Comments for ContinueSuspectWife at http://www.truthaboutdeception.com , comment 1 to 7 out of 7 comments http://www.truthaboutdeception.com Thu, 20 Nov 2008 04:25:18 +0100 FeedCreator 1.7.2 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/dealing_with_suspicion/continuesuspectwife.html#comment-1648 My wife slept with a mutual co-worker at a party one night before we were married. We had only been dating for a very few weeks. I found out by the mark I discovered on her, she admitted it, he admitted it. They chalked it up stating too much alcohol. I just decided it was only sex. We got married, she said that she would never do anything that would harm her children. That mutual co-worker was married at the time of the incident. He came by 10 years later with his wife and kids. He mentioned to me that he would be all over my wife, except that we were friends. He told me that I should have all kinds of women on the side. I asked my wife to not have any contact with this person ever again. She changed her e-mail password and starting taking her laptop over to a friends house. I do computer forensics for a living and my suspicions got the better of me. I took a look at her computer. The logs indicated that her friend was using the laptop. This means that my wife was using her friends computer. One night my wife went next door to "chat with the girlfriend" at 2am, after a block party. I went over a few minutes later to find her on the computer and closing down all of the windows before I got to the computer. She then lied to me and said she was sending an e-mail to her other girlfriend. I presented her with the facts that I had the next day. She finally admitted to being in e-mail contact with the guy that I asked her not to contact. She claims that they are only friends and that I had no right to tell her who she could be friends with. She claims that the only reason she chats via e-mail with him was because I had told her not to do it. I asked her to log in and show me the conversations if there was nothing to hide and it was all innocent. She said she had deleted everything and there was nothing to see. She still doesn't want me to read anything. I met his wife. I think I would not be able to stay with her if I was him either. I wonder if my knowledge of what happened 12 years ago between these 2 and the fact that she is going to such great lengths to hide her e-mail conversations is going to be the end of our own relationship. - thenewguy99 Thu, 18 Sep 2008 10:42:03 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/dealing_with_suspicion/continuesuspectwife.html#comment-1645 My wife I believe has been cheating on me multiple times we have been married 15yrs. I discovered naked pictures of guys that they had emailed to her and also 14 guys on a myspace site we are currently separated but why can't she just tell me the truth. She says she hasn't. I just need this for closure but she will not admit to anything. - Scout67 Wed, 17 Sep 2008 00:55:12 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/dealing_with_suspicion/continuesuspectwife.html#comment-1467 If you change 29yrs to 16yrs, this would be my life. I also feel my wife has been cheating the whole time. She never talked about another guy but when we were younger my little daughter(3 at the time) had a crush on a younger co-worker. My wife would always bake him cookies and drop of little gifts at his house with my daughter. Of course when I confronted her about all the time she was spending on this she claimed it was all for my daughter. As for looking back at my actions, I feel I have done nothing wrong. - Dam! Sat, 05 Jul 2008 15:08:06 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/dealing_with_suspicion/continuesuspectwife.html#comment-1428 Ok, you guys are or were disrespectful to yourselves, by not acknowledging your feelings and expressing them out clearly, and even if you did you did to do anything to get out and move beyond the relationship. A true quality women will not be flirting or making such comments about any other guys besides her husband. I think you chose the wrong woman to begin with, you should have done your homework correctly. You should not have been this unhappy for so many years. Its been 15 years! You have wasted precious time of your thinking and feeling bad because of this woman?? Who do you love the most? Yourself or this woman? Its evidently that you have had poor self esteem otherwise you could have moved on with your life and perhaps had learned from your mistakes and had found a new woman in your life. - Ernesto Iturbide Wed, 11 Jun 2008 00:50:14 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/dealing_with_suspicion/continuesuspectwife.html#comment-1425 Wow, what a strange coincidence and I would have thought I was alone with this type of situation. My wife did something about 20 years ago with a friend that will not leave my memory and it still feels very hurting even after all these years. I read the response given to you about focusing on your behavior instead of your wife's and it doesn't really make sense in my case. I was not the person created the mistrust in our relationship and I certainly wasn't the person making the mistake. At times it feels like it was just yesterday. I think that i feel this way because my wife's explanation was not very sincere and believable. - understand Tue, 10 Jun 2008 18:58:47 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/dealing_with_suspicion/continuesuspectwife.html#comment-1424 15 yrs after marriage, I caught my wife cheating. My wife whom I loved more then myself had slept with more then dozen guys. All these years she sweared on God & myself, I considered her the most faithful, trustworthy person in the world, but she ruined me when I realized that both the kids are even not mine, so please never ever trust a women. - porter Mon, 09 Jun 2008 01:34:38 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/dealing_with_suspicion/continuesuspectwife.html#comment-748 I have the same problem. It has been 5 years since most of the truth came out, I have recoverd from alcholism 4 years ago over it and yet it still haunts me. The least little thing and the vision is all too clear. I don't think it ever goes away. - Same here Tue, 08 May 2007 13:34:05 +0100