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I’ve lied about almost everything
I’ve lied to all my friends in order to earn their pity. I’ve pretended to be in a darker mental state than I actually was, pretended at anger, distress, and at emotional breakdowns just to avoid the actual problem and not look like a wuss. I’ve advertised having an eating disorder and pretended to self-harm when it was nothing more than seeking attention, and maybe a slightly unhealthy relationship with food. I’ve lied about being ambidextrous, because I thought it would make me seem cool. I’ve lied about stealing stuff, also to make me seem cooler. I’ve lied about being bullied. I’ve lied about being into stuff I’m not into just to be better friends with people. I’ve lied about not knowing anything about sex just to make myself seem more innocent. I’ve lied about everything, and now I don’t know how to address it.
Cheated with five guys
I cheated on my bf during our lowest point. With 5 men. I felt worthless and unwanted. I was desperate to feel something. What I did was wrong and completely against my character. The guilt is killing me and I’m unsure if I can live with this but I also don’t want to hurt the man I love.
Cheated on my wife from day one
I was unfaithful to my wife from the first moment. I was addicted to sex and paid prostitutes and street transvestites from the very beginning of the relationship. Later, when I got money, I paid prostitutes, men and women, and orgies. Today we are separated, and my wife never found out. Now I’m not promiscuous but I made her suffer and I’m sorry for my deceit.
But I cannot tell anyone. Thank you for allowing me to write this.
Screwed up a relationship
I may or may not have just ruined a relationship that isn’t mine. Oh well not in my control now.
My attachment style has caused me to betray my husband
Throughout our marriage, I have put many things between my husband and I... many things before my husband. Sometimes those things were other men. I have never slept with anyone else or even come close, but on several occasions things went too far. Cybersex (twice) when we were engaged, an emotional affair (with a total of 3 kisses) when we’d been married 6 years, and a physical affair of 8 or 9 meetings (involved kissing and OM touched my breasts) when we’d been married 8 years. It’s a decade later and my husband doesn’t know. Nothing of the sort has happened since. I have been able to keep myself busy enough to repress the fact that I’ve deceived him. But recent changes have unearthed the whole pile of guilt. I am now in therapy for what my therapist has called "counter-dependent, avoidant attachment" issues. I am working on these. I love my husband, I always have. I’ve just been so afraid to get close. Now as I work through my issues I want to be close, but I am stuck. I am terrified of saying anything, knowing how it would destroy him and almost certainly kill the relationship I want to keep. And I wonder if it’s even worth it after all this time when I’m addressing the underlying issues. But I am wracked with guilt for not having been the woman he believes me to be. Is it enough that I am becoming that woman, or does the past kill the possibility of a future? I go back and forth. I have contemplated suicide, but deep down I feel that would be just one more selfish decision in a history of selfish decisions. I don’t know what to do.
Two guys who were not my boyfriend
I hooked up with two other guys at one weekend even though I have kind of a boyfriend for like 3 months now. I don’t want to tell him because I am too scared of how it could end! I feel terribly guilty and still regret what happened. I am too confused to talk about it with anyone... even my friends who were with me and saw how I cheated.
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