My husband is in love with someone else and says he is going to leave me

My husband has admitted to an affair that he says turned sexual two years ago, but he started confiding in her longer (at least five years). He says it was a mistake but one that I caused because I let my daughter take over our home. Even when I concede that may be true, he will not commit to staying with me.

He claims that his relationship with me is over and that he will eventually leave me. I keep finding things on the net that shows his love for her. He recorded sounds of lovemaking (not ours). He has pages dedicated to his soon to be the greatest wife.

This is not the man I knew and I don’t know what to do. I have no one to talk to. Please advise me.


When someone starts a relationship with someone else and tells you that he is going to leave you, listen to what he is saying. It takes two people to make a relationship work, but only one person to bring it crashing down. If your husband has decided to leave you, there is nothing you can do to force him to stay.

The loss of a relationship can be overwhelming. Even when troubled relationships come to an end, people experience grief and loss. It is critically important that you talk to a therapist as soon as you can. You need someone who can provide you with support and guidance right now. It would also be wise to talk to an experienced divorce attorney. If you are feeling vulnerable, it helps to have someone on your side who will take your best interest into account.

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