Past Comments – I think my child may have a problem with lying

written by sad mom, 06 August, 2007

Big Problem, 21 year old son is a nice kid, but lies constantly. He is allowed to leave at home as long as he is in school. He stated repeatedly that he was going to summer school. Check his grades and he failed both classes. He told me stories about passing exams, studying with groups, talking with professors etc.,. I hate to send him out with this problem, if he really needs professional help he may only get worse. Do I confront him, he does not know I found out about his failing grades and know about all his recent lies?

written by Sad Mom II, 10 August, 2007

I am having nearly identical issues with my 20-year-old son. He is also flunking classes while conning us. He actually provided a forged report card! I finally found and was absolutely stunned. We have him in therapy, but he still lies and blames everyone but himself for every little upset. Somehow he turns everything around. We are beside ourselves...we want to help but can you help someone who won’t participate? The therapy, etc., is being provided at his request, and yet he continues to lie and manipulate. And of course, he lies about lying. There is nothing in his history which would account for this – no abuse. He was an angelic child, extremely bright (33 ACT score) and it seemed in the 8th grade or so he began a decline. He is very angry all the time. Is there any "expert advice" available?

Thanks and sorry sad mom that I had nothing comforting for you. I get your pain.

written by This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it , 29 July, 2008

My friend’s 13 yr old boy has – ALWAYS done whatever you talk about – 100 times better or owns or knows everything you mention. I’m driving with him for 8 hours and very concerned how to deal with him. I get angry and hate myself for that. Please help. thanks

written by dbkjn, 03 October, 2008

I understand that we lie, our children lie and people in general lie. The question is how do you find a punishment that fits the crime? My daughter constantly lies to her teacher and us. I know that we try not to "lie" to her about things, other than Santa, the Easter Bunny, and the Tooth Fair.. When she asks we truly try to tell her the truth that fits her age of 11..
Where can you go to find out that you are not punishing them too much?

written by Kee-kee, 09 December, 2008

Hey I have a best friend who lies to her favorite teacher and cousin who’s like a mother figure to her to get attention from them and to have them to spend time with her. Why does she lie like that?

written by Julie1976, 05 October, 2009

My 11 year old daughter has lies that has resulted in serious allegations being made to police and social services, she has done this two times now in the last 6 months, both times the accused were proven innocent. i am not sure what to do, i am very worried i have even taken her to see a doctor, no one can find anything wrong with her.

written by mrs George, 15 November, 2011

We have the same thing happening to us our 15
year old daughter is harming her self to get what she wants y lying not knowing what she is doing she want come h’m and social are on her side.