Infidelity Secrets

Secrets about infidelity and cheating.

Cheating on my girlfriend with a guy

Wednesday, 16 May 2012

I am engaged to a wonderful woman who I love in every way, but I have cheated on her twice in the past month with a guy I met on craigslist. My fiancée knows that I am bisexual, but we are in a monogamous relationship and she would be devastated if she found out I have been unfaithful.

Both times it happened, I was really drunk. The first time it happened, I was just looking at the ads to amuse myself. Then I responded to one, just trying to get off on chatting with another guy. Before I knew it, we had planned a hookup. I felt really guilty afterwards and told the guy that it couldn’t happen again. I broke off all communication with him, even though he was texting me on a semi-regular basis.

Last night, I felt bad for using him for sex and then not talking to him. I texted him and asked how he was doing. I never intended anything more to happen, but the texting turned into us meeting up and having sex again. I feel so horrible about what I did. I am not the kind of guy who can just carry on with some secret sexual relationship behind her back. If I tell her, it would destroy her. I really don’t want to be in a relationship with a man, my interest in men is purely sexual. I thought I would be able to just be with her, but apparently I can’t suppress these desires.

I’m going to try not to drink anymore when I’m by myself, because I seem to lose control and become some completely different person. The kind of person who can cheat on a woman he loves. And I know deep down that I’m not that person. I’m just scared by my actions and I hope I never make such poor decisions again.

Affair changed my life

Friday, 27 April 2012

After 18 years of being faithful to a man I didn’t love, I had a short term affair. This was two years ago. It started a series of devious sexual behavior for which part of me feels horrible and the other part feels liberated. I know I need to stop but I don’t do anything to change my ways. It’s like the first affair opened a can of worms.

I cheated because I needed intimacy

Saturday, 07 April 2012

After being in a relationship with them for a little over a year, I have finally slipped and cheated. I have a just sex person that I have no feelings for and it’s because of them being in Iraq. I feel so terrible sometimes but others I feel like there’d be no other way to feel so relaxed. I need some physical intimacy and he can’t give it right now.

I think I can keep this secret because I have no feelings for the other person other than sex.

Got pregnant while cheating

Thursday, 29 March 2012

I feel horrible and I know I should have thought about it before I acted. I cheated on my boyfriend who I am currently pregnant by with my ex who is the father of my other 3 children. I feel horrible but I know if I told him he would hurt my ex. I now wish I would had never done it. I wish I could just let it go and never make that mistake again.

Sex addicition is a problem

Thursday, 23 February 2012

I love my wife very much, and I try to be a christian now that I’ve seen my horrible ways. But I cheated on my wife over 12 times within a 6 month period. I have a sex addiction and my wife doesn’t want to have sex that much, so I find it everywhere else, with females that is. I can’t stop thinking about sex and well, I still love my wife.

I want to confess about my workplace affair

Tuesday, 24 January 2012

I am a cheater, who wants to turn my life around. I have been in my relationship for almost 15 years we are not married, but we have a 14yr old and 9 yr old. I never thought the day would come for me to do such a silly thing, in what started as a playful conversation to hooking up with someone whom I met at work. I’ve worked at this job for such a very long time, then he came along—we got on really well, and he was (which I thought was a great friend to talk to). We talked about anything, family, health and sports... He too is in a relationship, but not married until the following year and then began a family. Anyway it never occurred to me that this now married father, won’t leave things the way they’re supposed to be and live his life. Instead he keeps trying every possible way to keep in touch with me. I’ve told him, this can no longer happen anymore. He’s been caught out TWICE and has confess to his wife about me—She message me on FB to tell me to leave him alone, I really felt her hurt and promise to her that this will never ever happen ever again. It’s been 5 months since then, now he’s trying to get back at me again. My own partner has no idea about this affair, and it’s starting to make me feel really bad about it... I’m at a point where I need to tell him (my partner) everything I did! I sick of living with this guilt for the rest of my life.

Cheating on my cheating husband

Sunday, 22 January 2012

I haven"t told every body including my psychiatrist about my affair with A. I haven’t told P I slept with A. I feel guilty as hell. P is my husband and I am divorcing him for his affair with B. Not because of his infidelity but because he is horrible to me.

Confess to cheating

Monday, 16 January 2012

Should you confess to cheating?

