Should I Be The One To Tell?

It can be hard to keep a long term affair completely secret. It is often the case that many people know about the affair, but not the spouse.

And, if you are close to the spouse, it can be difficult to know what to do. In fact, we get many questions asking, "Should I be the one to tell? Or should I stay out of it?"

In a previous question from a viewer we discussed some of the pros and cons of being the one to expose an affair (see should I expose a cheating spouse).

It may also help to take a look at some of the issues involved when confronting the "other man or woman" (see should I confront my spouse’s lover).

And it might help to take a look at how other people are dealing with this issue: ask an expert ( see expose cheating).

Finally, there are several websites which allow people to express their feelings without getting directly involved in someone else’s affair.

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