Secrets about infidelity and cheating.
I am falling in love with my ex-teacher
I think I am falling for my ex-teacher. It was instant chemistry for the both of us!
A few months later, I accused my husband of 8 years of cheating (I found several text msgs). I used the accusations to leave my husband for a few days. I could not wait to see my ex-teacher and we made love. Now I am trying to salvage my marriage, but I can’t get my new friend out of my mind.
I am thinking of creative ways to see him.
My cheating is self destructive
Okay, I cheated on my boyfriend. I feel so awful now I don’t know what to do. I am not in a great state of mind now. I am a bulimic, have been for over 7 years and my boyfriend has helped me quit but after this I’m scared I won’t be able to quit due to the guilt. I threw up again tonight while he is at work. I feel like I am spiraling out of control. We have been dating for 7 months and we moved in together the first month. Things haven’t been going great. We are constantly arguing and fighting, but we love each other. Anyway I used to be very sexually promiscuous… in a way that wasn’t fun or even what I wanted. It was self-destructive. I know that my boyfriend has been hurt in the worst way by his ex-wife. She cheated on him and that’s why they split. So I told myself that I don’t want to hurt him. The worst part is that before I did it I was on the phone with my boyfriend saying that I don’t want to be with anyone else. We were about to break up and I asked him if he wanted to work on it and he didn’t say yes so I was upset, full of anxiety and had this compulsion to just go through with the empty sex some guy was offering me. It was the most shallow horrible sex because I don’t even like the guy. It’s like I wanted to do it so that I could feel bad and have a reason to end the relationship and have it be my fault to avoid the whole breakup thing. It was sabotage of a relationship with a man I love. I feel so bad I burned myself with my curling iron because it hurts so bad. I don’t know if I should tell... because I then he’ll leave me forever... won’t even be a friend. But I can’t keep it inside. It’s the worst feeling in the world. There is no excuse for cheating. He is a good person and I can’t hardly look at him. I don’t know what to do. I can’t fully be with him or work on our relationship with this awful thing I’ve done.
Infidelity has ruined a friendship
My friend has been cheating on her husband. She told me what she has been doing. Her husband wanted another baby and she was still sleeping with her lover as well. She didn’t care who the child belonged to.
I have hated myself for knowing what has been going on and having to look her husband in the eye. I had to act all happy when the baby was born and I came home feeling like the worst person in the world.
She has lied about the affair to her hubby and he has chosen to believe her. I can barely look at her anymore.
I want to tell the husband, but I can’t betray her trust.
I have decided to end the friendship and I know she will tell lies about me to her husband and family to cover herself.
If you are cheating and lying, keep it to yourself or tell all on here. Please don’t involve other people.
Know I am going to cheat on my husband
I haven’t sleep with him yet but I will soon. I am a teacher and I met one of my student’s parents who lives out of town. I instantly became attracted to him. And he’s attracted to me. We have been talking on the phone for about a week and we both know that we want more that sex from each other. He has told me that he likes me to the point where he wants a relationship. I can’t get him off my mind. I really can’t wait until we do have sex. I love my husband but it’s something about this man that I can’t get off mind. I will cheat on my husband with this man. I just hope that I don’t fall for him and lose my husband. Cause I don’t want to lose him or get caught.
I am cheating with my ex-girlfriend
I am cheating on my current girlfriend on a regular basis. I’m cheating on her with my ex-girlfriend. I didn’t want things to go so far, but I haven’t been able to resist the temptation of easy sex.
I regret cheating on my wife
We are both married, but not to each other. We both worked evening shifts and eventually became "more than friends." I had a suspicion she liked me but didn’t know for sure because her signals weren’t always clear. Then one evening I called her into my office to watch a youtube video clip about an illusionist who was able to make people levitate on thin air. While watching with her I noticed she didn’t seem focused on the video (neither was I). She seem to breath heavy and had difficulty in a normal conversation. I sensed she was nervous being next to me, but wasn’t sure because this was the first time we sat so close to each other. To make a long story short, I took the bold move and kissed her when she leaned in my direction. She didn’t pull away or seem to object. I kissed her a second time and this time she started to just "give in" to the passion of the moment, though only brief. She did seem uncomfortable, but only because we were both still at our workplace. The following weekend she agreed to a discrete "meeting place." She showed up and we both made love together in such a way we both hadn’t experienced in a very long time. In a three week period we had sex twice. But shortly thereafter she slowly retreated, probably because of guilt. She’s religious and must have felt very bothered for cheating. For the months to follow she would come up with convenient excuses to avoid private talks with me. Now 8 months later, we feel like total strangers to each other. I really feel like a dirt-ball for having cheated on my wife and for seemingly taking advantage of a close co-worker friend. I don’t feel proud with any of this. Perhaps someone else contemplating on the same kind of illicit adventure should think twice before taking the plunge. I wish I had.
