Secrets about infidelity and cheating.
Created a fake lover to make my husband Jealous
We are in a terrible patch in our marriage, and I was so hurt by some deceptions of my husband’s and hateful things he said about me in emails to family that I actually "made up" a man, a guy at work, a little younger than me (because my husband is ten years older) and successful in an area my husband fancies himself quite adept. I spoke about him as a friend, we "went to lunch" (boy did I feel stupid getting dressed up in front of my husband to meet no one!), spoke with him on the phone when my husband was around, and once even had "him" send an email to my husband, mostly joking about a colleague’s awful writing, a man who was a friend of my husbands.
It’s no longer really a secret because eventually I told my husband (he wasn’t mildly jealous or interested anyway), and told my husband just how pathetic I am to pull a stunt like that just to TRY to get him to notice me, to realize others may find me attractive. It was dumb. I’m basically an honest and faithful person, but I guess I am not above pulling a dumb stunt to try to shift the dynamic of a bad relationship. But the emphasis here is on DUMB.
I still don’t have my husband’s love or attention (yes, he may be having an affair and while that is potentially humiliating in a small town, I have reached the point where I no longer care). I am leaving when the kids are grown, which is not too far off, so I guess my ego can bear his emotional neglect for the sake of the kids having stability until college. I think that stunt was the last stupid attempt I have made to make him responsive. He is schizoid. I had already tried everything else, pleading, seducing, offering concern and sympathy for his withdrawal, badgering, and once even separating (he lied to get me to let him back in the house, which I found out the next year). Truly, we are a pair!
Want my cake and eat it too
As I read all the criteria for why people cheat, I realized that I fit their profile perfectly. I am married to the most wonderful man for well over a decade, have kids and an amazing life. I am very very happy, but I have cheated on my husband and love to blurry the lines with men, straight and gay alike. Its a power thing, its an adventure thing. I rarely feel guilty about any of it because I work hard to have a great relationship with my husband.
I never knew love until I cheated
I never experienced real love until my affair which is 3 years old now. We are both married and I like to think that if he were to divorce I would marry him, but deep inside my heart I know that it would not work because I could not trust him completely. We love each other very much, but he has a weakness for other women. I tend to believe him when he says that I am the only one for him, but sometimes the things he says do not match the things he does. He tells me that he misses me sometimes just before telling me that he cannot see me that day. Sometimes I think that my jealous streak gets the better of me, but a woman’s intuition is a woman’s intuition. I know I should get out of the affair but he is also my good friend. I want a chance for a life with someone I could stay with for the rest of my life. And I know that by staying with this married man, my lover and my friend, I am blowing my chances. I need the courage to cut a beautiful friendship because it should not exist. Sometimes I wish we were found out, but do not know what I would want to do after that. The relationship had caused me more tears than joy, at least it feels that way sometimes, but the joy prevails, it is like nothing else I’ve experienced in the world. Being close to someone, having a soul mate is not a trivial matter to give up, faults and all.
I cheated while I was drunk
I cheated on my girlfriend of 6 months when I was drunk. I’m in a long distance relationship and I barely get to see her. I have such deep guilt because I have very strong feelings for her. I don’t have the guts to tell her because I’m afraid it will ruin us. I am also feeling so guilty because I hate lying to her. I wish I could take it back.
Hate my husband
I have been cheating on my husband of 3 years now for about 6 months. The person I am cheating with is very well known in our small community. It all started when we saw each other at a local bar. We had talked before but this time it was different. I trusted him and knew he would never say anything because he too is married. But now I think I am in love with him. All he would have to do is call and tell me he was getting a divorce and I would too. He has filed for divorce once and his wife moved out, but he went back and now they have kids. He always tells me that he doesn’t think that they will be together forever. Being with him once every couple of weeks makes me so happy. I would rather me with him occasionally then be with my husband everyday. I hate my husband he is such an arrogant ass who has no clue. My husband is so selfish... and my "boyfriend" at least listens to me... I sneak out at night, lie about working late and anything else possible that I have to do to see him. Because quite frankly I love him.
Cheated on my boyfriend
I had a single sexual encounter with a guy from my circle of friends. He is someone I have always been attracted to. We have been friends for as long as my boyfriend and I have been together. This mutual attraction grew until one afternoon we decided to indulge each other. Now, he and his girlfriend have broke up because of this, and she has told most of my other friends. I have to tell my boyfriend, I think he should hear it from me before someone else gets to him. The worst part is that he has no idea that this is coming.
My wife slept with my best friend
This is tough. I happened to find this website and here is something I must get off my chest. I recently learned of an affair my wife had with a trusted friend who is like a brother to me. This affair happened 13 years ago but I just found out through a conversation I heard between my wife and our friend. They obviously were just reminiscing and I want to believe that nothing else has happened since then because we have been living at distance (+-300 miles away) and when we do see our friend with his family we are always together. Keep in mind that we have been married for 21 years and with three children. I feel absolutely mummified is if I am in a trance. I been caring myself as normal otherwise but can’t seem to know how to go about this issue that is seriously bothering me. We have been happily married yet I now feel that our circle of trust has been broken.
I can’t stop cheating on my husband. He loves me and I know that he needs me. I love the attention I get from other men and currently am sleeping with 3 other men besides my husband. I know it sounds sooo slutty but I can’t stop and wonder if I have some sort of sexual addiction. My husband and I have a great sex life... he has gained some weight and it turns me off.
Cheated on my husband
I slept with a colleague of mine. I was really in love with him, but keep telling myself that I should not do it because I am a married woman. He gave me all kinds of stories that he and his wife were having problems—just like I was with my husband. But, then out of the blue he told me that I’m not good enough for him. He cheated on me knowing I was in love with him because he could. He had no real interest in me. He is such a flirt and I am so stupid to think that he ever liked me. I had to leave my job so that I wouldn’t think about him anymore, but now that is all that I can think about. Please help me.
I am having an emotional affair. I am married and so is the other person. I do not think the other person feels the same anymore, this has been going on for several months. I am hurting now. I wish I could stop thinking about this
person. My spouse does not know anything. I do not think the other person involved is willing to go further (other than kissing) so I am feeling rejected as well. I tried counciling and that did not help. I told my best friend and they
were not supportive.
I am lonely, guilty and want to cry all the time.
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