Wow... I've learned more about myself and past relationships in a hour than I have in over a year of counseling. A great website, a sure favorite and I can't wait to read all the sections! Thank you!  Anonymous
Nov. 3, 2007

I just want to tell you - THANK YOU! I came across your website by accident. I am dealing with an issue that involves a host of things including lying from a ex lover. And your website provided me a lot of insight and information. I also, made use of your link 'Ask an Expert.'. And additionally, the card trick is a good example of self deception, but never mention how it works. But it works every time! Again-thanks! Olivia
Dec. 26, 2006

I just wanted to say "thank you" for letting me vent here on this site and to other women (and men) who have been cheated on. I know it will get better. Dawn
Dec. 1, 2006

I think that the most awful emotional roller coaster ride of one's life occurs when you can feel that the one you love might be betraying you. Besides the emotional trauma, you have to worry about contracting AIDS or STD's from a cheating mate. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and I can tell you that the feeling that you have when the other is cheating is unmistakably powerful, and ruling. This site has been a bittersweet experience for me. My boyfriend rated Above Average on the likely to cheat scale. Wow, I didn't realize how hard it would be for me to wrap my brain around the results, and validate something that I think I already knew. So, how can I determine if my deepest fears have already taken place? How can I put an end to that sick feeling I have about this? How can I look at him without wanting to knock him upside his head and say "How can you be so stupid?" And last but not least, how do you hold it inside until you have "Proof"? I know most people don't even want to deal with liars, I know I don't. Where are the values and the morals of people? Well, I feel sick about the whole deal. I have confronted my boyfriend with my suspicions, which are based on his own admissions of semi-infidelities. He was drunk one night recently and felt that he should get things off his chest that happened about 4 years ago. They didn't involve sex according to him (YEAH RIGHT!!), and both women that made the advances at him were my FRIENDS!!! They continued to come to my house after the fact, and he waited 4 years to tell me???? I wasn't home both times, and you know the saying - When the cat’s away the mouse will play. It took me 2 days just to absorb the news, and on the second day I threw up about 5 times and cried allllll day. After reading your site I decided to confront him and of course he didn't even remember saying those things and played dumb da dumb dumb dumb!!!! SOOOOO, I am scheduling a polygraph test for him to take first thing Monday morning, and HE'S going to pay for it. After 7 years we have been talking about getting married (first time for us both), and I sure as hell don't want to find this out later and be headed straight for divorce court!! Yes it's going to hurt like hell, but it's hurting me more now living with all these suspicions. So to anyone who's in my situation, I give the following advice: READ UP, calm down, and take action! NO ONE DESERVES TO LIVE IN SADNESS!!! Hey, if he fails the polygraph - guess what? I am leaving - him, a 2006 BMW 745Li, a brand new million dollar house, and a lot of spending money BUT I AM LEAVING WITH A SENSE OF WHO I AM AND WHAT IS RIGHT. The things that are most important in life are the things you can't buy. Cindy
October 7, 2006

My husband sent me this website while he was working out of town. I have to admit when I opened it I was a little confused as to why he would send me something like this, but after reading it I saw how this can and will help our relationship. Yes, we have had trust issues and we probably will again in the future, we are human, but, I do believe that the things we learned will help us to overcome some of the painful issues that come with intimacy. Thanks so much for the accurate information and simple to follow advice. I am passing this on to my older children so they might sidestep some relationship mistakes. Sarah
September 21, 2006

I just want to say THANK YOU for your efforts, energy, research, and insight. You are providing a tremendous service and resource. Thank you very much! MQ
September 20, 2006

Your website is informative, truthful, and logical. Please keep up the good work! Bianca
August 24, 2006

THIS IS AN EXCELLENT SITE!!! I'm going thru a horrible, nasty divorce from a marriage that included infidelity (w/my best friend of 15 years), lies, deceit and drug use. In short, my marriage and subsequent nasty divorce has completely jaded my opinion about men, love, cheating and lying.

Nonetheless, I started dating again and have seeing someone for almost 8 months now -- he is going thru a kindler, gentler divorce. Recently, he expressed the need to not get tied down in a relationship. Thinking rationally, this makes sense as I am almost 2 years into my divorce and he's only 8 months into his separation. This request seemed logical and something that needed to be done before we could commit much further. I have faith that if it's meant to be it will happen.

However, thinking emotionally, I want to know everything he's doing, when he's doing it and with whom he's doing anything and everything. I discovered recently some sexually charged text messages to/from a woman in another state whom he's mentioned before. He was totally embarrassed, ashamed and very angry. Before visiting your site, I decided to take a different approach to this and discuss the discovery with him calmly. I expressed my feelings of jealousy, hurt and sense of betrayal, but at the same time I understood the relationship, but wanted to know more about how threatening it was us. He was shocked at how calm and rational I was being. Problem was... that seemed to be the calm before the storm because lately I've been increasingly curious, jealous and have a strong desire to snoop, snoop and snoop some more. So, I turned to your site for a thorough read-thru and have gained INVALUABLE insight about myself and how to approach this point in our relationship. I didn't realize how much my own betrayal of his privacy was just as hurtful as my learning of his text sex.

Your site helped me to understand the fundamentals behind both of our feelings and, I think will help both of us moving forward. It also helped me to gain a little more insight about the behaviors of my ex-husband. Thank you for providing this wonderful resource for both men and women!!! Bravo!!! Name Withheld
August 22, 2006

After looking at the Site Map, I see that I have only read half of this site so far, but it has already given me a clear picture of the recent events which have taken place in my life. I was inadvertently sucked into a relationship triangle, and over the last two months, I have been slowly discovering what the truth is about my situation. Ironically, this is the first time I have felt jealousy in my life, and I really didn’t know, up till now, why my emotions were getting the better of me. The “truthaboutdeception.com” has given me a full understanding of my behavior and my now ex-girlfriend’s behavior. The best part is that I feel no bitterness towards anyone, and if anything feel a bit sorry for the other guy in this triangle, who is probably still suffering lingering suspicions. I am sure that I will still have to suffer the odd pang of missing my ex in the near future, but considering the nightmare roller coaster I was on not so long ago, this web-site has enabled me to truly find peace of heart again. Thanks to all who have worked, and are working, to make this site. You are all doing something really worthwhile. Chris
June 25, 2006

This is a fantastic Website. I've searched long and hard for a website like this. The information is direct, relevant, and honest. Not only that, most of the information is referenced from credible sources. Thanks, I'm really finding this to be a great resource in rebuilding myself and my relationship. Name Withheld
June 7, 2006