Past Comments – I am cheating with a married man who lies

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written by Norman, 13 November, 2006

Drop this guy. If anyone, male or female, lies once they will lie again. That is not love. Do not try to understand where they are coming from, you won`t. Simply run, do not walk, in the opposite direction to where he is coming from. You sound really lovely and you definitely deserve better.

written by Jane Mercy, 22 December, 2006

You have the best proof that he lied. What more do you want? More lies?

He cheated on his wife. He lied about his own son’s condition (wimp!).

He is probably planning to cheat on you, having found a new prey.

Run and never look back.

Invest your time with men who are available, sincere and truthful and who have your well-being in mind and heart.

Good luck girl!

Ludas
written by Ahhotep, 05 February, 2007

I just left a man who lied to me and said he was single and has been a married man foe 18 yrs. who is wanting me to hang around and wait for him because he wants to leave his wife and live with me-he asked if I would put my life on hold. I said NO and get lost that I am better than this.

Dilligas
written by Ike, 05 February, 2007

Don’t be too terribly quick to judge him though. After all you ARE having an affair with a married man. He may be lying about his son, and lying in the first place by having an affair with you. But you are involved too and you know he is married.

written by Alion, 26 May, 2007

Sorry, but you got off easy. You are not the victim here. What kind of woman would sleep with a man whom they know is married?

written by Learned the hard way, 17 January, 2008

Your kidding... You can’t believe that a man that cheats on his wife, can make up a lie like that to you??? Take off those rose colored glasses and get a clue!!!

written by get smart, 22 January, 2008

What do you think cheating is??? Anyone who can cheat........."lies"!!!

written by Someone who knows, 15 July, 2008

I am not sure why you feel you are in love after just two months of knowing this man?... I do however understand you, I was married for 8 years and my ex cheated on me, countless times. Needless to say I hated the females who slept with him and wondered how a woman could place her self in such a horrible situation. Well I am now 35 and have been single for 3 years... I recently meet a wonderful man 6 months ago as I was having lunch.. He was charming and seem to take a huge interest in me. I was taken by him and yet held back because of my prior experience.. Well we exchanged numbers after spending lunch together and he wasted no time to call me that very night.. I didn’t answer his phone calls for several days and finally decided ‘I had nothing to loose’ Since then we spend 2-3 days out of the week together and needless to say I feel complete next to him... He is this wonderful addition to my life and I enjoy just holding him and feel at peace in arms.. ‘Night and day from my prior relationship.’ We just became sexually involved a month ago and as awkward as I thought it would be, it was the complete opposite. He was perfect and so in tune with me... us.. Well 2 weeks ago as we were finishing up with dinner, he pulled out his credit card and out fell a picture of him with a women and two kids.. My mind couldn’t process it, was I now that other woman? He was nervous and just looked up at me and said "he could explain." He went on to said he was not in love with her, that she is an amazing wife and mother but there’s no love.. He went on to explain his children are to young for him to leave and that they are the sole reason why he has not left. He begged me to understand him and he couldn’t stop repeating how much he loved me.. I asked him to take me home I, tired not to cry and not once did I ask why he never mentioned it... I knew the answer to that.. I once was in his wife’s shoes. He called, visited me at home and at work shortly after.. We discussed our feelings and how confused I was with this and once we kissed... I became that other woman... I am not sure if we will ever be together, I am just happy to have my friend back.. We are not been sexual since, I am not able to give him that at this point.... I have learned good girls aren’t immune to these situations and love as insane as it may sound works in mysterious ways.... This man who is married and treatments me with respect is who I want to be with. I do know if within 6 months if he is still leaving with his wife, I will walk away and thank him for being a wonderful man to me, with no regrets. So to all of you who look down on the other woman, re-think before you judge...

written by vk, 01 August, 2008

How do you feel been his bit on the side, you have no self respect to be in that position in the first place, you need to realize this guy is using you and his wife. If he didn’t care about his wife, why hasn’t he left her then? Get real love.

written by spicegirl, 23 December, 2009

Lets break this down " I am CHEATING with a MARRIED man who LIES????
Hello??????
When did the light finally come on?

written by the affair to forget, 10 April, 2010

I had an affair that ended recently. We noticed each other in a bar, I with friend, he with a client. His client left and he bought us a few drinks. He left me his number and wrote on a napkin that I should call or text if I am bored. I texted him the next day. He was engaged at that time. We flirted and hung out for about two months. Meeting for cocktails and then having major make-out sessions, which eventually lead to sex. About four months into it, December 2008 he got married. He even emailed and texted me on his honeymoon in Mexico.

