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Letter from my dad

Relationship Issues
Thursday, 12 December 2013

This is the letter I got from my dad, full of b.s., considering he still lives with his girlfriend:

This is an open letter to the three of you. Let’s begin with the fact that some of my choices over the last year have been beyond bad. They have been wrong. They were never intended to cause you or anyone else pain. They were a misguided attempt by me to cope with events in my life and my relationship with your mother. My friendship with another woman was for the longest time, just that a friendship and a person that I felt I could talk to find a way to re-connect with your mother. It is solely my fault that it started to be something more than that and it is and has been over. While I can blame this mistake on the stress of the job and the attendant travel, or the slow slide into drinking too much, my indulgence into other self medications, or even the poor relationship between your mother and I, in the end it was just a poor choice on my behalf. While your mother and I still have significant issues we are attempting to work them out and I would appreciate that you respect that because we are both trying. Again, I never meant to hurt or involve you into my mess but clearly I failed miserably. All I ever wanted is for you to be happy and if that meant sending you to the college of your choice, supporting your other choices, or setting you up so that you started your adult life free of debt then I did it and will continue to do it. I have never tried to just throw money at the issue. Everything I have done has been an attempt to give you a better start in adult life than what I had. Again, I am sorry and can only hope that at some point you will forgive me regardless of what your mother and I decide to do. Dad

Still having sex with my ex

Relationship Issues
Tuesday, 10 December 2013

I have been having sex with my ex since we broke up nearly ten years ago. He has been in a relationship with his girlfriend for the past 5 years but we still have sex on average once a fortnight. Longest we haven’t had contact is a month and a half in all that time. The sex is great, the company is great and although I struggle with lack of his company every now and then, majority of the time I’m happy. I find it empowering that he would risk his situation with me. His job gives him a bit of flexibility and we agree not to message or call each other on weekends or outside of working hours unless we already know the other will be available to chat/message, but find we can usually work around our schedules to find time to ‘catch up’ As far as our friends and families know, we haven’t seen, let alone spoken to each other in almost 8 years. If only they knew.... Although it didn’t work out for us as a couple, we can’t seem to quit each other sexually, we have tried a few times but every time one of us will miss the other, and we are right back in bed again.

Didn’t tell my wife everything about my affair

Relationship Issues
Friday, 06 December 2013

My wife knows MOST of the details of my affair. I couldn’t break her any more by revealing the specific details.

Emotionally cheating

Thursday, 05 December 2013

I’m married and have been for 7 years. I cheated before about a year ago and that was only a physical affair. One night only and no emotion attached. I found out earlier this year that my wife was cheating on me, but had done so about 5 months after I had first cheated. I didn’t tell her about my infidelity until this past weekend, 7 months later. I work in an office with a receptionist that took a liking to me. We flirted off and on, sent dirty text messages to each other, emails, and we eventually would end up after work kissing in my car. We made several attempts to get together while my wife was away but it never happened. We talked more and more, on the phone and through texting. I started to have feelings and so did she. She broke it off and I fought for her to not do that. I still have to walk past her to get to my office regularly. And I have to see her around the office. It’s hard but I feel like I will put her out of my mind. The problem is my wife doesn’t know about her. She only knows who she is, not what we’ve done. My marriage is not in a good place and we’re starting counseling next week. I’m too weak to admit this emotional affair even though it needs to be talked about.

Newly unhappy

Made a Mistake
Monday, 02 December 2013

I just got married and I’m unhappy.

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