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I cheated on my "possibly" gay husband
I had sex with my coworker. We started texting just as friends. The texting became more frequent and stated to become slightly perverse. Then he sent me a few underwear pics. I followed suit by sending a few back. We met up a few times and only kissed. We finally arranged to meet up one afternoon and we has sex- once. I feel terrible. I want to tell my husband but I’m scared of the end result. 3 years ago I busted my husband watching gay porn. He admitted that he was bisexual and was interested in men. He swore he never had any make encounters but I found some old emails that he sent to an anonymous guy. He also had an emotional affair with a man a few years ago that begged him to end. He did end it eventually. I was so hurt and angry at home for all he put me through that for a moment I lost sight if the right thing to do. I felt justified to hurt him the way he hurt me, or so I thought. Now I just feel terrible. I’m overwhelmed buy guilt. I am an extremely honest person and this was completely out of character for me. I used to judge cheaters now I am one of them. I am so remorseful. I don’t know what to do.
I cheated on my fiancé
I cheated on my fiancé and it is the worst thing I have ever done! I don’t know why I did it because I love him more than anything, I think I wasn’t being myself for a while and thought that life was shit and I needed to do this to get it out of the way! But I wish I could go back and undo it but I can’t! And I don’t want to tell him because he will be so hurt! I know this because I feel so badly awful which means he would feel even worse :( what am I gonna do?
Cheated on my husband 20 years ago
I was married for about 2 years when my high school sweetheart called me and asked me if he could drop by my house and catch up on old times. I thought that it would be nice to get together for a chat. When I saw him at my front door he looked better than ever. We hugged and he gave me kiss on my lips that drove me wild. I offered him a beer and we reminisced for a while. As I was showing him our new house we entered the bedroom & he kissed me again only more passionately this time and lifted me up and lay me on the bed. We never had sex while we dated but we made up for it that afternoon. I told my husband that he called and my husband said that I should have invited him to our house. I told him that I didn’t want to upset him so I didn’t. This was 20 years ago and he still doesn’t know.
Married and cheating with a married man
I am a married woman with four children and having affair with married man for 17 months. He has no children and is considerably older than I.. First time I seen him my heart skipped a beat. We are so different in our lives yet when we talk or are together we mesh so well. There isn’t one thing I don’t like about him. The way he explains it; I feel bad for the way he is treated at home. I know I’m dreaming to think this older man really would leave a quiet life for my drama life. I’m such a fool and beat myself up all the time about it but can’t seem to leave:(.
Two siblings are being cheated on
I have sex with my husband’s sister’s husband. We are secretly in love with each other, but we don’t want to leave our spouses.
Caught my wife cheating and it turns me on
I discovered my wife having an affair with a close friend of mine. We had planned dinner with him at our home when I got called away for work. She accidentally left her damp patties in the living room for me to discover after I got home late. I also found a slick wetness in our bed when I joined her already sleeping. They don’t know I know. I got angry at first, then curious, and now I am constantly aroused by it. Lately, I have to work to avoid becoming hard when we are all together. Now what?
My affair is out in the open
I have had an affair for about 6 months. We are both married. Both of our spouses know. Not planning for it to end. He makes me feel loved, wanted, needed and happy. I fell in love. I want no one else. I could be satisfied always with him in my life. I respect him, care about him and want the best for him no matter what. He is the best lover and friend of my life.
I cheated on my husband with my first love
I had an affair, emotional and sexual with my first love. He has kids, I don’t. I would leave my husband for him in a minute. I never fell out of love with this man. I sent him nude videos and pictures with me masturbating. I should feel shame but I don’t. My husband has been impotent for 7 years. He rarely touches me sexually. I feel so neglected. I miss my lover, I wonder if he misses me. I knew nothing good would come from him in the end. But, for months, I felt so alive, wanted, sexual. I know he sensed that passion. I can’t stop thinking about him and fantasizing. So hot! So alive. More,more more! Now now now!
Having an affair
I’ve been having an affair for over a year.
I’m married and have been for 7 years. I cheated before about a year ago and that was only a physical affair. One night only and no emotion attached. I found out earlier this year that my wife was cheating on me, but had done so about 5 months after I had first cheated. I didn’t tell her about my infidelity until this past weekend, 7 months later. I work in an office with a receptionist that took a liking to me. We flirted off and on, sent dirty text messages to each other, emails, and we eventually would end up after work kissing in my car. We made several attempts to get together while my wife was away but it never happened. We talked more and more, on the phone and through texting. I started to have feelings and so did she. She broke it off and I fought for her to not do that. I still have to walk past her to get to my office regularly. And I have to see her around the office. It’s hard but I feel like I will put her out of my mind. The problem is my wife doesn’t know about her. She only knows who she is, not what we’ve done. My marriage is not in a good place and we’re starting counseling next week. I’m too weak to admit this emotional affair even though it needs to be talked about.
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