I had been married for three years and been faithful to my husband/boyfriend for 10 years. I knew what I was doing was wrong, but I couldn’t stop. It was like being addicted to a drug.

I fell in love with him! We spent the night together less than a month after he got married. One night he professed his love for me. He got upset, almost to the point of crying and told me "I am falling in love for you, but just got married to someone else". In May of 2009, about nine months after the affair started he started to act very different. Everything continued, but he acted very different. We had always agreed that, we would be upfront and honest with each other.

To make a long story short, I found him online looking for "pussy" as he put it. I was upset, but didn’t let him know it was me.

I did some awful revenge......

I thought it would make me feel better, but I am still madly in love with him. I just don’t know how to get over him.

written by To the affair to forget, 15 May, 2010

What in the hell are you thinking? you are seeing a cheater... who is a total loser. I don’t get it with you women. My husband had an affair with a woman after 21 year of marriage and 2 kids. I read these stories and I am happier to be single and if I need some fun I buy some batteries. The batteries don’t cheat or give me std’s. I can’t believe you girls who try to take someone else’s husband and then want sympathy! Get a clue that karma with come around. Geez. Gross. Please get some self respect. I hate cheating men, but it takes these home wrecker women to tango. Us girls should be watching each others backs, no? I actually didn’t know who the adulteress was with my husband, but I wanted to find out so I could thank her for releasing me from such an abusive relationship. Her husband never found out as far as I know, but the poor guy will probably end up with herpes. I just don’t know who she is or who he is. Poor guy. At least I avoided that!!!!

written by Hopeful!, 28 July, 2010

I met someone I was strongly attracted to immediately. I knew we would get together and the fact I now know he’s married makes it very hard for me because I feel extremely guilty but we have fantastic chemistry, the sex is amazing and we get on really well too. I’m hopin that he will leave his wife of 20 years but I’m starting to think it’s not likely. I know he’s not satisfied with her and tries to see me as often as possible but it’s getting to the stage where it’s not going to be enough soon. What can I do? Am ultimatum is the only option I can think of which will end it all I’m sure but I’ve fallen for him massively and want more from him. Any advice? (I know the pitfalls, I know it’s horrid of me but you can’t help who you’re attracted to can you?)

written by nolongerdisrespected, 07 December, 2010

To Hopeful & all other OWs:
Um yea, you can help who you are attracted to. Starting with respecting yourself and staying away from all MM! So you are afraid to give your MBF an ultimatum? Why? Because deep down you know they NEVER leave their Wives! I am sure you’ve heard the old song and dance about how his wife is not understanding of his needs and that they don’t have sex anymore but live like roommates. HA! Nothing is farther from the TRUTH and you are just living off someone else’s scraps. The fact that your MBF has to "make time" for you should tell you right there. I am sure he ALWAYS has time for his wife. Take your rose colored glasses off sweetie and close the bakery shop! Your MBF is one big "cake eater". My H’s skanky ow did not believe me when I told her he was free to be with her. Only he chose NOT to go to her. Said she made him want to vomit. And Btw- the big attraction in this case was alcohol! Once MM sobered up he wanted nothing more to do with the ow and anyone else like her...

written by cheramie, 26 April, 2011

I meet one guy he told me he was divorce two kids an d he was looking for a girlfriend. He told me that I was attractive to me. He asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend. I never say yes or not, but he told me this has to be very secret between you and me. when he say that, I felt that something was not right. I tried to investigate about him, but no luck his the name he gave was not his real name. finally I ask some one to run his plate number, and then i found out he was married. all he wanted was to be pleased he involved me with lies. I see him every where he doesn’t know that I know who is him.

written by winie A Kamanyire, 14 June, 2011

It is so absurd that you have chosen to move out with a married person.

That’s a lie enough.

