Secrets about infidelity and cheating.
Cheating in order to get even
Even though I’ve fought with my partner about her continual cheating for years, what I haven’t told her is that finally... I cheated on her too. I don’t confess even though it makes me so anxious to hide, because I know she’d turn around and not feel as bad about all she’s done to me.
My wife has cheated on me multiple times
I recently found out that my wife had cheated on me with at least two different guys, one just after we were married, and another shortly after we had our second child. When I asked her about it she denied anything had happened, but I have enough evidence that I know they happened, but not enough to prove it to a court.
The hardest part is I have given everything to her. My love, my life, my health. I saved her from a disastrous health situation that may have been related to her second cheating. We now have three kids, and she tells me she loves me. But when I remember certain times when things were not right, and I insisted on trusting her I just feel like a hurt little baby with no future and no life left in me. I want to hit a punching bag all day long. I can hardly work. I can hardly sleep. And this has been on my mind for close to 6 months now.
I keep thinking I will read enough about cheating, and lying and deception to find a way to put this behind me. I even think I want to stay with her, but the lies just won’t go away. If I do break of my marriage, I won’t be able to gain custody of my kids, since I don’t have enough to prove she did it.
The first time she cheated, I had to leave the country to setup our new home in my home country. Then she would follow 6 weeks later. When she arrived, I almost asked her if she was pregnant. I didn’t since I knew she had her period after I had left. Just after that she became pregnant. I have no doubt in my mind that she was pregnant from another man. She performed an abortion after about 3 months to end it, but I always believed it was a miscarriage.
Cheating while traveling
I cheated on my girlfriend while traveling.
My hsuband is not the father of our children
I have been married for 14 years to my husband, we have been together for nearly 20 years. We have 2 sons 16 and 14.....but neither are his sons. One is from a one night stand and the other is one of his friends.
I cheated due to problems in my relationship
I Actually Cheated
In my younger days I could never understand how people could have the audacity to cheat on their loved ones. My spouse and I have been together 10 years, married for 4. We are best friends and lovers. Neither one of us had been with another person before we met. The past year had more than its share of obstacles. A new child, financial constraints, house on the market unable to sell. My spouse moved to take a new job, which in my opinion the pay did not justify taking. So here I was, stuck with a house mortgage, all the medical bills, insurance for both of them, ALONE for months at a time as a waited for the house to sell or a job in their area. I was stressed and unhappy, feeling totally cornered. I wasn’t willing to give up on our relationship- especially with a child in the equation, but I longed for that physical bond which in all honesty had not had but three times in 13 months. I talked to my spouse about it and they couldn’t understand at first. I explained that love wasn’t the issue- it’s the primal urge to have sex that is! For months I had noticed my mind starting to get the what if’s when noticing others. All I wanted was the physical aspect- no strings attached, something I never experienced before! I thought about it long and hard. Most people I talked to could not fathom how I had not a;ready cheated. Long story short. One day came where I finally I did! I had and still occasionally have mixed feelings of guilt and relief. The guilt- I messed around behind my lovers back, who despises of such extramarital endeavors. The relief- it’s off my back! Was it worth it? Who knows. But there was a void in my life at that time which needed to be temporarily fulfilled!
Sleeping with my boss
I’ve been sleeping with my married boss who is 18 years older than me for 18 months now. I’m in love with him, but he won’t leave his wife. Now I just feel stupid and used.
I cheated on the most beautiful woman
I am an idiot and cheated on the most beautiful woman in the world. I don’t think I can ever forgive myself and will never allow something like this to happen again. She doesn’t deserve it and only deserves the best in life. The cheat started off with a text and ended with a one night of me cheating on my spouse.
In love with a married man
I have been seeing a married man for almost four years. I was a student of his and was/still is very attracted to him. We started talking over the phone at night when he would leave for the gym and about two months later, from then on we were sexual active. It also just so happens that the first night we were being together was his wife’s birthday. So every year I’m reminded of that too. To be with him, he asked me to watch his two kids with him and my role would be their babysitters. It’s been that way since and I don’t know what I’m doing but I can’t seem to leave him. I know there’s nothing for us. Sometimes I would have to see pictures of them together as couple and a family or hear stories from their kids about how much fun they had with mommy and daddy. My heart hurts so much because I can’t go out and do things like a normal couple would do. I have to lie to close friends and family because they can’t know. I feel like I’m ruining his family but he tells me otherwise. That he’s with her for the kids and that’s all. When I’m with him alone, just the two of us, I’m so happy but that’s it. When I see him act as a good father, I get sad cause I think about how he would be a good husband to her at home.
I wish I suddenly got amnesia because it would be easier just to forget instead of leaving someone you really love and knowing you can’t be with that person.
Cheated on my possessive husband
A year ago my husband and I were separated and during that time I was unfaithful. He was an emotional wreck, turned everyone I know against me and became suicidal. I stayed with him out of pity, concern and weakness and now I’m beginning to regret it. All the reasons we were separated to begin with still exist. Nothing fundamental has changed. Now I can’t help but feel that I would be better completely alone. I don’t want any people in my life. I want to go to work, do my job, and go home. By myself. He has told me if I ever leave him again he will "disappear." I don’t know if he’s implying suicide or what...but I’m beginning to feel like it doesn’t matter because he doesn’t love me. He just wants to possess me, call me his and keep me tethered to him. He never changes.
Cheating on my boyfriend as a means of coping with problems
I have been with my boyfriend for less than a year although it feels much longer. I made the mistake of cheating on him about a few months ago while I was out of town and this person was someone who I’ve had history with and for awhile still had feelings for. I think I still do although we have been spontaneously on and off for 3 years. I still think about him sometimes, and while it happened I did not feel guilty, but it eats away at me sometimes and now I feel even worse since I am beginning to develop feelings for someone else as well. I feel like an awful person and I am aware of what I’m doing and what I can do to turn myself around and prevent all of this from happening, but I give in to my emotions and take the easy way out instead. At first I like to think it doesn’t bother me, but it always seems to catch up to me later. In every relationship I’ve been in, I see the stages start to kick in and whenever arguments arise I don’t know how to handle myself well.. as if there’s a scar that’s been made and that I can never seem to ignore it, but find something to distract me from it.
I know it’s not the best way to cope with problems or arguments in a relationship, but I tend to deal with it all the worst ways all the time. I cannot admit this to my friends or anyone else I know, so hence why I’m writing it here. I wish that I could erase what has been done, and I am a coward and could never admit the cheating bit to anyone, I haven’t even told any of my best friends because I am that ashamed. I’m hoping that my senses will come to me and this "crush" I have for this new person will fade away and I’ll be able to better myself... somehow. Sometimes when I think I know myself, I even break my own promises. I hate feeling so disappointed and doubtful with myself.
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