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This information is so valuable to me!  I have failed to be the man I should be in my marriage (no infidelity).  I have lacked the skills to be intimate and sensitive to my wife.  We are separated and may still be able to work things out.  The materials you have shared will help us tremendously!  They are so specific and applicable... thank you!  Jerry
December, 13, 2011

Everybody who puts work into this site is an absolute LEGEND.  I learned so much in about an hour.  I'm going to show my partner some of the articles tomorrow - he's dismissive and I'm anxious - shock horror!  Thank you so so so much, if I could hug you, I would :)  Name withheld
December, 11, 2011

Thank you for maintaining this website. It has helped me survive the trauma of infidelity, and to give me, and others like me (sadly, so many) a support system.  I truly thought I was losing my mind and just wanted to die, until I found your site and realized that what I was feeling was normal, given the circumstances.  I did not have a support system in place, and the only person I could talk to was the very person who so badly wounded me.  We are working our way through recovery and support, and your unbiased site has been invaluable.  Thank you so much.  Marie
November, 22, 2011

Great website and has really helped me understand and clear my head about things going on in my life. I want to thank anyone that helps this website grow and become better. I highly recommend the Tell Your Secrets page. It really helps to clear the mind about issues you're going through and sometimes it can be the first step to telling someone about what's going on and making a difference for the affected party. Once again SPECTACULAR website; and I'm happy to say that it's the first that I've ever extensively commented on.  Name withheld
May, 17, 2011

For one that does not comment on websites, I want to thank you!  This is one of the few websites that offers constructive and helpful advice for someone like me  who is going through a painful time.  I was so refreshed that you offered the advice without some catch to the end.  Thank you. Anonymous
June, 25, 2010 

Thank you so much! This site has been immensely helpful to me. The information has helped me turn a corner in my life. It's been a very long 8 years with a husband who lies and cheats. Finally, through experience, 2 years therapy and 1 year of couples counseling, books, and this site, I am able to understand everything so much better. Things are not resolved yet, but I feel that having a clearer understanding of things is what I need to take the next steps. Thank you, thank you, thank you! Anonymous
March, 19, 2010

You site is really phenomenal. My boyfriend has lied to me about many things but recently come clean (long letter). I have struggled to figure out whether he is a sociopath, a kind but wimpy guy or what? Your site has offered me the clearest path to understanding what is going on. I appreciate the information, lack of judgmentalism and full discussion of a subject that most people deny and fail to explore. Thank you for your in depth views and insights. My hunch is that I will make things work with my boyfriend. But I have to say, most people would have said abandon all hope and what a fool you are to try to understand. Again, my thanks. Hazel
Dec. 9, 2009

Finally, the website I was looking for! I have been desperately in need of the information on this site as I've been struggling to heal from my boyfriend cheating on me a year ago, followed by many months of lying (the lying is the hardest, most painful part to recover from). I went to two counselors (am still seeing one) but this site has already proven to be more helpful. Thank you so much for providing this information and giving it in an unemotional, reasonable manner -- you will help me to regain my sanity. After so many months of searching in agony for truth and understanding, I am so relieved to get some answers on this site. THANK YOU for helping people, please keep it up! Kris
Oct. 15, 2009

This is an absolutely wonderful site. My husband and I are in crisis right now, and it is so comforting to know it IS POSSIBLE to get through anything. Thank you for all of the expert and objective advice! Anonymous
Aug. 18, 2009

This is one of the best "Self-Help" websites I have ever seen. Thank you so much for taking the time to put this all together and teaching me about what I am going through. I think this website just saved my marriage. Anonymous
July, 9, 2009

I just wanted to thank you. Your website has taught me a lot about my spouse and myself as well. After reading I felt a great sense of relief and I feet a lot more in control of the problem I was having. Thank you so much!  Holly
March, 12, 2009

Thank you so much for the insightful information you share sincerely here. I am currently engaged, but I think you might have just saved me from years of heartaches ahead. Anonymous.
Oct. 23, 2008

Wow... I've learned more about myself and past relationships in a hour than I have in over a year of counseling. A great website, a sure favorite and I can't wait to read all the sections! Thank you! Anonymous
Nov. 3, 2007

I just want to tell you - THANK YOU! I came across your website by accident. I am dealing with an issue that involves a host of things including lying from a ex lover. And your website provided me a lot of insight and information. I also, made use of your link 'Ask an Expert.'. And additionally, the card trick is a good example of self deception, but never mention how it works. But it works every time! Again-thanks! Olivia
Dec. 26, 2006

I just wanted to say "thank you" for letting me vent here on this site and to other women (and men) who have been cheated on. I know it will get better. Dawn
Dec. 1, 2006

My husband sent me this website while he was working out of town. I have to admit when I opened it I was a little confused as to why he would send me something like this, but after reading it I saw how this can and will help our relationship. Yes, we have had trust issues and we probably will again in the future, we are human, but, I do believe that the things we learned will help us to overcome some of the painful issues that come with intimacy. Thanks so much for the accurate information and simple to follow advice. I am passing this on to my older children so they might sidestep some relationship mistakes. Sarah
September 21, 2006

