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Told a really big lie

Saturday, 16 September 2017
Relationship Issues

I lied about something that if found out I will lose my spouse and it can be used against me... but my spouse cheated on me and I don’t know if he is still cheating. I have been thinking about cheating just to get back, but I won’t cause I fear God. However, I have cheated before we got married and once during our marriage. Guess karma actually got me back.

Boyfriend is hearing about my one night stand

Saturday, 16 September 2017
Relationship Issues

I cheated on my boyfriend in a one night stand. Days later I got a text from the guy’s roommate asking if I had had sex with him. My boyfriend saw the message and I lied to him. I love him so much and can’t see my future without him. I feel sick to my stomach every day because of it.

Cheated on my boyfriend after he proposed

Friday, 11 August 2017

I cheated on my fiancé 6 months after he proposed. This isn’t the first time this has happened, but it’s always a one-night stand where I often don’t know the other person’s name. After this cheating episode, I had the realization that I was sexual abused during my middle school years. This along with a whole host of other issues that come with being a gay man, and the son of divorced are parents, are greatly impacting my relationship. I am going to seek out therapy to ensure that this never happens again.

Hooked up with an old hookup

Friday, 4 August 2017
Made a Mistake

I fooled around with an old hookup after only about a month in to my brand new, amazing, head over heels relationship. The guilt is eating me alive, but if I told him he would never speak to me again, and I honestly think he’s the one. As long as I learned from my mistake and know better not to let myself get into a tempting situation like that again, I can move on.

By snooping I found her stash of sexual photos

Friday, 4 August 2017
Snooping and Spying

I’ve been with my girl for a couple of years now. It’s long distance but it is worth it to me. Even though we have been together in the past, we don’t currently have sex because we are waiting till we are married. It was a decision based around wanting to live our lives differently... The trouble is that from the beginning a lot of people told me that she was lying to me, playing me, stringing me along etc.

I spent a long time trying to figure out whether or not she was even interested in me and for multiple reasons it took years to work my way into us even being something more than friends on an official level... but during all that time she basically told me there was no one else.

Well, I snooped a while back and I found pictures that showed otherwise... I had been snooping not because I didn’t trust her, but because I knew that prior to our lifestyle change she liked taking naked pictures of herself and I wanted masturbation material. So long as we weren’t having sex, but we were together I figured I should still be able to do enjoy that at least... but I also knew that with this newfound chastity, she wouldn’t send me any new pics... So, I snooped in her stuff to find them...

And what I found sort of broke me... There hasn’t been anyone during the time that her and I have been together, but the time before we were together, while she was telling me that there was no one, there were apparently lots of people... and she not only took pictures of them, but for them and they definitely had sex... even a picture in the act with someone... who I hate to say, but is much more endowed than I am.

I want to continue trusting her and believing in her. I know she hasn’t cheated because she has no photos of people since we have been together (they would have been in the same place if she had). I know that I want a future with her, but I don’t know how to trust her now. I confronted her about it under the pretense of having heard about or seen the photos because someone with a grudge against her sent them to me... but I feel like I brought it on myself for snooping when I shouldn’t have been... The worst part is... I saved all of them knowing that they were for other people and with other people... and I still get off to them every single night. Sometimes they make me cry, but they are of her and I love her and I just want to be with her.

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