All Secrets Revealed by Date

I wanted her to cheat on me cause it turns me on

When I was with my ex girlfriend; she’d admitted many many dirty, and extremely wild sexual adventures; many of which involved her enjoying cheating on her ex’s. This turned me on so much. I loved the idea of her cheating on me. Well, while having sex or masturbating. Then after orgasm, thinking about her cheating on me would make me sad. I would end up getting crazy horny, and start jerking; then begin begging and begging her to tell me more stories from her past, and then would ask for stories from while we were together. Also, I’d beg her to fuck another guy and she’d always refuse and then I started often saying that she could cheat on me and it was ok and wouldn’t technically be cheating. But no luck (that I knew of) until I started begging her to cheat on me and that she wouldn’t have to tell me for a certain amount of time. She didn’t go for that, so I began saying it all the way; I’d ask and beg her to cheat on me and simply never tell me; that I loved the thought so much that I just hoped it was happening and when telling her how much I wanted it; I’d smile and say "well, I assume you are!" And much of the time she’d act like she may have been.

My 3-way turned into a 2-way without my wife

I have been married for a long time. I love my wife dearly. We don’t lie to each other at all. We have decided to start a 3-way relationship with another woman. We are all going to sleep together soon. One day I was at this other woman’s house and we ended up having sex. I can’t tell my wife because she will get very hurt but I have crippling guilt. I know that I will never ever do that again without my wife there. It’s the only time this has ever happened. If I leave it alone, we can all begin our sexual journey and all will be well but I just can’t tell my wife. I’m very ashamed of what I did.

I’m emotionally involved with my boss

I have a partner that I have been with for quite some time and have a child on the way and I love her, and I want to love only her. At work I do most of my socializing and one of my bosses is quite fun to talk to and she’s very beautiful and I get along with her very well. Even from meeting her the first time that I started there, I could feel myself tripping over what I said and I would shy away because I was intimidated by her, but I could feel an unwanted love here.

Her personality is not typically one that would match up with my own, from what I can see on her profile is that she is/was something that would never match to how I am now. She has a partner and I am happy so long as she is happy, it is strange though that I would like to kiss her once, only once. I have never thought of the idea of having sex with her, this kind of feeling that I have for her is that she watches out for me and I want to watch out for her when the time comes, I want to be able to have just general chats with her about how her day is going and share some news with her when it comes up.

I feel as though I am emotionally cheating on my partner, and I really do not want to be. These feelings came up unexpectedly and I really want to get rid of them, but I don’t want to get rid of my boss, the job is great and the socializing there is great too. When the time comes for her to leave though, I will feel a deep sadness, like as though I’m losing a sister, but I hope to feel relief as well so that my recovery from this can start and I can continue to love my partner and only her.

I want to honestly tell her that I have feelings for her and I really do not want them, especially with how my life is right now. Then after that conversation, nothing happens, it’s just acknowledged that she knows what I have said, and she is aware of it and we can continue to work together and maybe we will both be a bit more understanding of this and have a more professional handle on it. But this will never work, because when people learn of things like this, it changes the connection. I want to get drunk with her and tell her all of this, so that hopefully it will either be forgotten, or she will believe it to be just a dream and then just play it off as drunk talk, and I can go on knowing that I have expressed it and will have found out what her reaction is.

This kind of feels nice to get off my chest.

Lied about having cancer

Five years ago I lied to my friends. I told them I had cancer, and played it out very well. I’ve always felt guilty about it, and I don’t know whether to tell them the truth. I did not tell that lie to my current boyfriend, but don’t even know whether I should tell him I lied to my friends...so lost.

My drunken cheating is making me a wreck

I had a drunken one-night stand with a random girl. I’ve been married for 8 years and my wife is the only woman I have had sex with. I went to a party and ended in bed with this girl (I was so drunk). I’m in a messed up place… I can’t work or eat... I keep crying and shaking at the thought of what I just did.

I can believe I have been such bastard. I love my wife more than anything in this world she is my baby and I’m so sadden that I have done this to her... I don’t know what to do. If I tell her I think she might leave and if I don’t I may never be happy again. But I just can’t risk losing her... I know it’s her choice but I can grow from this I will never do it again, I will quit drinking and do whatever it takes. This is something I never thought I would do... I don’t know myself... I’m lost... I don’t even what to be me anymore.

Worst part is she keeps being nice to me, I love her so much and I’ve messed it all up.

What should I do?