Past Comments – My friend's wife has problem with cheating

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written by the girl that would know!, 05 November, 2008
Sorry but I think hes right! Call your lawyer!!! Bullshit she has a massive problem and its not going to get fixed in counseling! If she has enough self-esteem to cheat on him then shes not worth it! I’m sorry that you have been used for all those years but I would kick her butt to the curb and start new!
p.s she only went to counseling because she felt really bad about what she did and thought that this would make up for it but in the end she will just screw u over!! my best friend sleeps and does everything with my boyfriends and she always tells me she will never do it again but she always did but I told her 6 months ago that I don’t want anything more from her and my life has been ten times better and more in enjoyably and less stressful! I hope the best for jeff and hope he gets rid of her and doesn’t fall for her lies!
written by Jkk, 22 October, 2009
Its such a shame Jeff wasted all those years with his cheating wife when he could have spent them with someone else.
written by TN’s K, 05 November, 2009
I too have a habitual cheating spouse. I should have listened to my friends years ago!! Once a cheater always a cheater is so right on. It may stop for awhile but as soon as he’s feeling needy he’s right back at it. I stay because of the children and religious belief but every day I do I just keep losing another piece of myself. I’ve had many occasion to cheat right back but I don’t because I think I’m a better person than that. I’ve consulted my lawyer many times over this but have been told unless caught ‘red handed’ all comes down to He said/She said.My husband has become an expert at covering things up. A cheater is usually pretty crafty at covering their tracks. My advice- get out the first time it happens because a liar and cheater will NEVER change. Why should they when they have the best of both worlds?!
written by stepbydesign, 14 June, 2010
If your man manages to see the book Beat the *itch in your handbag, chances are he won’t even look at the other woman. Long live Tess Stimson.
written by Jane C. Walker, 27 April, 2011
The way a couple moves past lies and deceit in a marriage or serious relationship is by giving themselves time to understand what happened, why it happened, and ultimately, by making a commitment to be in the relationship in a more honest way.

Jane

written by nicenthic, 15 October, 2011
Wow, that sucks for Jeff.

Men have been born with the innate ability to keep sex separate from our emotions. Most girls do not have this ability. Once you have sex with a girl, she starts heavily investing herself in you. But it’s up to you to keep your emotions well guarded when dealing with sluts. For most semi-intelligent blokes who’ve had at least some action in his life, this is quite easy to do. But it’s not so easy for a young guy with his first few lays. This is when he might put his heart and soul into a bad apple (read: slut). He will get burned and then learn from it.

The real morons are the guys who don’t learn and invest themselves again in a another slut and possibly marry her. Then they lose a lot more than their hurt feelings – they could be stuck with alimony, child support and even a lost house. Now that’s a lesson they wont forget!

Learn some game theory and see how your mindset changes completely. You will be in power and every girl will just be another social experiment and possibly another conquest when you get good at it. You will understand women better than you can possibly imagine and use this new-found power to your benefit socially and in your personal life.
written by hopelesscheater, 13 December, 2011
I am a 26 yr old female who has been in a "relationship" for 8 years now. we have a 6 yr old son and i have been a cheater for 9 years. I always tell myself and my partner that it wont happen again....but for the past 3 yrs i just tell him to leave me. that he can do better, that he deserves better. He wont leave me so ive left him a few times, once i even got married but that only lasted a month as my ex did all he could to get me back till he did. I feel horrible when i leave him. I feel as if i cant breathe , cant live without him. Yet im destroying us, im selfish, im a hypocrite, i don’t know what to do. I think we have hit rock bottom and it hurts so much especially because i don’t want to keep hurting him. I regret everything i do , but i cant stop. I don’t have money for counseling , im not even sure id have the courage to speak this out loud. Ive tried explaining to him that i think i have a problem and i cant fix it, but he just says to fix it. I know i will be getting a lot of nasty comments after i post this which i deserve but please if anyone has any advice ...I NEED IT.
written by Forever Torn, 16 April, 2012
I don’t have nasty comments for you because I am that same man and my wife is you in our relationship story. My wife has had and affair after each of our children, we have 3. The first time lasted a month our first child was 4 months old, she will be 5 soon. The second was after my second child was 1 and a half years old and that one last 4 months. That was just last January. I took her back. She was pregnant and the birth of
My son leads me to believe he is mine cause she was with me the time
Of conception. Well he was born October 11, 2011 two weeks after his birth she began to run off with her friend again (btw this friend has been present at even occasion that these affairs began, both previous affairs began at her home) who seems to play a big part in her decision making. We are so good until this girl comes around then my wife begins to revert to a teenager and reckless decision making. Well she cheated with the guy from last year on the side again and she is involved with another guy now this time claiming she is in love with him after two weeks of "actually" being with him. I have to say I don’t find that true. Well we have three kids and I have pretty much been the main caregiver for these children even through the good times. I filed for divorce and full custody because she is unstable and abandoned us again. I really want to shut my heart down to how much I love her but I can’t. This will be a false divorce in my heart but a chance to move forward even falsely gives me hope for happiness if I can’t have it with her I hope to let go inside and move on to someone who will respect my love and keep it secure. So I say to you if you know you have a problem that you feel you can’t stop yourself then do what you have to do to get help. Sell that prada handbag or that prized possession you love so much that is valuable because your marriage SHOULD be worth it if you say you love him like you do and truly WANT to quit hurting him. Use that money to seek a therapist to find out what makes you do this and how to stop it. Now that’s what real love is about. Sacrificing what you hold dear for the one you hold dear.

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