Comments for Confronted Husband at http://www.truthaboutdeception.com , comment 1 to 10 out of 10 comments http://www.truthaboutdeception.com Thu, 20 Nov 2008 05:38:34 +0100 FeedCreator 1.7.2 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/confronted_husband.html#comment-1812 Hi everyone, I have been married for 19 years, have 2 kids. I was 20 years old, very naive and in love.I was pregnant when I married my husband. He is black and I am white. My husband started cheating on me 1 month after we got married. I discovered all his affairs a year later, however I felt trapped that my son is bi-racial and he need his father. After 9 years of marriage, feeling lonely and depressed, because my husband did not show any affection, I told him that I want the divorce. He was outraged, he threatened to kill me. I moved out from the house we bought right before the breakup and rented an apartment. I started dating a man I worked with. My husband yelled, then cried asking me to come back. I said no. He started dating other women, actually 4 women. 3 month later my boyfriend and I broke. My husband was begging for me to come back( I did not know he had dated 4 other women). I felt lonely and moved back with my husband. We argued a lot, then things got much better, especially after my 2 nd son was born 6 years ago. 6 month ago I found an e-mail he send to the same women he dated 10 years ago.The e-mail read" I am thinking about you".He was very mad that I looked at his e-mails, and he told me she asked him to sell her house ( he is a broker). I was very suspicious and checked all his cell phone bills, found out they have been calling each other on and off for more then 2 years, she.. lives in a different state.Also he has been calling 2 other women almost every day,late at night, especially when he was going on a business trips every month. I confronted him and told him that I want divorce. He cried, begged me to give me last chance,said he was completely wrong and that he will never do it again, he started going to counceling for anger management. For the last 6 month he treats me very very nice, but I can not help myself but thinking that he just do not want to loose the money ( we have a lot of investment properties). I feel very resentful towards him and miserable. I don't trust him,it is crazy but I still have feelings for him, I am very confused.I feel that 19 years of my life was wasted, I question myself what if he really now changed, and if I divorce him he will move on and have happy relationship with someone else. - mila Sat, 08 Nov 2008 21:48:42 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/confronted_husband.html#comment-1702 My husband had an affair for 2 years with a woman 11years his junior,our children were 3yrs and 7yrs old when I found out. I confronted him after finding a load of letters and photographs of the two of them together. He broke down and said that he wanted to stay with me and the kids. I was devastated at the time but I gradually I got over it and we became close again as a couple and a family. However, at the beginning of this year he came in drunk after having a night out with 'the lads' he went straight to bed and when I went up to bed I saw that he'd fallen asleep with his phone tucked under him. I looked at his phone and there were 3 text messages from someone telling him how much they loved him and what time they wanted to meet him at a pub. I confronted him the following morning and he just said that there wasn't anything going on and it was just flirty texts. I don't trust him anymore and now I find myself falling in love with a man who has also been hurt in this way and wants to be with me. I would like to be with this man as I know he would be faithful to me, he wants to take me out (which my husband rarely does) and generally wants to look after me and be involved with my kids. I have known my husband for 22yrs and through everything we have always managed to be friends but I don't know how to move forward with any of this, anyone have any advice? - Gorgois Thu, 02 Oct 2008 06:55:51 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/confronted_husband.html#comment-1454 I just found out my husband of 17 yrs has been cheating on me since November, with a woman in CA and we live in FL. We've been together since high school, and have 3 kids. I trusted him. He told me he was going to CA for business to expand our business and better our family. I was stupid to believe him, and never once to thought for a hotel phone number and/or copy of the airline tickets. With cell phones, why would I need a land line. Little did I know, he was going to visit another woman, and her daughter. He did this about 3-4 times that I'm aware of. He told me she came to FL to visit him as well at least once. I found emails he wrote to her, devoting his love to her. I felt sick to my stomach as I read them. The sad thing is, that I'm still in love with him. Am I stupid, for thinking I might be able to save my marriage???? - 727 Fri, 27 Jun 2008 11:02:30 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/confronted_husband.html#comment-1432 OMG... I am not alone after all. I caught my husband by getting in his car and turning on his cell phone. He usually deleted all text. I saw her name and number on call log. A pattern had formed daily. (He was verbally abusive and accusing me of things I couldn't understand.) Well, he went to bed (MAD) and I turned the phone on a she had sent him 2 text after he turned off his phone. They were so revealing. I hurt so bad... even though I knew something was going on. He had said he was leaving but wanted a dissolution. One that was very one sided... I am in college. WELL... Finding all this out gave me the guts to say NO... I am a beautiful women... I don't deserve this treatment. His big fear is DIVORCE... He will lose MONEY. OH YEA... well there goes my guilt... I want everything I can get. I will not struggle when he has a 6 figure income. No way I also found he was hiding $ and I'm eating p& j, at school, cutting coupons, ran out of gas 2 x on the way to school. He's bitching because I spent his money. I am so hurt. This is a man who is successful and has a lot of integrity. I responded to her text, and she called back. I confronted him... and threw him out. Got a court order and I feel so alive!!! This is going to be a great qtr... no worries... see an attorney and know your rights. I doesn't even take 2 days to have money and PEACE. It hurts so bad and I'm lonely... but not for long. - Hvn deceived Mon, 16 Jun 2008 16:57:11 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/confronted_husband.html#comment-1084 I am going through the exact same thing with my husband. I am very bitter towards him. It is very hard for me to get over this, he says he won't talk to his friend anymore but I don't believe him. Every time I think about the situation I get more upset.>:( - guest Sat, 05 Jan 2008 01:59:00 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/confronted_husband.html#comment-754 I too, found out that my husband was cheating before Christmas. Here it is someone that he was "friends" with 18 years ago and he reports that he has known for over 30 years. I am not sure if I should even try to work on anything with him as I have virtually no trust. He denies everything and is not sorry. >:( - hull Sat, 12 May 2007 18:58:57 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/confronted_husband.html#comment-739 Do you and your husband have any hobbies or fun thing you can do "together?" Seems like he is gone alone a lot! I think it helps if you can be more involved as a couple or do fun family things. - guest Fri, 27 Apr 2007 15:03:36 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/confronted_husband.html#comment-716 I guess I am not alone in this. Yes, I agree that being cheated on is the worst feeling in the world. I found out my husband was cheating on me off and on through out our entire 9 year relationship. I really had no idea and didn't see any signs or warnings. I totally trusted him, he used to tell me about his ex-girlfriend who had cheated on him and how much it hurt him, that he could never hurt someone like that. But then he did it to me. After finding out the truth about him & all the horrible things he'd done, I immediately filed for divorce and stopped answering the phone when he called. I'm done with him & I won't ever give him a chance to tell me another one of his lies. It was hard..real hard.. but so far, I think that's it's been one of the best things I've ever done for myself. :) :) - Lysha Tue, 17 Apr 2007 14:49:22 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/confronted_husband.html#comment-707 I have a similar situation. I confronted my boyfriend that I knew he was cheating, he even had the disrespect to do it with a very close friend of mine. And when I asked him about it, he puts the blame onto me. He also wants a week on his own before we discuss it. Which is a week to think about his alibi to me! To be cheated on is the worse feeling in the world. - Stacey Gb Fri, 13 Apr 2007 15:55:09 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/confronted_husband.html#comment-669 It almost looked like I was the one that wrote this letter - I just found out my wife has been cheating for 3 years. We have two kids and she cries and says she is sorry - but I know she is just sorry she got caught. I love my kids - I cannot deal with my wife - I am done with her. I wish you the best of luck. - God bless. - Dave EB Wed, 21 Mar 2007 12:57:17 +0100