Would you like to give your life to Jesus Christ and determine your destiny.

written by sara2001, 21 August, 2011

These unfaithful selfish men, I HATE THEM. Look at what they are doing to us women. when is it enough. Im just so mad that we allow these men to come into our life and destroy it. I fell for a married man and it has been the most painful experience of my life. and it is all his fault. Hes married, he shouldnt be out there sleeping and making other women fall in love with them. The poor wife has nothing to do with it, shes home taking care of the kids and her man while hes out there sleeping with anyone he can and then breaking hearts. I wish there was some way they could pay back for the pain they are causing.

written by pta09, 24 September, 2011

Sara2001 – it’s all his fault, huh? Who the hell asked or made you to fall for a married man? Grow up. You’re just as much to blame as he is. Karma’s a bitch.

written by KARMAcomingforYOU!, 06 October, 2011

WOMEN (oh wait your not a women YOUR A little GIRL) why the hell are you with someone whos married! WOW!!! YOU know HE HAS A WIFE!!! Would you like it if your HUSBAND with with another women if you were married!

----really?? YOU HAVE NO HEART!!! i am now divorce because STUPID BITCHES LIKE YOU RUIN LIVES!!!

written by Alex Singapore, 24 October, 2011

Company Big Boss is having affair with his own Marketing Senior Manager, traveling together to Europe to make love behind their spouses. Both are married with kids, woman 40+ with 2 kids and boss with one kid. Everyone is talking about it and disrespect to both of them for behaving like incest. Worse than ANIMAL.

written by Selenge, 14 November, 2011

I don’t think it’s fair to come down so hard on the OW. She can’t do anything the man doesn’t want or allow. The OW doesn’t ruin lives, HE does. If it wasn’t her, it’d be some other woman. Let’s be real here & blame the ones who are really to blame. The OW has NO OBLIGATION to the wife. The husband does. He’s the one she took vows with; and I say this as a woman who has been on both ends of this type of situation.

written by Minnsey, 14 November, 2011

I don’t think it’s fair to come down so hard on the OW. She can’t do anything the man doesn’t want or allow. The OW doesn’t ruin lives, HE does. If it wasn’t her, it’d be some other woman. Let’s be real here & blame the ones who are really to blame. The OW has NO OBLIGATION to the wife. The husband does. He’s the one she took vows with; and I say this as a woman who has been on both ends of this type of situation.

written by I luv Char, 15 November, 2011

I met this guy back in June. A family member had just passed away and I really needed someone to talk to and there he was. We had good times and I started to believe he was THE ONE. However, he did a few things that seemed odd and I had to get to the truth. At the end of October, I found out that he has a wife and a child who is probably a year old.

I was so upset! How could I have been so blind? I will NEVER trust another man again unless I investigate first. Poor wife and child! My immediate concern was HIV & STI. Phew negative. So I thought, how many other women is he with? My next concern was the baby. Imagine if he gets HIV in the future, he will pass it onto the wife and then the wife to the baby via breast milk. I was FURIOUS! How can someone take such risks? How can someone be soooooo manipulative, deceitful, cowardly and TOTAL GARBAGE! My God, to think I once thought of him as kind, intelligent, cultured, interesting, etc ONLY TO FIND HE IS TOTAL GARBAGE! Why would I want to continue with scum like this? He is NOT a man. A man who has problems with whatever, has the courage to DO THE RIGHT THING! A man IS NOT a coward who brings in a third party to "band-aid" a problem. I will admit, I sometimes miss the companionship but HELL my values and my belief in marriage are things he will never attain. I am WORTH SO MUCH MORE! I do not mix with GARBAGE! Btw, I alerted the wife to his activities. Poor thing had no clue.

written by Selenge, 17 November, 2011

I totally understand. I’ve definitely learned my lesson but dont get me wrong; I blame myself too. My only difference is that me and the MM hadn’t had sex yet. It was an emotional affair. I did have a chat with the wife when she called me and that was 2 years ago. They have since moved and I had put him out of my mind until he just started back contacting me (which his wife is unaware of). He’s evidently unhappy or else he wouldn’t be back contacting me....smh at their whole marriage. I just don’t see why these wives gripe about the OW so much when they’re never going to leave him regardless of what he does. I mean at that point, she’s only a victim by choosing to stay with someone she knows will never change. That’s on her at that point, for sitting around waiting for a man to grow up.

written by Michelle1511, 11 December, 2011

Wow, is all I can say!

you other women sure have some major justification going on. Bottom line is, if a man is married, and u don’t, yes, u are safe, but once u do find out, then u need to MOVE ON! As simple as that. If u r a REAL woman, that should be an automatic turn off, a serious game changer for you. If u found out he was HIV positive you’d move on quickly wouldn’t u, love and all would be out the door. That’s the way it should be with marriage. U should be out the picture ASAP. Stop justifying this madness out of your selfishness. "We fell in love". YOU did, he didnt.
"HIS WIFE IS NOT TREATING HIM RIGHT." Thats usually the biggest and oldest lie around, stop falling for it. To sum it up. If a man wanted to leave his wife because he’s found everything in you that she lacks, why hasnt it happened yet? Some of you OW, wait after finding out for years, on the back burner. And justifying stuff away. The man isnt going anywhere. Stop wasting ur time on someone elses husband, get ur own husband, if thats what u want to badly.