I cheated on my husband, but learned a lesson
I had an emotional and sometimes physical affair with a man for 20 years, though I have been with my now-husband for 24 years. I have the best husband in the world, but the other man came on to me and I was so flattered and excited by the attention as I found him attractive and with a great sense of humor. When he took a job in another country, I even went to visit him as we were supposedly "just friends" to the outside world. I did notice he was getting other women’s phone numbers and even took me on a date with another woman, but tried to ignore this behavior.
Things got a little rocky with my husband, but we worked it out, he never confronted me, never really knew how close I was to the OG and we married and I was done with the other guy (OG). Then OG would visit as a friend every year or 2 when he was in USA, even after he married and had 2 kids. I was still attracted to him, but didn’t act on it because of great love for my husband and kids.
Then I cannot even remember exactly how, but OG seduced me again and we started up with a secret email account and lots of flirty emails and me supporting him in his bad marriage, etc. Still my husband knows nothing (thank God!). Even met OG a few times for a couple days together. Recently, he brought his kids to visit us (wife home) and declared he loved me. I went to a big party for his 50th B-day and had a great time.
BUT, meanwhile, I knew he was seeing other women or at least trying to; always emailing, texting, etc. Then I read some of his mail and this was confirmed. He was meeting an old GF when he could and flirting and more with others. Still I tried to believe it was ME he always loved all this time, even though he didn’t seem to care that I felt bad about my husband or that it hurt me that he saw other women. Never much thought to his wife, since she was supposedly not nice, was Ok for him to do what he wanted, lie to her, she had no clue, etc. I knew her from family trips and she IS kind of mean and cold, but still no excuse!
I was so blinded by flattery/lust that I didn’t see things clearly until now: I went over (another country, my Mom’s Getaway weekend at a spa at same time) and decided to try to see things more realistically. I noticed his emailing and texting and also I commented about the old GF and he didn’t deny he is in touch with her. I noticed that his conversation and mind seemed to center on women all the time; either mentioning them, asking me about old friends (female, or saying he liked this on or that one). Then at dinner in a bar one nigh his wife mentioned his "little affair" with someone else, which he denied and it was the final wake-up call! It also scared me, because seemed like he is getting out of control and not keeping his secrets so well anymore, which could affect me and my family! Scary! Like what if the wife wakes up to what’s going on and hacks into his email and there I am (Old family friend!?!) Horror!
So I left after the party (last week) after telling him I don’t care about him anymore. I know he hates confrontation, so I will not hear from him again, though he did send a PC email that we can still get the families together as friends, right? I didn’t reply to that (NO NO NO!). He could possibly call, but I am going to try hard to remain strong and cold to him.
I feel really shitty having betrayed my husband for this A**h*** and cannot believe all the time and energy and love and pain I invested in him. The sex wasn’t even that great. SO why and how this happened is still a bit of a mystery to me, as I am not now nor have I ever really looked at other men since meeting my husband. I think I’ll miss the excitement and the laughter, but I am going to be strong and not place myself in any tempting situation with this man again. I also know I will not enter into an illicit affair ever again!
I keep cheating on my husband
I have been cheating on my husband for 4.5 years with 3 different men, each want think they are the only man in my life. I love my husband, but can’t afford to divorce or put my children through the pain and suffering.
I’m newly married and cheating on my husband
I’m married and after months of flirting via phone conversations and text messages with another man I am overwhelmingly attracted to, we finally had sex. It was fast and brief, but fantastic. I want more. I can’t stop thinking about this other guy.
I still feel guilty about cheating
I was unfaithful to my husband 10 years ago, and I am wracked with guilt. I feel sick to my stomach. I can’t forget the pain I caused. We have been divorced for years and I still feel tremendous guilt.
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