Infidelity Secrets

Affair with another married person at work

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years. I have had a couple of one night stands during this time. Usually this occurs when we are having problems in the relationship. Recently I have started an affair with a married coworker. I know that this is wrong but just cant help it. He says all the right things and makes me feel wonderful. The attraction between us is so powerful. I wish I could end it and stop this behavior, just don’t know how.

Had an affair with my best friend

I had a lesbian relationship with my best friend... while I was dating my boyfriend whom she hates. I did it for her. Because she’s only happy when she’s with someone. I couldn’t see her unhappy. But I couldn’t do that to my boyfriend either. I told her we had to stop. I made her cry... I probably even made it worse. But I love my boyfriend. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. And I can’t tell him I betrayed him... Especially with her. I’m so sorry baby...

Moved to be with my boyfriend who cheated

I now live with my boyfriend ‘CW’ in Sydney, Australia. We’ve been on and off living in different countries, (UK, New Zealand) for 3 years. I finally gave up everything like the good job, country and friends to be with him. I’m older than him but I really don’t believe that makes a difference to what I have just found out.

When I was single I dated, had one night stands and had fun. That’s when I was single, now I’m in a relationship, I give 100 per cent.

Before I moved to Australia we had already planned to go on separate holidays, him to Thailand and me to Jamaica. The holiday dates overlapped, so he is in Thailand now, whilst I am still here in Sydney.

The reason I write this is that I found out that he has been on the internet via facebook and other sites, chasing up Thai girls and other races, trying to get them to meet him whilst he is on holiday. Now before you say anything I thought it may have been mild flirting but my instincts told me something different. SO I checked his mobile and he’s been sending messages saying that ‘...you are sexy and beautiful, I want to meet you when I get to Thailand. I am Australian..’ similar messages to several girls. He even sent a similar one to someone called Kate months before I arrived in the country. I’ve searched his computer and found pictures of his ‘msn friend’ and I know he’s joined other chat sites. I said to him do I look like I have ‘stupid’ written on my forehead!!!

I hate him.

I tackled him about it using the story of something happening to a friend of mine and what did he think of the guy’s behaviour. He said it was wrong and that if the girl did something like that for revenge then the relationship would be over. I looked him right in the eye and said ‘really’? I’ve told him there is nothing I can do if he decides to sleep with someone but I want to know WHY? Why is he doing this to me? I feel very hurt and angry and to be honest I could sleep with anyone I choose but I don’t want to play that game. He then texts me to tell me he misses me..wtf!!

I thought he was the one, the one I could trust with all my heart. He’s not good in bed but I have put up with that cos I loved him. NOW I don’t believe one word he says, not one. So where and what do I do now. All my finances are dependent on him since I moved here, my visa, my life. I cannot tell my mother, (who I tell everything too) as it would break her heart and she is ill. I feel very much alone here. I’m glad I am going away and I haven’t missed him one bit. I think this is me protecting myself from hurt. I don’t want to get sick from this but yet it’s so bad I’ve taken up smoking again.

Slept with a prostitute (or 2)

I went to Amsterdam with a group of friends whilst being in a relationship with a girl I am in love with. I was totally convinced that I would be able to control myself but I slept with two prostitutes. I felt absolutely disgusted with myself and still do to this day. When I returned from my holiday I told my girlfriend that nothing had happened. Then a few months later I told her that I went in and gave the prostitute money but left because I realised what an idiot I was being. Then a few months after that I told her that I had slept with 1 prostitute and it broke her heart. I did not have the courage to tell her it was 2 and I don’t know why, I managed to tell her I had slept with one—why couldn’t I tell her it was 2? It has been over a year since I told her and obviously it took a long time for things to get back again, but we managed to get our relationship back on the right track. But lately, I am thinking that I want to spend the rest of my life with this girl and marry her, yet I know that I have not told her the whole truth and it is destroying me inside because I know it will be the absolute end if I tell her. I hate the position I am in because on the one hand I want to be with her for the rest of my life and could not bear to lose her yet on the other, I respect her more than anybody else and I know for a relationship to be perfect she deserves to know and be with someone who will be completely true to her. I cannot stand to lose this girl as she is the love of my life, but I cannot bear to keep this from her when she deserves the total truth and to be with someone who is utterly faithful to her.

Cheated on the love of my life

I cheated on the love of my life... we have been together 4 years. I’ve never cheated before. I had drunk sex with a colleague and now I feel like killing myself. I feel this way at how I betrayed my love, how I want to spend my life with her, have babies, grow old together. I love her so much. I am crying all day. I don’t know if I should tell her or hide this from her. For as long as I live I will never do anything like that again but how can I be dishonest like this. I broke my own heart and cannot break hers. I am falling apart.

Had a crazy affair

I’ve been having an affair with a married man for four months.

