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Past and present issues
I’ve had a somewhat checkered past. Nothing terrible, but not the chaste past that my boyfriend would like to think of me. He and I want to get married, but in his mind, "we" should reveal all details about our past prior to getting engaged. The "we" means me. He maintains that he has never done anything he is ashamed of, always been a gentleman, etc. but for certain reasons, he believes that I have secrets from him. The truth is that I do have secrets from him. Things that would only hurt him that no longer have any bearing on my life and would only hurt him. At the same time, I don’t believe him for lots of reasons.
We both travel a lot for work. My time away is spent alone in a hotel room, at work, or working out. His time away, I have no idea. We have been together for two years, and there is so much I still don’t know about him.
And, since this is an anonymous post. I have also supported him the entire time we’ve been together. I’ve likely given him $200,000 in cash plus other things. I know how this sounds. It sounds like I am a pathetic woman who is being had by some man. And, you know what, maybe I am, but it could possibly end up on the other side. If it doesn’t, I’ve learned an important lesson. I’ve always thought that if someone is asking for money they must need it more than me. I don’t regret it, but you are all right. I am probably an idiot. He is probably manipulating me and controlling me.
He’s all over the dating sites
I have been with this man since 2008 and he has hurt me time after time. He lies to me, even when I catch him and have proof. He says I’m crazy and I need help. I’ve caught him on all the dating sites with his photo. Caught his texting on our bill and every time he sets his phone back to default. Then I find out seven years later he had a three some with my friend and his friend, but all the years after they were still coming to our house and I hag no clue, but when I bring it up I’m living in the past. He was texting a girl right bedside me and I found out. They’re is a girl at his job he was seeing because I left him after finding all this out and we got back together to work it out and I found out he was still texting her. He use to not worry about his work clothes so much now he does, fusses with his hair all the time, he use to not do. Swears he’s not doing nothing no more loves only me, but I’m so broken hearted and don’t believe nothing he says.
Probably cheated on my girlfriend
I don’t know if I’d call it cheating... it feels like it in the form of guilt after coming-to. After a night of heavy drinking with friends we decided to roll out back to campus (I’m a college student.) and I asked to sit in the passenger seat since this girl that was with us has had her eyes on me since Day 1 of college. I didn’t argue with my friend who insisted he get shotgun, I should’ve. I jumped in the back, the girl joined, and I started to lay lazily sprawled across her and myself (my hand was upside down on her leg). She proceeded to move her panties over and pressed my hand against her groin area where I slid my middle finger in and pulled out almost immediately. I feel terrible, I immediately regretted doing it, but it was done. It was an isolated mistake and I know that it will never happen again. I feel more devoted to my long distance girlfriend of 3 years (1 year close, when we met) than ever. I don’t feel it’s right to confess and transfer my guilt and humiliation into her pain, I will move on, I will be the best man I can be for her, and I will never put myself in that situation again. I have cut ties with this female because I’m afraid that if drunk again something else may take hold. I’ve also decided to not drink for drunkenness, and only consume 2 to 3 beers and call it quits.
Saying I have self-control feels hypocritical after what just happened, but it was the first and the LAST time I will ever oblige, whether drunken or sober, to any woman but my own.
I cheated on my girlfriend and I feel terrible. I like my girlfriend so much and we know we’re going to get married. One stupid night of drunkenness at a club and I end up sleeping with someone, it meant nothing to me but what I have done is hurting me so much. I don’t want us to break up and I know I’ll never do it again. I feel so sick and ashamed of myself. I can’t believe it.
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Sex with my ex
I am sleeping with my ex-boyfriend and we are both married with kids. We have both tried for years to stay away from each other and after a year of no connection, we spent the most wonderful night together. Now I have to find a way to stay away from him because I want him so badly...and we both know this is wrong.