written by..., 30 March, 2012

I was dating a MM for a year. I was only 20 when we met and he was 13 years my senior. He claimed that he was going through a divorce and basically manipulated and lied to me throughout. Being so young, now i realize how naive and stupid i was. Once my suspicions were raised i made sure i ended the relationship. A couple of weeks later i found out that he and his wife were buying a new house and that all of his pathetic sob stories were pure bullshit. To cut it short its the shameless disgusting MM that are to blame. Preying on young girls just to feed their insecurities. This has been one of the hardest things i have ever had to deal with in my life, because i really did fall in love with him. I just hope karma pays him back, NO-ONE deserves to be lied to and cheated on whether it is man woman wife or husband. Anyone that does deserves to die alone because the pain they cause is unbearable. My advice is stay well away from anyone who is ‘separated, going through a divorce’ etc cos they are most likely LYING! And especially stay away from filthy old using men who can’t hack the reality of their shitty lives. If you can’t hack being married DONT GET MARRIED IN THE FIRST PLACE!!!

written by JD2012, 01 April, 2012

I hate MMs. Wasted 6 years of my life on one and I am only 29. Could have met someone else a long time ago but this idiot wouldnt let me go and I couldnt be away from him. Here I am 6 years later. Him still with his wife and us with a 3 1/2 year old daughter.

I am so over him.

written by Black qween, 13 April, 2012

I have to say everyone has a good point regarding mm I too got blinded by a married man years after me an my husband parted he a big cheater. But, some woman push there men out there. Like this mw did she had herpes an wasnt woman enough to tell him. And he effected me an when I told her she laugh and she already knew she played him just to get half of everything an blame him when she was a big hoe. So woman can be just as bad as men

written by lovely1, 20 April, 2012

Hi I recently also got involved with a married dude from another state and I am married also. I was feeling very very vulnerable because my marriage has many many issues for a long time and I opened my heart to this guy as he was and still is having issues in his marriage as well. After reading all of this, I know it was not right because just as all of you said it is downright disrespectful and says a lot about who he is. I am still dealing with the hurt over him! I fell and no we only had a fling for a few months but still I was vulnerable because of my own marriage issues (married to an alcoholic) it is tough I am depressed most of the time and the dude was there for me emotionally and physically. Now he left the state and I am sure on to the next vulnerable female. He texted me this morning I have not responded because I need to cut contact. He has not been mean to me or abusive ? but i know it is a dead end until I get over him I feel cutting contact is best I will never do this again. I put myself in the wife shoes and feel really bad for her but he told me that she has found numbers in his phone

written by frankee92, 05 June, 2012

I met a MM through working at a local theatre. I often caught him looking at me and I knew I fancied him but thought nothing of it because he’s married and 20 years my senior (I’m 20, he’s 40). We spoke all the time at work but then one day on facebook he told me how he felt and told me how beautiful and funny i was and that he fantasized about me. I was extremely flattered but at the same time couldn’t believe that he was saying all of this to me. We then decided to meet for a drink and spoke about things and just generally had a laugh. He gave me a lift home and he looked into my eyes and kissed me. We made out for a while. So every so often I would meet him and just make out. Until one day I asked him if he wanted to come over for a cup of tea. I genuinely just wanted to see him as I love his company but as we were talking on my sofa, I could see he was gradually getting closer and we made out again. We were then on the floor, touching each other and kissing for quite some time. Afterwards he said he had to go because he had to pick up his daughter from school. We then didn’t see each other for a month and then he came to my house again but this time we ripped off each others clothes and had passionate sex. It was that day that I asked myself what the fuck am I playing at? He hasn’t had sex with his wife for five years but does that mean that he can use me for sexual pleasure? As much as I loved him, I realised that I was so naïve. He’d been preying on me and had even asked me to wait for him. He shouldn’t have ever told me how he felt about me, he should have kept it to himself. I know I’m not innocent here. I know I should have never fallen for him whilst he was a married man but he shouldn’t have been perving on a young woman that was half his age. I ended it with him because I know I deserve better than being someones bit on the side and I will NEVER be fooled into anything like that again.

written by paulaw, 02 July, 2012

Get money from these bastards. You women do not know how to play the game.

written by Sally m, 02 September, 2012

I was in love with someone who was single but he didn’t treat me right he always put me down in front of everyone, every time i went home from college i would cry because i used to think that i am not good enough for him , so when i got my first job i met this man who was five years older than me at first we became good friends and i started to like him because he always made me laugh and never let a tear come to my eye.