My husband of 15 years cheated on me so I can’t believe I’m doing this. I told my friends and family that I was dating someone new, that I was falling in love with him, that he was the man of my dreams. All of that was true. But when he decided that the affair was getting too serious and that he needed to go back to his family, I lied and told everyone that I dumped him because I found out he was married.

The sad thing is, I’ve known since the beginning he was married and I went after him anyway. I never really thought he’d be into me, but I had to try. He’s the most exhilarating man I’ve ever known! When he began lavishing attention on me, I couldn’t believe it. Soon he told me he loved me. That he wanted to find a way to leave his family and be with me. I’d never been in this situation before but I felt like I was the only woman in the world who had had this experience, like I and I alone had met my soulmate and no one else could possibly understand how I felt. That’s because I knew how wrong it was.

He has four children AND he and his family are very devout conservative Christians. I don’t know how he got away with this. It seems so crazy that his wife doesn’t know that he spent between eight and ten hours a day IMing, texting and on the phone with me. Sometimes more! I discovered that I have over 80 photos of him in various stages of undress that he sent me. He has some really quirky fetishes that his wife has no idea about. She’d probably throw him out if she knew what kind of freak he was, even though I find it kind of exciting.

The affair is over and I will NEVER do something like that again. But I can’t stop thinking about him. I can’t reconcile in my mind the two different people he must actually be—the man I knew and the man that deceives and cheats on his wife. The worst part is, if he showed up at my door right now, I’d take him right back. I know I need therapy.

I’ve kept secrets my entire relationship

I’ve been married for 18 years and have been keeping secrets from my husband. I sucked off a couple guys in public after graduation from high school with no relationship with them at all. I abused alcohol and drugs in college and had about 50 one night stands with probably about 20 in each of my first two years of college. I don’t like the way it feels to admit it but I was a total slut. I liked to have unprotected sex and let guys cum inside of me. Thankfully I only got one STD that was curable but stupid me had 6 more serial one night stands with the same guy over time. I think I was after relationships and felt bad the morning after each encounter but kept going back for more. I had a one night stand group sex with another guy and another couple all together when we were all drunk and high. I had sex many times when I was so drunk or drugged up I don’t really remember what I did. I had sex with a guy with a huge penis and ended up sleeping with him probably a couple hundred times in 6 months. I let this guy with the huge thing do anything he wanted to me including deep throat and anal—things I don’t even do for my husband. He once gave me a combination of drugs that knocked me out for basically a couple days. I know he and at least one other guy did all sorts of things to me during that time and I think it may have been lots of guys but never found out.

I’m a very pretty and innocent looking woman. My husband knows me only as this innocent person who I portrayed myself to be when I met him. I have recently been realizing—thanks to my husband—that I really am beautiful and I have an amazing body. He tells me this all the time and looking in the mirror even at age 40 after kids, I’m starting to believe him. I’m starting to realize what I gave all those guys so long ago and how much I devalued myself.

I hate that I have deceived my husband all these years. Two years ago I met one of these guys at a class reunion and spent way too much time with him reminiscing about inappropriate things and then lied to my husband about what I was doing. I cannot quite explain why I did that since I thought all that was buried in my past.

Recently I have asked my husband to tie me up and blindfold me and have rough sex with me. He doesn’t know I’m fantasizing about being had by a large group of guys. My husband doesn’t have the biggest penis so I’ve purchased some large dildos that I use when he isn’t there and recently I’ve had him shove the biggest one in my ass when he does my front. It’s like my old college desires are coming back and I want more and more.

I feel horrible about who I am and want to come clean but know it would kill my husband to find out about these things in my past. He was with one other person before we were married—a girl he thought he was going to marry until she cheated on him. To him sex is very sacred and pure. Just like in college, I just want to be had by any guy with a big tool and hate myself for it.

Cheated on my boyfriend while he was out of town

I cheated on my boyfriend. He was out of town one weekend, and a few of my best friends guys friends came into town, none of whom I had met before. We all spent a day together drinking and partying, and I had no apparent flirtations with one of the guys. But when night rolled around, things spiraled out of control. We started dancing at a bar, then back to my house, then he started coming on strong. We never kissed, but I did not object to him kissing all over my neck and shoulders. I am absolutely in love with my boyfriend—I couldn’t even imagine being without him. My reason for letting this situation occur is unbeknown to me. I struggle with if and how I tell him that this has happened.

Drinks and then cheating

I have been married for nearly 4 years and have a two year old son. Our marriage is great most of the time although I always feel I will never be good enough. Last week I slept with someone else from my work after a ‘few drinks’...it is not the first time I have ‘crossed the line’ after a few drinks...but it is the first time I have had sex with someone else...I feel so bad and don’t know if I can keep the secret. When will this ‘demon’ feeling go away? Stu-pid me!

I had a one night stand

I had a one night stand even though I’m completely in love with my partner who feels the same way about me. It’s not going to happen again and I’m not going to tell him... but every time he looks at me I think he already knows and it’s killing me.