Secrets about infidelity and cheating.
No longer feel loved by my husband
I have been married for almost five years now. I am cheating on my husband with the man that played music at our reception. I love my husband, but he’s not the man I fell in love with. He has changed dramatically, and this man is filling the places that my husband’s not. He shows so much attention towards me. He holds me, kisses me, and just makes me feel "loved." My husband doesn’t do that anymore. I do believe that I’ve fallen in love with my lover, but I have children with my husband. Right now, I believe my children and my finances are the only reasons why I’m still here.
I have cheated a lot, partly due to revenge
I have been married for 6 years now, and I’ve cheated on my wife with 11 different women. I cheated on her 2 months after we got married. The first time I ever cheated it made me sick to my stomach. I thought that it was what I wanted but it wasn’t. After a while I found myself bored with our sex life. Sometimes I can make it good but she has so many insecurities that sex is more like an obstacle to overcome than something to enjoy with someone you love. Anyway, I found out last year that she has also cheated on me. This devastated me. All I can do now is picture her with someone else having sex, this fuels me to go on a cheating rampage. I now have sex with other women to make me feel better about what she has done. This is like therapy to me, when I start to think about what she has done, I just re-focus my thoughts on all the women I have slept with since I said "I do."
I am sleeping with a married man
I am sleeping with a married man; he used an alias, but I know his real name. I suspect he knows I know his real name, but he has never confessed to using an alias. And I will never ask outright because I understand why he did it.
I want to cheat on my husband
I want to cheat on my husband. Only once. Just to see how it feels.
Distraught husband knows the truth
I know you slept with him.
Why won’t you admit it to me?
Too many years together for you to think I don’t know what you are capable of.
159 – your distraught husband
I regret cheating on my husband
To my husband: I did sleep with him. I am so sorry. I only loved you at the time. I don’t know what I was thinking. Please forgive me.
I am having an affair with my boss
I am dating my boss who is married. I am only 22 years old and this is my first real job. He is 35 and hired me on the spot, which threw up a red flag for me immediately. When I denied the job he called and asked me to come meet him and discuss why I should take the job. I am doing extremely well, and he was right about me being great for the job. Now we are lovers and he is married. He has recently accepted a promotion as GM and has to move two states away. He says he is going to live alone. He has a baby with his wife and I can’t image that they won’t live together. It is making me sick! I want to stop seeing him, but he makes me so happy and has convinced me that he loves me. We ran into our boss or the GM this weekend, and I am scared to face work tomorrow. I know I am great at what I do and don’t want to quite or lose my job. I also want him to be successful. I am living a lie and cannot stand it. I have been lying to my parents and family. I am probably lying to myself that this relationship will work out! It is hard to try to end a relationship with your boss, when he claims to love you and sends you sweet messages constantly and spends every possible moment he can with you, even though he is married with a baby at home. It all seems so wrong and cliche. This situation is breaking all my values and moral that I thought existed within myself. I know that the situation will not end well. He is moving in a month, and either I will move with him or stay.
I keep cheating with the same guy
It all started when I was 20 years old. I was in a long term relationship with my boyfriend whom was 3 years older than me. I felt like I was losing him, and I felt alone because I had moved out here from another state. One night his younger brother slept in the same bed as me. I was wearing a small tank top and long pj pants. Well, his brother had the nerve to fondle me. I woke up and I was in shock and thought what the hell!! It was his brother!
Two weeks passed by and the next encounter I seduced him. I was young and foolish at the time. We had sex in our apartment. It went on for 2 years while I was still dating his older brother. I didn’t think anything of it nor did I think of the future.
I finally ended the relationship with the older brother and went on my own way. I dated a lot and had many sexual partners, one being the younger brother. He insisted that we continue having sex because it was fun.
I started feeling bad and asked him not to contact me because the guilt was setting in. I lasted a long time in not talking to him until recently.
We talked again and talked about our crazy times that we had sex. He still seems to be interested in me and tells me he loves me. I honestly don’t have anything in my heart for him that would make me fall in love or want to marry the guy. In fact, I am now engaged to someone else. Well our conversations were becoming weekly then daily. We ended up getting drunk together and I had sex with him. I feel horrible because I don’t want to repeat that behavior. I cannot tell my fiancé of 5 years, or else he will leave me. I don’t know what to do.
These kinds of secrets can really take a toll on a person. I currently feel like an evil person and not worthy. I have started going to church and have prayed with all my might to stop and to repent. I just don’t know how to tell his guy without hurting his feelings or causing him to hate me.
Strong desire to cheat on my girlfriend
I have been dating my girlfriend for close to three years and we have just moved in together. She is a really wonderful person. She’s nice, fun, intelligent, beautiful, is wonderful with babies and small children, on a path for a successful life, and I feel she genuinely loves me for who I am. I care a lot about her and her feelings, but I have trouble with the desire to cheat on her when a spontaneous opportunity arises. I have never cheated on her, but whenever I am out at a bar and an attractive woman comes on to me, I am overcome with lust for whoever it may be, but I do not act on my feelings. But the desire to have a brief, non-emotional fling with another woman is tormenting me. The temptation I face sometimes forces me to question my ability to not cheat on my wonderful girlfriend in some way, i.e. flirting, touching, kissing, or even sex.
Having a sexual affair
I am cheating on my husband of 8 years. The other man is married and sexy. We are having fun. I know it is wrong, but I have no desire to stop. I am not in love with this man and do not plan to fall in love with him. I’m pretty sure he feels the same way. My husband is sweet and caring, but I have absolutely no sexual attraction to him. I would never want to hurt him and I just can’t seem to leave him. I don’t think I want to. We have a child and I don’t think I could make it on my own. The worst part about this affair is that we have agreed to make it an occasional thing and I cannot stop thinking about this man. I keep replaying our meetings in my head over and over. Alas.
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