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written by MGP , 20 December, 2011

I have just found out that my fiancee has been having secret text messages with another man. Whilst telling me that she love me. This situation would not bother in the past but I am in wheelchair since my accident and I thought she was genuine as she wanted to marry me. Now I am so upset I do not know what to as I can no longer trust her. Where do we go from here and how can we build trust. She knows my views on extra activities outside the relationship and yet she did not take them into account. She is a very good looking woman and will get a lot attention but she wanted to marry me and pushed me to move things forward.

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written by wizyte , 28 December, 2011

I don't know what to do in that situation. You sound like since your accident you've become worried about things that would not normally bother you. If she loved you before the accident and says she still loves you now, then why would you believe she's not genuine? Of course I have no idea what those, "secret text messages" discussed or contained. Going with that you don't know what were in her texts, I would leave it at that and trust her. People hide things for different reasons. She may have secret texts because she's worried how you'd react if you knew she text certain people. This would have nothing to do with the fact that she loves you or not. I would not discontinuing my trust in someone just because they talked or text someone other than myself. If she knows your views about her talking to other people are not the same as yours, she may have hid those messages only because she doesn't want you to get the wrong idea. I wouldn't jump to conclusions. Especially if she's telling you she loves you. And it's obvious you're worried that she's, "a very good looking woman" or you wouldn't have wrote that. I'd say trust the woman and ease up on her. Of course, if you've found out she's been cheating on you or something, disregard everything I've said and find someone who loves you for who you are.

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written by peggysue , 10 January, 2012

I found emails from the 1st year of our three and a half year relationship between my boyfriend and another woman discussing how they were going to meet for sex. Then about 6 months later I found instant messages between him and a different woman discussing the dirty things they wanted to do to each other. He is the front man in a rock band that tours but I tour with him. He has promised that these were horrible mistakes and he doesn't want to lose me but there are constantly attractive women around him and emailing him after shows. My self esteem is non-existent and I'm constantly in fear of him cheating and going further this time than emails, etc. We have a really deep connection and are both extremely affectionate. He is very sensitive and talks about my issues whenever I need to. I'm just not sure if he has really changed and if so can handle the increasing amount of women throwing themselves at him.

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written by Roxane , 31 January, 2012

I've been lying to my boyfriend about little things that means nothing to me simply because I was afraid of his reaction. I promised him that I'd do anything to regain his trust back and that's what I'm trying to do right now. But he's always suspecting me. He's checking my emails as well as my facebook account. He calls me in the middle of the night and sometimes he doesn't respect me (he tell me to shut up or call me names)and he says that's all my fault because he doesn't trust me anymore and he doesn't seem to care about hurting my feeling... I'm at a point that I know I love him and I know I've been acting wrong and I'm trying really hard to regain his trust.