Yes you should!!!! My story is very long and painful, but I will do the best I can to make it short. I just discovered that my husband had an affair with my sister 8 years ago! The affair lasted for a year and a half and it went on right up under my nose. My sister had to leave her husband because he was on drugs and I let her stay in a mobile home beside my house. I felt so sorry for her and I wanted to help heal her broken heart. I welcomed her and her children into my home. I did not want her to feel alone. I did everything I could to comfort her. I have been married for 23 years to my high school sweetheart. (We have been together for 26 years.) My husband has always been a good faithful man...up until my lonely sister decided she wanted my life!!! At the time, I was going to college 3 nights a week. I had just survived cancer and I was going through a difficult emotional time. While I was at school at night, my sister was in my house with my husband and children playing wife. My sister manipulated my husband’s mind and turned him against me by making herself appear to be more compatible with him and by telling him that I had cheated on him several times----which was not true. Anyway, my sister confessed to me years ago that she had herpes. I never told my husband because it was a secret my sister asked that I keep. Anyway, the affair ended after a year and a half. I strongly suspected they were having an affair, and I begged for them to confess, but they never did. However, God brought it to light through my dreams. They thought no one would ever know and they would never confess. They intended to take their sick affair to their grave! However, God says what is done in darkness will come to light. God wanted me to know the truth so He gave me dreams and visions of them together. There was no denying what they had done when the sick details were brought to my sight. I am a christian woman. I am a licensed counselor. However, this betrayal hurt me so deeply that I assaulted my sister and almost went to jail and almost lost my job. It has only been a month ago that this has been revealed. I have been to hell and back and I am still living in mental torment! However, God, my Lord and Savior is my saving grace! He is helping me get through this. My husband has begged for my forgiveness and he has completely submitted himself to the will of God. We renewed our vows on January 1st and we are off to a new beginning. Right now, I have a new husband in Christ. I know that I am not suppose to hate, and maybe I don’t really hate my sister, but the negative feelings I have for my sister are so great that I never plan to ever speak to her again. My sister cared nothing for my marriage, for me, or for my children. If you have cheated, you are living in bondage. If you have not confessed, you are a coward! Your spouse deserves the truth! God knows the truth and He will bring it to light! Read the entire book of Proverbs. See what it says about adultery. You will pay now, or you will pay later, but you will pay. If you love your spouse, confess and repent to your spouse and God. Beg for forgiveness and submit yourself to God. Get in church, read the word daily and love your spouse more than anything or anyone on the face of this earth. God first, wife second. God is the only one who can get you and your spouse through infidelity. God is the only one who can give you peace! I am a long ways from being healed, but God is healing me one day at at time and He is restoring me. Today, even though it has only been a month, I feel like I have just met my husband for the first time and we are madly in love with each other. The passion is back and we are inseparable! This is only because we have submitted ourselves to God. God is the answer!!

Cheat on my spouse and never revealed the truth

Thursday, 12 January 2012

Several years ago I had an affair that went on for 4 years with a friend that I worked with. They were having marital troubles and so was I so we gradually drifted together for comfort and found excitement in the sexual tension we shared. After a while I became attached to this person and decided that I was in love with them. They returned the sentiment. There were days of just being together whenever possible that seemed to be enough for them but I wanted more and tried to get them to leave their spouse so we could be together. When it became apparent that they had no intention of leaving, I became sullen and depressed as my own marriage was floundering and unsatisfactory. Eventually we came to the point that they wanted to cut ties and I was heartbroken. Rather than give up and try to fix my own relationship, I tried harder to bring them back to me but in the end I finally realized that they still loved their spouse and I had to work things out with mine if I were to ever be able to deal with what I had done. Now years later I am filled with guilt as I never revealed the truth to my spouse even though my friend told theirs. Although the chance of it ever coming out is pretty much nil, I still wonder if I should tell them just to clear the air in our relationship. I love them and really don’t wish to hurt them but I often think I’m just a coward who isn’t willing to face the music so that it can be resolved finally. My spouse had an affair at one time as well and felt obligated to tell me because they couldn’t stand the secretiveness but I believe they would be hurt very badly by my revelation and that is why I haven’t done anything yet.

Sex with her friend while she was passed out

Sunday, 25 December 2011

I slept with her friend while she was passed out at her friends house. It was a quickie and very awesome at the same time. I was getting some water to drink and she called me into her room where she ravaged me. I did not resist because it felt so good. She was impressed with my manhood and makes these remarks when we visit her to allude to our night together. My GF says "what was that about?" I just tell her she is high or something. She is 6 ft 2 inches and I am 5 foot 7 inches. She is 34 and I am 49. Go figure?

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