Comments for Second Marriage Affair at http://www.truthaboutdeception.com , comment 1 to 1 out of 1 comments http://www.truthaboutdeception.com Thu, 20 Nov 2008 04:51:49 +0100 FeedCreator 1.7.2 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/second_marriage_affair.html#comment-1501 I would like to give all of you a cautionary tale,because my sister felt she had all the time in the world to wait for her married lover to leave his wife. She was in a relationship with this man for fifteen years. I could NOT be as close to her as I wanted because she wanted to involve me in the drama and secrecy, and required that I revere this man as much as she did for his "sensitivity" and "kindness." She felt she loved him, believed his promises to leave, and felt no one could ever love her. My sister left all for this man: her husband, the home she owned, her education (she could not be at school getting her doctorate because he might call when she was out--this in the day before cell phones), her business, and eventually she became chronically ill, bitter, and angry--I think at least fifty percent of why she became so ill was the sheer stress of being with this man and fearing what would happen if they were caught, for he was her financial support. MY SISTER DIED SUDDENLY ON JULY 20th. Was this man by her side? NO.He was with his wife, as it was a weekend. So intensely was my sister immersed in secrecy that NO ONE called from the hospital to tell us she was there; she died alone, surrounded by strangers; she had not put anyone as a contact on her emergency list. Had she been with a partner who could have spent weekends with her, we might have been alerted and could have been with her in her last moments. She had not one Christmas, Valentine's Day, Thanksgiving, Easter, and sometimes not even her birthday with this man if it fell on a weekend. Was any of this worth it? I look at her life and can't think so--I had prayed she might have some time alone, away from this man, to figure it out, but she thought she was worth only this. She also willed everything to him, trusting he would distribute her possessions, and made him executor of her will. We were lucky to beg a few mementos from him. Everything else this heartless, grudging ass is taking TO THE DUMP--except for the few things she had of value, which he is selling to line his greedy pockets, though he is a wealthy man. Yes, you heard it right--he is taking ALL SHE HAD to the DUMP. He will not even let the family enter her apartment to help clean it out or give us anything beyond what we BEGGED him to give. Her books, clothes, furniture, a quilt our stepmother made her, her art and writings, even her Christmas ornaments are all GOING TO THE DUMP THIS WEEK because her married lover can't get rid of her soon enough. So much for the "sensitivity" and "kindness" of "the love of her life." Ask yourself if you would like this scenario too. At least don't will everything to your married lover--we barely know the guy and he certainly cares about her family as much as he cared about her...ZERO. - For Anyone Who Needs This Story Sun, 27 Jul 2008 03:52:30 +0100