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My crush is leading me to want to cheat on my girlfriend

Saturday, 1 July 2017

A small crush on a friend and artistic collaborator has grown into a big crush over the last few months. Dreams and fantasies about this person wax and wane, but my psychic landscape has a seemingly permanent garden of adoration. Two nights ago, I woke up next to my girlfriend and thought I was holding my crush instead. I know rationally that it is shortsighted and damaging to my existing relationship to start an affair, but the emotions are resisting being told to be quiet.

He’s completely moved on and it hurts

Saturday, 1 July 2017
Relationship Issues

This is the first year he hasn’t told me happy birthday. It hurts even more thinking that he’s celebrating his new girlfriend’s birthday with her because our birthdays are only days apart. I wish him happiness but why couldn’t that happiness remain with me?

I want to kiss him

Saturday, 1 July 2017
Relationship Issues

I tried to kiss a man who isn’t my husband. I don’t want to kiss my husband. I want to kiss the other man.

But we didn’t kiss cause he stopped me and said “it isn’t worth it”. I know he is right. But I still want to feel his lips on mine.

Lied about number of times I had sex with my ex

Saturday, 1 July 2017
Made a Mistake

I lied to my girlfriend about a girl that I slept with when we were non-exclusive. We had a don’t-ask-don’t-tell policy during this non-exclusive first part of our relationship, so I didn’t tell her at the time. I probably slept with the girl (who was an ex) like 4 times sporadically over the course of 4 months (like twice in the summer, twice in the winter—she was away in between so nothing happened in the fall). When my girlfriend and I officially got together and became monogamous, she asked me about my past dalliances and I freaked out because I thought I’d never have to explain it to her. I ended up telling her that we hooked up a couple of times and had sex once. It’s been eating away at me for a while, and I don’t know whether to go back and amend what I said in the moment of panic or just leave it be. I love her more than I’ve ever loved anybody, and I’ve never cheated on her nor will I ever. This experience has also taught me never to lie to her again, and I’m proud to say that I haven’t at all since that one time.

Ex-husband, new boyfriend, and unwanted sex

Monday, 15 May 2017
Relationship Issues

My ex had cheated on me and I moved in with my new bf. My ex went back to Oregon, as did I a few months after to see family. We have a daughter together and every time we went to see him on out vacation he would force me into bathrooms and try to kiss me and get laid. I’d push him off over and over but the last night I was there I gave in and we had sex, I cried half way through and made him get off of me because I felt so gross. When I came back I planned to tell my bf but then we found out I was pregnant. Now it’s almost three years later and the guilt is crushing me. I know he will leave if I say anything. I deserve it I guess...

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