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Will our sexual past twist into something new?

Sunday, 18 December 2016

Our relationship has always been very honest. We tell each other everything, life goals, joys and fears. I was single and he was in the midst of a divorced when we met. We got to know each other and we clicked and married after about a year of dating. After a couple of years, finally more of our previous love life came up. I told him I had a three of previous relationship and they were all passing fancies. It was actually 12 or 15; I just thought three would make him feel better. Then I asked him. He was shy at first but he told me that he had 5 previous girlfriends and, of course, his ex-wife. He told me everything. His honesty just poured out. He said that all his previous girlfriends and his first wife cheated and relatively openly. I was shocked. He seemed to need to tell me more so I asked him to be specific. So he told me every detail of his cheating girlfriends and ex-wife, a very hot large-breasted redhead, who I knew before I married him. I saw her with other men in bars and at a private house party with a tall, well built, well as they say tall, dark and handsome man who was a bass player in a very popular local jazz band. I was really amazed and really curious. So I asked more about them and how they accomplished their escapades. He went into every specific detail including the fact that he watched a few times secretly when he caught them at home a couple of times. I even asked him to tell me how he felt about it. I really did not need to ask. It was obvious considering how turned on he got relating it all. Is this normal? Funny thing is that his story really got to me too. Does he want me to be like them and cheat too? The thing is, I would never leave him. I now believe it would be great if he willingly gave me permission or even better, willingly asked me to explore and approve of my complete sexual independence.

Cheated because we never have sex

Saturday, 29 October 2016
Relationship Issues

I have cheated on my partner of 7 years again. I had previously been seeing a man who didn’t know I had a partner but I told him recently and when we met up to discuss it and essentially end it we ended up having sex. It’s really taking its toll on me. My partner loves me and I do love him but we have not had sex in almost four years. We are like roommates... It’s destroying me, we are both too nice and I guess in love with each other platonically to accept it. I know what I am doing is wrong but when you have not had physical intimacy in that long and men make you feel sexy and special again it’s too hard to resist. I wish I had the courage to accept our relationship fate. It would be best for both of us. We are 31 and I fear my lack of courage will last for the next 30 years. I am truly alone.

Cheated because I thought she was cheating

Saturday, 29 October 2016
Made a Mistake

Okay, so my S.O and I have been fighting for months now, like 5 to be exact. I’m 19 and this is my first relationship (together for a year, living together). So while we have been fighting I was just stressing like crazy and had really bad anxiety and over thinking about her cheating on me. So I did it, I slept with some random person and it was horrible I didn’t even like it, haven’t talked to that person or even seen that person anywhere. Well now, 3 months later, our relationship is getting better we aren’t fighting anymore and now I’m feeling extremely guilty about it and regret everything. Should I tell her but just fib the truth a little or never say anything?

Angry at my husband’s cheating

Saturday, 29 October 2016
Relationship Issues

Been with my husband for 7 years and married for 3. Before we tied the knot I found out he had cheated on me through texts in his phone, which he had put under a fake name. Not only did he deny it but got angry and defensive which led me to investigate further where I found emails of proof he was and also her worrying that she might be pregnant. Which was hurtful to read as I had just found out I was pregnant a week before.

Even after telling him that I was expecting he continued to deny it. Sadly enough because of me being pregnant he decides to stay with me. Which obviously made me feel like crap knowing I was 2nd choice and he only stayed with me cause of the baby. A year later he asked me to marry him... because I had his baby. Stupid enough I said yes and now we have 4 Kids. To this day all those emotions I felt that day and what I read have never left my mind because I see this girl quite a lot.

She is my sister-in-laws younger sister. So she attends all our nieces and nephews’ birthdays and some family outings. The sad thing is my husband has never really apologized, or felt bad let alone admit what he did was wrong. He somehow makes it out like if it doesn’t bother him it shouldn’t bother me. It is so awkward when I see them talking by themselves or hear my own kids say her name. This is something that will take me forever to get over and I hope I do.

Cause all I blame is myself that I wasn’t enough and didn’t satisfy him well for my husband to go out and get something on the side. My heart goes out to all whose been cheated on. I really hope that one day it’ll get easier....

Worse than being in love with my boyfriend’s brother’s best friend

Saturday, 29 October 2016

I have been with my boyfriend (H) for about a year and a half. We met about a week before our relationship started, but I have known his brother (A) for years. We were very close, and I had fallen for A for a while before meeting H. When I first met H, I was so happy and I told A that he had to meet him because I thought they would get along. They were both surprised, as was I, when they came face-to-face and told me they were brothers.

I never told H that I had fallen for A before meeting him. I once came onto A when I was wasted, but we never bring it up, so I trust him to keep it that way. Anyways, a couple of months ago, A told me that his best friend since childhood (M) was moving back into our village--since he had just gotten a divorce--and we are apparently "the same exact person", personality wise. When I met M, we immediately clicked, and I fell for him after a couple of late night talks, parties, and slow dances. H never got worried about me being alone with A or M.

I told M that I had fallen for him and that I needed to stay away from him for a while, so I would get over him. He told A about my confession, and A told me that I needed to tell H how I felt about M. So here’s my secret: I am in love with my boyfriend’s brother’s best friend, and I had a thing for his brother before meeting my boyfriend.

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