Polite Disengagement – Warning Signs of Emotional Cheating

The following behaviors may indicate that a spouse is in love with someone else, but still has feelings for you.

May seem to need more space, privacy, autonomy, or time to self
May seem bored with you, family, work, or home life
May seem emotionally distant or checked out
May not say “I love you” as much or express affection
Less excitement to see you or enjoyment to be around you
May express concerns about being in love or the relationship
May seem reluctant to make future commitments and plans
May offer excuses about not planning future trips, vacations, and family visits
May try to avoid conflict, fighting or arguments
Less interest in having sex or sex is less passionate
May feel like your partner is going through the motions or seem distant during sex
Less expression or sharing of feeling
Sudden changes in schedule is making it difficult to spend time together
Partner may seem depressed, distant, confused, or caught day dreaming
Unusual mood swings
Unusual phone activity or text messaging
Suddenly keeps cell phone away from you
May try to fix perceived insecurities (e.g. lose weight, workout, new clothes)
May be more difficult to reach or get a hold of than before
Phone calls might not be returned right away

Essentially, a spouse or partner who acts like this may be in love with someone else, but does not want to hurt you.