Any success stories about compulsive lying

I’ve been in a relationship with a compulsive liar for 4 years. It didn’t really dawn on me how bad the lies were until my 11 year old son told me that he couldn’t trust anything "Bob" said and that he didn’t want me to marry him. This was the day before the wedding!

I went through with the wedding in a state of shock (and drank a lot of champagne!). This was 2 weeks ago.

Since then it has been like the flood gates opened and all the inconsistencies and exaggerations over the years have washed over me. I’ve been blind to most of it because he is so charismatic and charming most of the time and I do believe he really loves me.

I remember thinking (hoping) that it didn’t affect anything because the lies weren’t really hurting anybody. Now I realize that I can’t trust anything that comes out of his mouth anymore. He’s also very good at it and covers up well and he has no remorse when he’s called on the lies. He just gets defensive and turns it on me so eventually I shut down and give up. He can also be intimidating and scary when he’s angry. He has smashed cell phones, thrown chairs, driven recklessly, etc (has never raised a hand to harm me though).

My question is: Does anyone out there have experience with someone who has been "cured" of compulsive lying? Are there any success stories out there?


Compulsive lying is often linked to an underlying personality disorder (see compulsive lying). If this is the case with respect to your husband, solving this problem won’t be easy.

Does anyone have a success story (or any other insight) they would like to share? Please leave a comment below.

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