to make up for my horrible mistakes. I deeply love my husband and he is a wonderful man and I just want to get rid of these awful feelings. If anyone is thinking of cheating, please please don’t do this... you will regret it even if you don’t get caught.
Repeatedly cheat on my wonderful husband
I have a wonderful husband who I met when I was 16 and married almost 4 years ago. We split up a couple of times in our early twenties, always because of me as I found myself attracted to other guys and being unfaithful. I never told him that I did sleep with anyone else as I was too scared of his reaction—he is honestly the most loyal man in the world, so instead told him that I needed time apart as we had been together for so long.
Since we have been married the same problems keep occuring. After being married for only 3 months I was at a work conference overseas and one of the Directors who was very attractive ended up paying me lots of attention and after quite a few drinks we slept together. The sense of guilt I felt was terrible and I felt sick and annoyed that this man had pursued me so hard even though he knew I was newly married and he was also with a 2month year old child. However I accept that it takes 2 to tango and I could have said no. Nothing happened with him for about a year and then we found oursleves out again one night and I wanted him to pay me attention as I have to say I enjoy getting male attention. We ended up spending the night together and embarked upon a very sproadic physical relationship for the next year, normally happening when a lot of alcohol was involved. I have since then moved overseas but was unfaithful with another guy over the weekend when my husband was away. The two problems are that I enjoy the attention and the thrill of the sexual encounter.
I am married to an incredible man who many women would love to be married to. I often think he deserves a whole lot better than me and I should tell him the truth. Maybe I am just one of these people that isn’t cut out for marriage and to be totally monogomous. I can’t seem to say no to a good-looking guy paying me attention after a few drinks if my husband is not with me and if I know there is no danger of him finding out. I almost feel I have a second personality though as when I am with my husband I am loyal, caring and a passionate and loving wife to him. I guess it is all about control and not putting myself in these tempting situations but I would be lying if I said I didn’t love the thrill and excitement of a sexual encounter.
I finally ended my affair
Update: I wrote about ending an off-and-on-again affair/friendship of 20 years back in December 2008. I have had no contact with the ex-cheater-lover, though I still think of him at times (and remind myself of his bad qualities, not the fun ones). I have been staying busy with traveling with hubby and kids and other wholesome fun activities. I feel so much better about myself, stronger for having no contact and even closer and happier with my wonderful husband. I have directed my loving and flirty energy to my husband instead of the Player and it has been great! So just a reminder to think long and hard before falling for flattery and a good time at the expense of your self-esteem: Don’t do it!!!
Feeling conflicted over an emotional affair
I have been having an emotional relationship for over a year with a married man whom I once dated in high school, and have not physically seen in over 30 years. We have many email accounts, and talk on the phone multiple times in a day or week. I am also married. My spouse knows about this relationship and that I feel I am in love with the other man. He is angry and hurt and I am not certain about what steps to take next. My spouse cheated after we had been married several years. He claims that once it ended he has not done it again. I don’t believe that he is honest about what happened or if I can trust him again. My lover is an orthodox Jew (I am not) and claims to be seeking both religious and civil divorces from his wife, and that she is aware of his plans. He has asked me to marry him, and says that I am the love of his life. Yet, because he purports to be religious and is married, I do not believe him. His spouse does not know about me. I have never cheated, in over 25 years of marriage, until this relationship.
I cheated on my husband with my ex
I am currently cheating on my husband with my ex boyfriend. My ex and I met when I was 14 and it was love at first sight! We were together for nearly 2.5 years when my mom moved us far away because of her divorce. I was devastated! Eventually because of circumstances beyond both of our control we lost contact with each other and never saw each other again and believe me... we looked for each other. I finally just settled and got married to my husband. My husband was great when we were first married and then he went through a lot of accidents and times where he was horrible to me. He has always put himself first. Well, my ex decided to look for me again and he has been in the picture for over 6 years off and on. We would talk through the internet and email but nothing serious but I have always thought of him. He married 3 times and is now divorced. We just recently reconnected again and I had to tell him how much he meant to me. I went down to see him recently and it was like nothing had ever changed. I know that in my heart I have always loved him and he was the one who got away! One thing led to another and I ended up cheating on my husband. I have made the decision to leave my husband but I can’t bring myself to tell him that I hurt him. It’s killing me. We also have 4 children together so this isn’t easy. My ex told me that he has never stopped looking for me or loving me and I feel the same. He wants to have a life together with me. We know that the way we went about this is wrong but we can no longer be apart. We feel we are soulmates. I just have to live with the guilt of cheating.
Having a sexual affair with my boss
I have been working at my current job for about 6 years. I was attracted to my boss from a few months after I began here but never acted on it because I am married. After about 2 years, and dealing with all the sexual tension from being attracted to him, he struck up a conversation that ended up with us sleeping together. This was about 4 years ago and since then, we’ve slept together about 10 times. It’s not a love affair, since as I said I am married and he is now married also with 2 kids. I’m just very drawn to him sexually and find it very hard to say no whenever he makes overtures. I have to admit I am only confusing myself because despite my participating in this situation, which seems to be purely physical, I fight with thinking I should have feelings of love towards him because I am sharing my body with him, but also knowing that I do love my husband and he seems to love his wife. I guess a part of me kind of wishes he would want more from me emotionally while I also know that an attachment like that would only complicate both of our lives even more.
I want my wfie to have an affair
I secretly want my wife to have an affair. I’m turned on by the thought of it and think about it all the time.
I am in love with two men
I am head over heels for husband of 5 years. He sweet, kind, handsome and I don’t deserve him... not in the least. He is the perfect man... yet I yearn for someone else...for an illusion.
Perhaps I married too young, perhaps I love only what I can’t have... or perhaps it is that I choose a life for which I can never be truly fulfilled.
Over a year ago I began an affair with a MM... I fell in love with him. Head over heels -- I want to have his children... can’t live without you zazazoo.
The affair has ended several times... has devastated our marriages... and now I want him... yearn for him... and yet I am convinced the affection is unrequited. When I told him I had to end the affair because I valued the honesty of our friendship too much; and that he mattered... he agreed that it was best to end it for both our sakes.
He acted so cold, so remote and so distant... and demanded that I never email him or call him again.
I am devastated... but know I got exactly what I deserved.
In the end ... the only person that got what the wanted was the MM... and now... I am alone.
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