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Cheated on my wife from day one

Sunday, 16 September 2018
Infidelity

I was unfaithful to my wife from the first moment. I was addicted to sex and paid prostitutes and street transvestites from the very beginning of the relationship. Later, when I got money, I paid prostitutes, men and women, and orgies. Today we are separated, and my wife never found out. Now I’m not promiscuous but I made her suffer and I’m sorry for my deceit.

But I cannot tell anyone. Thank you for allowing me to write this.

Screwed up a relationship

Monday, 10 September 2018
Made a Mistake

I may or may not have just ruined a relationship that isn’t mine. Oh well not in my control now.

My attachment style has caused me to betray my husband

Monday, 10 September 2018
Relationship Issues

Throughout our marriage, I have put many things between my husband and I... many things before my husband. Sometimes those things were other men. I have never slept with anyone else or even come close, but on several occasions things went too far. Cybersex (twice) when we were engaged, an emotional affair (with a total of 3 kisses) when we’d been married 6 years, and a physical affair of 8 or 9 meetings (involved kissing and OM touched my breasts) when we’d been married 8 years. It’s a decade later and my husband doesn’t know. Nothing of the sort has happened since. I have been able to keep myself busy enough to repress the fact that I’ve deceived him. But recent changes have unearthed the whole pile of guilt. I am now in therapy for what my therapist has called "counter-dependent, avoidant attachment" issues. I am working on these. I love my husband, I always have. I’ve just been so afraid to get close. Now as I work through my issues I want to be close, but I am stuck. I am terrified of saying anything, knowing how it would destroy him and almost certainly kill the relationship I want to keep. And I wonder if it’s even worth it after all this time when I’m addressing the underlying issues. But I am wracked with guilt for not having been the woman he believes me to be. Is it enough that I am becoming that woman, or does the past kill the possibility of a future? I go back and forth. I have contemplated suicide, but deep down I feel that would be just one more selfish decision in a history of selfish decisions. I don’t know what to do.

Two guys who were not my boyfriend

Monday, 10 September 2018
Infidelity

I hooked up with two other guys at one weekend even though I have kind of a boyfriend for like 3 months now. I don’t want to tell him because I am too scared of how it could end! I feel terribly guilty and still regret what happened. I am too confused to talk about it with anyone... even my friends who were with me and saw how I cheated.

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