It is not a lot of fun to have an anxious-ambivalent style of attachment or date someone who does. Anxious-ambivalent individuals obsess on their relationships, can be overly needy, are constantly worried about being abandoned, exaggerate their emotions, and tend to act in controlling ways (see, attachment styles).
New research, however, highlights one advantage anxious-ambivalent individuals may bring to the table. Anxious-ambivalent individuals can detect deception better than other people. Their hyper-vigilant nature may actually be a blessing in disguise when it comes to reading other people’s behavior.
But, is this gift really a good thing? People in relationships are happiest when they fail to see the truth (see, catching lovers lying). And given anxious-ambivalent individuals’ tendency for exaggeration, it is an open question if people take their point of view seriously. Like the boy who cried wolf, anxious-ambivalent individuals might be better at seeing the world as it really is, but unable to convince others to see it the same way. Another irony of life revealed.