Secrets about infidelity and cheating.
I never really loved my wife
I have been married for 12 years and only got married because my wife (girlfriend at the time) became pregnant and I felt I had to do the right thing.
I have been telling her that I love her since a month after we started dating. I initially told her just to get her in bed with me, then I kept telling her because I had already told her.
I knew I didn’t want to get married and I knew I didn’t want to stay married. I never really had much respect for her because she was needy and insecure and gave up sex too easily.
Now she’s having an affair and I’m afraid to lose her. The thing is, I always took her for granted and never treated her like an equal. I never even treated her well.
I hate the idea of her being with someone else and I hate the idea of paying her alimony. I don’t like the idea of starting over with someone else so I may just stay and try to make this work.
The thing is... I don’t know if I’ve ever really loved her.
My husband is boring in bed
BORED WITH THE HUSBAND!!
I am married for 16 years. My husband doesn’t make me feel "alive!"
I met this totally hot man, super hot body, younger than I am , who wants to show this older bored married woman, some new things.... I am going to be all over it!
He’s got that "animal magnetism" that so many men lack, that I just cant resist!! My husband is the "same old same old in bed"... he’s boring he won’t even suggest new things to try with me!
I am going to let this man "rock my world" like no other could!
Starting an affair with a younger woman
I am starting an affair with a girl 14-15 years younger than myself. I love my wife very much, do not love the young girl, not even close. But the girl is outrageously gorgeous with a high sex drive and open to many things, like I am.
Having an affair and jealous of people who are happy
I am having an affair. I have been married a long time—over twenty years, but was very young and married for the wrong reasons: codependency, not wanting to be alone, obligation etc. I’ve often wanted out but don’t want to hurt anyone, then kids came, divorce would have ended my career. Now I fell in love. Tried to end it three times. Tried to do the ‘right’ thing. Now I’ve just given up. I’m numb. WE are separated, but I don’t know if I can go through with the rest and cause all this pain. The OW is a MW. How did this all happen. I never would have thought of it in a thousand years. Although I did secretly fantasize about somehow being free to remarry and I’m jealous of those who did and found happiness. Even when I wanted to end it, I never considered confessing, because my spouse knows her and the OW’s family and kids would be devastated.
Cheating on in my long distance relationship
I’m in a long distance relationship with a woman I love very much. I think she is the perfect partner for me in the future... she makes me want to be a better person. Our relationship was built on being completely honest with each other but since she moved back to her parent’s place (and I live with roommates in another state) we don’t see each other very often and I constantly hook up with other women. Sometimes I don’t know why I do it. I have sex with almost anything that comes my way. Sometimes I can’t but I still put myself in that situation which makes me feel like crap. I miss this girl so much, but I’m lying to her all the time.
I’m always lying to others as well about nothing issues. I’m working on this behavior, stopping myself from lying, meditating to stay conscious... it’s just hard. Life can be kind of hard sometimes and I know I’m young and trying to make it. I think I just have to stay positive.
Drunk one night stand
I had a drunk fling and I am in a great marriage. I read all about cheating and feel none of this applies to us... now I really feel guilty but am trying to use it to be a better wife. I think just after 10 years I sort of missed that feeling of meeting a new man and since I was VERY drunk the urge came up and I did not hold it back. I will NEVER do this again!
I am engaged and cheating
I am engaged to the man of my dreams. We have been dating for six and a half years. I have been cheating on him for the past six months with my coworker. We have crazy pornstar sex every week in his car. He tells me he likes me a lot and that if I were his he’d never cheat. I’m confused but can’t stop.
I am physically attracted to another man
I am married to a wonderful man who loves me very much, but our sex life has had much to be desired for a very long time. I usually initiate it and when we do have sex it’s pretty predictable and I never have an orgasm. I love him very much, but the sexual chemistry isn’t the way it used to be. About 3 years ago I met this guy that I was almost instantly attracted to. I would see him every week at a place that I’ll not name. We would always talk and make eye contact; he’s very flirty. Six months after I met him I confessed that I had a crush on him in an email. He was flattered and very aware that I’m married and has always been respectful of that. However, things have continued to escalate over the years. For a while I really bugged the crap out of him with text messages, just talking about nonsense. But we’ve remained friends over the years. We would always hug when we’d see each other. Eventually we started to kiss briefly on the cheek or mouth. One night I went to his house when my husband was out of town. We watched a movie. In the back of our minds we thought things would go further that night. I became ill and nauseous so nothing happened. Maybe my body was telling me that sleeping with him was wrong. Since that night, it’s become even more physical and intimate. We’ve made out and I’ve let him get to "second base." I see him every week and after each meeting I am so aroused I can’t stand it. There’s a lot of sex talk that goes on in text messages and I think we will eventually have sex. I don’t think I can stop myself and I know he wants to. I know it’s wrong... but my body wants to. Sometimes it’s all I think about.
Feel guilty about cheating on my fiancee
I cheated on my fiancee a little over a month into our engagement. We are long distance and I got so caught up in talking with people from the past that it became this great desire that deep down I knew was fake. People I would have never considered being with now became people I desired, and it was so frustrating. I tried to say no to one encounter and managed to not see the person (since I was seeing my fiancee a few days later). The day before I was going to see my fiancee I went out for drinks with people I should not have been hanging out with in the first place. I got pretty tipsy, ended up kissing one to see what it was like... and then when I got home I met up with the other boy who was there that night, someone I had a past with, and who really liked me, and we ended up kissing and slightly having sex for a few moments... I feel terrible.
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Having an affair with a younger man
I am a married women having an affair with a younger man. He knows I am married and chased me—I fell for it and accepted that he is single and would continue to see other people (looking for his life partner) whilst I do not like it when he sees other people I accept it)—I asked from the beginning that he be open and honest and that if he is seeing someone else to tell me. He cannot do this and continued for 18 months to lie to me. This I find hard as I have given him a lot of time and effort that perhaps I shouldn’t have. He says I should be grateful that he wants to see me.
I have tried on several occasions to end the relationship, but always go back despite knowing I shouldn’t. It will not get any better—he has ended up assaulting me the last time I walked away.
I know what I should do but just cannot find the strength right now.