All Secrets Revealed by Date
First kiss was with a sex worker
I went to erotic massage parlors for two years, and have stopped, but I’m afraid that I will fall into the trap again. I never thought that I would go to those places for sexual relief, and stole money from my parents to fuel that habit. I feel so ashamed of that and that I also had my first kiss with a girl at a massage parlor. I’m afraid that the girl I love now will know about this secret — whether it’s through me telling her or through finding out, and spurn me. I feel so unworthy and like a piece of trash.
Slept with a mutual friend
When my boyfriend and I were broken up I slept with a mutual friend. We both felt guilty and decided to end it. This friend and I no longer communicate. Recently, my ex and I started to date again. The friend is still a part of my ex’s life, though he lives in another state. I told my ex that I had dated and had feelings for other men and that I’d been physical with someone. My ex said he can’t blame me, that he wishes he didn’t know, and doesn’t want to know more. Do I need to tell my ex or is this something I can keep to myself?
Anxious attachment leads me to make poor choices
I have low self-esteem despite being a lawyer, quite pretty and slim. Abandonment issues. But my actions are my own. I fell in love with a friend — deep, passionate and we started a relationship. I left my husband. I adore my boyfriend. He lives 1000 miles away but I trying to move there. I got drunk and slept with a friend who was helping me deal with the divorce and instantly regretted it. Having hit rock bottom, I’m going to suck up the guilt and not burden him with this terrible thing and vow never to do anything like this again. And be the best partner I can be.
Did my ex
I slept with an ex-girlfriend while my wife was overseas. I am feeling completely guilty about it and have insomnia as I can’t let go and am feeling rather fearful and selfish about my actions.
Hiding contact with ex
I lied about my ex contacting me because it drudged up feelings and I engaged in a conversation with him. Ironically, it made me closer and more attached to my boyfriend. My boyfriend sensed something was up but he thinks it was something else and we got in a huge fight about that. Now I’m terrified my boyfriend will somehow find out the truth and never trust me again.
Hate my husband
My husband is an abusive psychopath. He’s cheated on me 2 times. Once with a prostitute and once in a relationship with someone that lasted a few months.
My cheating is getting the best of me
I cheated on my fiancée this past weekend. I feel so guilty and shitty about it. I love her with all my heart and the thought of losing her and my kids destroys me. I have no good reason why I cheated. I just met a girl online and we hooked up. I was very stressed at the time because we were moving, the kids, and we also weren’t very intimate for a while. I know it’s not a good excuse and in any way justifiable. But I can’t help but think about what I have done. I have lost sleep over it and I also am having trouble concentrating on normal tasks and eating.
I’m the other woman and he’s trying to work things out with his wife
I have been having an affair for 9 years. I left my husband 2 years ago. My lover did not leave his wife nor did I expect him to... yet. We recently got caught by his wife. He feels awful because he had recently told her their marriage was over but didn’t disclose us. Since she found out, she has begged him to stay with her. He agreed to go to emergency marriage counselling but told me it was in an effort to help her through this horrendous deception. He had one day after leaving my side and going home to deal with her pain. She took his phone and the counsellor said he could have no contact with me. I’m sick with fear that between his 22-year-old daughters threats of forever hating him and his wife’s devastation, he might decide to stay in the marriage.
I know he loves me and I know he will regret it if he stays with his wife. He is torn between what he wants and what he feels he should do. I am so physically ill with anxiety I have become depressed. I am waiting till he regains some control over his life to know what mine is going to be.
Do not come back with advice about living my own life or being calm until things work themselves out. I am in crisis mode worrying about what he’s being put through and that no therapist could understand what we are together. They will try to make him save the marriage. And make me look like the interloper... the horrible temptress that has no moral code nor cares about his daughter.
No one cares about the "mistress" who simply loves this man with her heart and soul.
Tell me what I’m missing. What am I not considering?
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