Secrets about infidelity and cheating.
Cheated with seven different men
I cheated on my husband with 7 different men. We have been together for 16 yrs. I am 36 and I know I’m hot so I know its not a self esteem problem. I meet them online. I even fell in love with two of them. The thing that is shitty is that my husband is a good man, and he’s also good in bed. I also have no remorse when I cheat, I love doing it and I love my husband. Whats wrong with me?
I cheated on my boyfriend
I cheated on my boyfriend!!! Never thought I could walk this way, after our relationship going a step further with the formal talks happening. May be the long distance relationship disadvantages had to show up... to make me stronger! Maybe this was the right thing to have happened to teach me dedication. But I’m quite sure, if my boyfriend would have given me the time and attention I longed for all the while that he was abroad, when he was in town... I’d have been content and never thought of getting involved with any one else. I’m not blaming anyone.. but it simply is that I am a Lover.. and I love my boyfriend!
Having an affair with a friend
I’m secretly seeing an old friend of mine, who I also happened to have slept with a few times, but never had a relationship with. I haven’t seen him in 15 yrs until a month ago and I’m totally obsessed with him now. He is so hot to me! And we have the best sex! I tell my husband and kids I’m studying (I’m in school taking nursing) and I spend a few hours with him. Most of the time we don’t have sex but we have the best time together, laughing etc. I feel very comfortable with him.... it’s easy and he’s the best kisser in the universe! I do get pissed at him and start acting like a psycho when I think he’s ignoring me and one time last week he actually stood me up but I’m not ready to let go of the relationship yet. I’m scared of getting caught, but I have to see him. He makes me feel good.
Online affair with a married man
I am married and am falling in love with a married man on-line and am feeling very conflicted. My husband is an excellent father but not much of a companion or lover. I feel so connected to my on-line man; it feels like he is my soul mate. I feel like true love only comes by once in a lifetime and do not want to lose my new love.
Messy online affair
I went on a married person dating site and met a man that I fell in love with. I am so confused. I went on the site after having an in-house separation from my husband. I knew he would leave, it was just a matter of getting through the holidays... It isn’t right that I did it. I am not justifying my actions. I was lonely and vulnerable and stupid. But loving this man gave me hope that I could be in love again.
At the beginning, he told me that he couldn’t leave. Our relationship was instantly intense and emotional. It as as if the floodgates had opened when we found each other. He had medical issues. He had no plans to leave his wife; he was filling a void. I tried several times to leave him myself, but I just couldn’t was away from this man I was emotionally dependent on him. Shortly after we began our relationship, my husband and I physically separated.
This man I am in love with has many issues from his parent’s relationship. his father was an insensitive cold man, husband and father. He is not; not to me anyway.I think that he lives with the guilt that he will be seen as a terrible person to his kids-something that has haunted him in his own relationship with his father.
His kids got wind of us a few months back and he has been very worried about their knowing anything more than the little they admitted to finding out. We tried again to separate, but I always come back. He admitted that he counts on my fickleness. I tried to convince him that he make a decision one way or another to leave, but with my inability to let go, he has not been forced to make a decision either way.
I feel terrible for the harm I have done to his family. I realize that his wife is not entirely to blame for his infidelity. He owns it too... he admitted to having had one other relationship before us and he told me that he loved her, but that she had died of cancer at a young age. He tells me that he has never loved anyone in his life before.
Our intimacy is wonderful, but he knows that I am very conflicted in having an affair with a married man. he tells me that if it was just about his relationship with his wife, he would have left a long time ago to be with me. He told me in the past couple of days that he suspects his computer to have been breached. I suspect his claims may be that he is under a tremendous amount of strain. His wife cries all of the time, asking him why he cannot commit to her, He tells me he is numb. I know how he feels. I lived that.
So, we dance away from each other again.
