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Past Comments – My boyfriend is never home
written by ashly, 04 June, 2007
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 years. Up until a few months ago he has changed for the worst. He doesn’t call me for hours on end, dosen’t answer his phone, treats me with no respect at all, lies to me about every thing. I could go on but I just know in the bottom of my heart that he is cheating, but I need some advice. It’s just like he woke up one morning and didn’t want to be happy with me. Like he’s not even interested in sex any more. A few months ago he wouldn’t leave me alone but now its 1 or 2 a week if I’m lucky. Do you think he’s cheating or does he not want to be with me?
written by sal, 19 January, 2008
It seems that he may be cheating. Maybe you should break up so that you can find some peace of mind.
written by Kaitlyn R., 28 March, 2009
Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 5 months and I just moved away with my grand parent but as I was leaving he told me that he was gonna spend so much time with me, he only spent time with his friends and then he barely calls me anymore and so if I call him we talk for 3 minutes which is bull because he says hes tired or all of a sudden he has to go somewhere and he never does that. I think hes cheating on me, he always says hes sorry and that he loves me but to me I don’t think he does. Do you think I should break up with him? or stay with him and talk it over with him?
written by venus, 15 September, 2009
Boys will be boys, it doesn’t matter if your the best looking gal or have more money then the rest...They like to venture in their teen years and adolescent years. Young women find Mr. right and are able to settle for him right away BUT! The young man aint gonna be ready for a relationship till he’s been through all the BS first he’s gotta go through until they are sick and tired of all the drama that comes with being ventures.or until they lose their looks from all the parting..then they are ready to settle down and be for once a real person, but it might be too late by then and you have moved on.
written by ~*Heidi*~, 31 December, 2009
As Women we seem to forget who we are and forget to think about what makes us happy and exactly what we want for ourselves. We are so willing to make someone else happy that we overlook the fact that they may not even care to make us happy or really truely LOVE us. Men will say what we want them to say and tell us what they think we want to hear just to avoid confrontation or to shut us up; but the real truth is in their actions. Whatch him..... what does he do..... do his actions say I Love You? Is he treating you like you treat him? Do you treat your best friends like that? Do you lie to your Best friends? Probably not.... so why take it from him???? The more we stand up for ourselves..... the more we break it off the very first time we are disrespected and the more we start taking care of our needs first... the more the men will come around. I have experienced this first hand many, many times...... Men love the chase and they want to feel like they have the unattainable girl. So be unattainable.... make him feel like he is the one that slipped through the cracks. You do this by being too busy for him.... take up a hobby.... go to the gym.... don’t answer his calls all the time...... don’t talk on the phone with him for hours.... be busy.... think about what you like to do, what you dream about.... attain your goals and the RIGHT guy for you will come along.... and when you have him... you still can never forget to make yourself happy! Always be honest with yourself and with your man. But DO NOT EXPECT ANYONE TO MAKE YOU HAPPY BUT YOURSELF! Then you just make sure that the guy you choose to spend your time with truly Loves, Honors, and Respects you....if not, Choose not to waste anymore of your precious time on him. A womans heart is very very deep...... you can love again and again.... each one more so than the last....... even if you are reading this right now saying yeah right I can never love like this again..... trust me honey I have been in your shoes..... YOU WILL LOVE AGAIN!
written by oriana, 13 February, 2012
thanks so much heidi! great point brought tears to my eyes been going through soo much with my children’s father just seems so hopeless sometimes! it’s very true i’ve definitely been giving to much of myself to him over the years it’s like i’ve lost myself along the way forgot the wonderful smart woman i used to be really needed this tonight thanks for your advice!!
written by JillN, 02 April, 2012
Wow, heidi you really opened my eyes. Thank you.
written by sky, 08 July, 2012
Wow thank u so much I have been going out with this guy 4 7 months now he comes home late he lies about wear he has been gets angry if I ask him wear is he he is hardly in he don’t answer my calls all the time I never can look through his phone but I love him he can’t see this I cook 4 him clean etc I have told him how I feel but no change how do I make him c wot he is doing is wrong he speaks down to me treats me like dirt how do I make him change xx sky
written by sky, 08 July, 2012
What do I do
written by Nickylala4, 10 April, 2013
You speak such clarity Heidi! My husband and I have been married for 20 years, together for 29 years, 4 boys, and for the last 8 years he has changed... he is Turkish, and seems to be constantly looking for someone better (i.e Turkish).. he used to be my best friend, but now has no time for me, or the boys! They have lost all respect for him, and he spends all his spare time playing silly war games!! Whats going on?? I know he has lied about where he is, but cannot approach him re this, as he will want to know how I found out, and this is my only way of knowing I can never let him know...
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