I just want to say THANK YOU for your efforts, energy, research, and insight. You are providing a tremendous service and resource. Thank you very much! MQ
September 20, 2006

Your website is informative, truthful, and logical. Please keep up the good work! Bianca
August 24, 2006

THIS IS AN EXCELLENT SITE!!! I'm going thru a horrible, nasty divorce from a marriage that included infidelity (w/my best friend of 15 years), lies, deceit and drug use. In short, my marriage and subsequent nasty divorce has completely jaded my opinion about men, love, cheating and lying.  Nonetheless, I started dating again and have seeing someone for almost 8 months now -- he is going thru a kinder, gentler divorce. Recently, he expressed the need to not get tied down in a relationship. Thinking rationally, this makes sense as I am almost 2 years into my divorce and he's only 8 months into his separation. This request seemed logical and something that needed to be done before we could commit much further. I have faith that if it's meant to be it will happen.  However, thinking emotionally, I want to know everything he's doing, when he's doing it and with whom he's doing anything and everything. I discovered recently some sexually charged text messages to/from a woman in another state whom he's mentioned before. He was totally embarrassed, ashamed and very angry. Before visiting your site, I decided to take a different approach to this and discuss the discovery with him calmly.  I expressed my feelings of jealousy, hurt and sense of betrayal, but at the same time I understood the relationship, but wanted to know more about how threatening it was us.  He was shocked at how calm and rational I was being.  Problem was... that seemed to be the calm before the storm because lately I've been increasingly curious, jealous and have a strong desire to snoop, snoop and snoop some more. So, I turned to your site for a thorough read-thru and have gained INVALUABLE insight about myself and how to approach this point in our relationship. I didn't realize how much my own betrayal of his privacy was just as hurtful as my learning of his text sex.  Your site helped me to understand the fundamentals behind both of our feelings and, I think will help both of us moving forward. It also helped me to gain a little more insight about the behaviors of my ex-husband. Thank you for providing this wonderful resource for both men and women!!! Bravo!!! Name Withheld
August 22, 2006

After looking at the Site Map, I see that I have only read half of this site so far, but it has already given me a clear picture of the recent events which have taken place in my life. I was inadvertently sucked into a relationship triangle, and over the last two months, I have been slowly discovering what the truth is about my situation. Ironically, this is the first time I have felt jealousy in my life, and I really didn’t know, up till now, why my emotions were getting the better of me. The “truthaboutdeception.com” has given me a full understanding of my behavior and my now ex-girlfriend’s behavior. The best part is that I feel no bitterness towards anyone, and if anything feel a bit sorry for the other guy in this triangle, who is probably still suffering lingering suspicions. I am sure that I will still have to suffer the odd pang of missing my ex in the near future, but considering the nightmare roller coaster I was on not so long ago, this web-site has enabled me to truly find peace of heart again. Thanks to all who have worked, and are working, to make this site. You are all doing something really worthwhile. Chris
June 25, 2006

This is a fantastic Website. I've searched long and hard for a website like this. The information is direct, relevant, and honest. Not only that, most of the information is referenced from credible sources. Thanks, I'm really finding this to be a great resource in rebuilding myself and my relationship. Name Withheld
June 7, 2006

I truly love this website, it's a completely honest, no holds bar look at relationships and that's refreshing. I love the advice and it has helped me overcome some of my own insecurities in my relationship. In fact it's helped save my relationship and work together with my boyfriend to make it stronger. Thanks for the advice! Melissa
May 2, 2006

A few times after reading your information, I actually gave time for the process to take place. I had a hunch that my spouse after 13 years of marriage was not as loving or close like before. I did some investigative work, and actually found that my now ex-husband had been having affairs and meeting women over the internet and from match making agencies. I found emails on a hotmail account we shared. He always saved the messages, that’s how I got suspicious. To top it off towards the end of the relationship I come to find out he was living a double life and fathered two children with another woman while married to me. Yes it was devastating, but after carefully reviewing your site, I became a survivor and a woman of stronger willpower. Nobody deserves to cheat with anyone, and if you’re not happy in your relationship, end it instead of hurting the one that has to survive the shocking news! Name Withheld
Apr. 10, 2006

WOW this is a great site! Evebean
Mar 26, 2006

Your website is fantastic! The information is straightforward and easy to follow. I have recommended it to many people already! Thanks. Karen
Dec 4, 2005

Oh my GOD, I have learned so much about relationships from this website then I have in my 19 years of dating. I read every single page. I must admit I'm one of those guys that asks questions alot, I'm jealous, nosey, and I don't have a good reputation with trust, whether it is trusting or being trusted. But believe me, after reading all of this information I will try to follow some of its guidelines. I loved every bit of this website. Thanks. William
Oct. 20, 2005

GREAT WEBSITE!!! Thanks, very informative! Anonymous
Sept. 10, 2005

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