Fate has it that i was with a friend day and we were talking about him and she knows him too. she told me that he is married and has a baby with his wife, i didn’t believe it at first then when i went back to work i asked some of my other friends and they had told me that yes he is married. Everything just seemed a joke to me, till this day he has not told me and unfortunately i have too deep to turn back round again.

This is not what i want to , i refuse to let my selfish side to get in between his wife and child, because i know that if it ever happened to me then i would lose all hope in loving again. She probably has made many sacrifices for him and him being a pig will never understand. I’m still hurting because i’m really trying to move on but i don’t know how to.

One advice never , if a man seems too nice never trust him until you find out if he really is single or not. Its best to walk away before it gets too late.

written by Anonymous2, 27 September, 2012

Just use him for sex. You will be OK.

written by A girl finding her way, 18 October, 2012

Get a grip on the real world all your small minded self righteous people! You are living inside a bubble. I know, I was lucky enough to have had the security of living in one too ‘once upon a time’; until my perfect world was suddenly & tragically torn apart. No excuses for OMG – having the audacity to be human and seek companionship and love, perhaps (in your eyes) the wrong places. Life is life, people are people, life is complicated. I truly hope your bubble never bursts and you won’t have to try and stumble your way through the darkness.

written by Ronni, 30 October, 2012

To Selenge.. I find it funny that you’re sitting there scolding the wives for staying with the cheating husband whom you claim "will never change", Yet YOU are sitting there like some desperate puppy, still giving your "married guy" the time of day after getting dumped by him 2 yrs ago..and now he’s calling you again because he needs a little detour in his life.. Don’t think for a minute... that this guy would EVER be true to you if the wife ever wises up and dumps him... and here is a news flash... if she DID leave him, 9 times out of 10 you would never hear from him again because then, YOU would be "old news"...HE will be on the prowl looking for a fresh GF to tell all his stories to so he can make believe he’s her hero... BELIEVE ME..you need to be looking in the mirror when you say how married men will never change.

written by Bullshitfamoubluesdrummerwhocheat, 04 December, 2012

Thanks for this site,I was involved long time with this MM who is very famous blues drummer in USA.he is on tour all most of his year.
I told him from the beg...I am not going to go out with MM or someone in relationship..He said he divorced twice but no relationship.
Well he was marred and yes he is still.I just found out.he proposed me 3 times while he is marrying wife he is the amazing liar !!just amazing like his drumming skills !!must be more out there who don’t know he is married.....so many poor man who have no balls to live life with integrity and honesty...Thank you for this site.make me strong to act...these guy are really amazing to make you trust....watch out with perfect words they give you. If you meet this very famous blues drummer age late 50.ask him if he is married or not....and do not even go there..he is living with wife in Oregon USA I pray for their happy fake marriage and I live with integrity and will find real love....YES!!

written by No excuse, 23 January, 2013

I was the wife who was left behind for the other woman!!!! Hurt so bad..could never understand how a woman(and my ex) could be so heartless and do that to a family... My children still have a hard time with the way it all happen..my son caught him once and he threaten him if he told me... How do you make your own child keep secrets like that from their mom ??
With that all said and done here I am 18 years later involved with a married man... I do NOT want his wife to find out and I would absolutely die if my children found out... So all this love I have been thinking I feel for this man is not worth the worry of a week , fear, depression, and the list could go on forever... I did send him a e-mail telling him it is over... How many times have I done this??? Probably no less than 20 times!!! I have been on the Internet reading about woman like me for over a week now and I believe I can do it this time... Like I say I have no excuse... Other than lonely and thinking I love him... I know I know he is not mine and I have no rights!!!! Please God I hope I am strong this time!!!

written by opportunist, 07 February, 2013

Please no judgments. Just say what you wont do. other woman, married man, cheating wife, open relationships... hey, things happen!! marriages get destroyed, outside babies are made, hearts get broken.... all because love was impressed with the connection of two people.