My wife is having an affair with a neighbor
I have discovered that my wife is having an affair with a neighbor. They met through a hobby which I originally thought was ‘innocent’ (How many times have you heard that?!). I found a text message on her phone that was ‘suspicious’ and confronted her, she admitted a non-intimate close friendship but nothing more. She agreed not to see or contact this man again. Three months later, my wife went on a scheduled business trip. I had already had my suspicions—not leaving her mobile phone lying around and a hidden e-mail account. My suspicions led to me searching the house, and I discovered hundreds of printed e-mails from them proving that the affair had not ended and become intimate. I am devastated. My wife was away on the business trip when I confronted her on the phone again. She did not deny what was happening—how could she? I had the proof! Right now I’m feeling betrayed, hurt, angry, almost every emotion you can experience, but the big question is—can I ever trust her again? I love my wife deeply, the ‘other man’ is a poor physical specimen and regarded as a bit of an outsider in my community. I realize that I also have to look deeply to see what would make my wife want to have this extramarital affair, and I see flaws, but I ask the question of myself, can she ever be trusted having betrayed me twice?
Casual sex helps me deal with my marriage
I have been married for 13 years to a wonderful man who is a great husband and father to our two children. I married him in my early 20’s even though I didn’t really want to. At the time, I was afraid of being alone... and I couldn’t bring myself to hurt him or disappoint his family. We are very different people -- actually complete opposites in many ways. I am intense, complicated, and intellectual and he is steady, simple, and practical. Yet, I love and respect him deeply and I know he loves me equally. Many women would love to be in my marriage. I know this for a fact because several have told me so.
Anyway, I’ve been dealing with a lot of stresses in our lives -- financial difficulties, aging parents, other things that life has thrown our way. And when I say I’ve been dealing with it, I mean mostly me because my dear husband simply can’t handle much beyond going to work and doing his designated chores at home. On an intellectual level, I accept that he is doing the best he can and appreciate the many things he brings to our marriage. But inside, I feel lonely and disappointed. Our life together is not what I imagined it would be ... (not than any of our lives ever are). Even though it seems like many of our problems stem from our basic incompatibility, I cannot bring myself to tear our marriage and our childrens’ lives apart over it. Compared with the hurt and damage a divorce would cause, my unhappiness seems trivial.
My biggest secret, though, is that I have recently started several casual sexual affairs with men I would never consider leaving my husband for. The men are all much younger than me, exciting, and fall into the players/losers categories. I guess they are emotionally "safe" in that I don’t feel in any danger of falling in love or anything. For the first time in a long time, I love sex. In fact, I had my first real orgasm with one of these men recently.
I haven’t told a soul about any of this -- even my sister to whom I tell everything -- and I don’t intend to, either. I know its cowardly and pathetic, and messed up on many levels, but I don’t want to stop. It feels too good. I’ve told myself that I will do this for a short while, and then go back to my regular life.
Okay with being the other woman
The only "successful" relationships I seem able to have are with married men. I have never married, I am not interested in having children. I have a very demanding job which involves long and unusual hours, some traveling, a lot of flexibility. Most of the men I meet are married, many of them don’t seem to mind having outside "relationships". This would be fine only several times and several of the wives have found out. One in particular recently has been have been very very vindictive and I was afraid of losing my job, I was that uncertain of what she might do. I honestly do not understand why these women are so angry. I don’t want to marry their husbands. I enjoy their company. Why is that so "bad"?
Feel awful about cheating on my husband
I cheated on my husband. About a week ago, I went to a party while my husband stayed at home with our kids. I had way to much to drink, and I slept with someone else. I don’t know what to say to him, and I’m overridden with guilt. We’ve been married for almost 7 years, and he is the most wonderful man in the world. I want to be honest with him because I have always trusted him as he has always trusted me, but I’m afraid that he will leave me if I come clean. I hate myself for hurting him. I hate myself for not telling him that I hurt him. I hate myself for breaking the trust between us and our family. I can’t believe I did this to him and to our kids. I don’t ever want to lose him, our kids, or the wonderful life that we have created together. I love him.
My husband is oblivious to my affairs
OK here goes. After the birth of my second child, I realized that my boss was attracted to me. He flirted and I reciprocated. We have been having an affair since then. I even thought my third child was his. A new employee started working with us and on a business trip we started an affair. Now I’m having two affairs. I cant break off the affair with my boss because he is such a good lover and so discreet. Yet my co-worker blows my mind in bed and I think I am falling in love. My poor husband is oblivious to all of this.
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