Comments for Angry at Wife at http://www.truthaboutdeception.com , comment 1 to 7 out of 7 comments http://www.truthaboutdeception.com Thu, 20 Nov 2008 05:11:17 +0100 FeedCreator 1.7.2 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/relationship_problems/angry_at_wife.html#comment-1569 I totally feel for all of you who have posted. My name is Terri. I am 26 years old. I have been treated in the same manner from my ex fiance. I started getting gut feelings that my fiance was being dishonest with me at around xmas time this past year. I mentioned to him that I felt in my heart he was doing something to me behind my back and I got yelled at and told I was a psycho. I had nothing to back it up...something in my heart told me he was acting like a giggalo at work and it would just not go away. I knew this was the only place he could meet women. I have no idea why I knew I guess it was in his mannerisms. He stopped calling me on his breaks. I would call him and he would act as if I was nagging him. Then one time at safeway he introduced me to a girl and her bf that he worked with and I got a real shitty vibe off this girl. I have a good way of reading people (I have an identical twin so I guess I am used to reading people) and something told me that she was skanky and he had something going on with her. I was training for a fitness competition and would see her at the gym I trained at and I would always get weird vibes from her ( I know a lot of girls give me dirty looks I am tall blond and very attractive and have zero gfs besides my sister but something told me she had something going on with my fiance and I just could not shake it. She even kinda smirked at me one day as if she was taunting me. I had nothing to go on but my guts. I then had to go to Calgary to meet my twin's new bf..how is also a twin...when I got back from my trip I was unpacking stuff and found a receipt. But to make things worse the day I left my fiance called me minutes after I was on the road to tell me he was at walmart to buy new bedding...all I could think was why he wanted to buy new bedding...he must plan on fucking someone...I felt so crazy...I mentioned nothing. So back to the receipt. I found a receipt crumpled on the table. What I found was a receipt from walmart with all the stuff he bought bedding....Gatorade..and on the bottom a 12 pack of trojan condoms. I felt so betrayed..I thought I was going to throw up. So I confronted him and his explanation was he was planning on going to the bar and picking up a random but he decided not to because he realized he loved me. So that night I installed a keylogger on our computer and by that next morning I found out he had an email account I did not know of and was emailing all kinds of girls even 17 yr old girl I was training for her prom. And the person from his work that I would see at the gym did have stuff going on with him and those condoms were bought for her I moved out. What it all boils down to is that some people are just idiots. Cheaters do this because it makes them feel good. They do not think of you...just themselves and who they cheat with does not matter. That girl from the gym was not attractive whatsoever. It had nothing to do with me...he was just a loser. It would have been anyone that would take the bait. The hardest part of it all is the humiliation of it all on my part..the fact that these girls can tell themselves that they are somehow better than me because the man I wanted to marry wanted to fuck them...that is what irks me the most. I am starting to come to terms with it. Some days are hard some not so much. This kind of stuff takes a while to get over and it feels good to know that I am not the only one in the world this has happened to. Terri Alberta Canada - Terri C Sat, 16 Aug 2008 04:44:12 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/relationship_problems/angry_at_wife.html#comment-1568 My wife had a three month affair with someone she went to high school with but barely knew. I sensed some warning signs but instead of waiting and letting it drag out I took action. I installed software on our computer and was able to gain access to her emails. Upon reading just a few it was instantly apparent that she was having an affair. The second in the very first email was from him saying, "It's not just about the sex..." I went ballistic. This was over a year and half ago and I am still not over it. She has been faithful and turned her self around (trust me I have kept tabs and verified to the hilt) but I am still hurt and angry like it was yesterday. We have a small child and I felt like I should stay for the child, but now I don't know. I just don't think I can ever look at her the same way again and in all honesty feel the person I fell in love with and trusted is in a way dead and gone. The death coming with her infidelity. I feel I deserve better and that there is someone out there that would truly never do this to me. For the person above whose wife is still talking several times a day to her ex lover, it's over. You deserve better and you need to give her the boot NOW and move on with your life. In a way I wish mine had done something similar, it would make it easier to leave her. - nute Fri, 15 Aug 2008 21:29:51 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/relationship_problems/angry_at_wife.html#comment-1567 4 years before I married my wife I caught her having rather intimate and very disgusting conversations with complete strangers on the Internet. I went ballistic over this and we separated for about a month. I eventually forgave her and she promised never to let anything like this happen again. We got married in 2006 and have been the happiest we could be. Just 1 month ago my wife upped and left with no hint of any problem. I naturally had to find her and find out what was going on for my own sanity. She said she had been having an affair with one of my friends. Devastated I confronted my friend who denied it but unfortunately for him he has a history of lying so thing went very bad between us. It turns out my wife actually had a one night stand with someone she met briefly, not my friend as she told me! The real kick in the guts is that this was after she ran out on me! She decided to tell me this after I forgave her for the affair with my friend and got back together. I do not know whether to throw her out or not? I feel I can no longer trust her. - Whizzer Fri, 15 Aug 2008 15:50:18 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/relationship_problems/angry_at_wife.html#comment-1189 I have an idea what you feel about lying and cheating. My husband had an affair and I have a real hard time forgiving him, don't trust him at all. And for the lies I don't think I will ever believe anything he says now. I just wish I could forgive and forget well at least put in the past. I feel like such a fool now. I have gained 20lbs from stress worry or whatever you want to call it. I would love to know how to get over this mountain I'm climbing. - harlie Wed, 20 Feb 2008 19:00:07 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/relationship_problems/angry_at_wife.html#comment-634 I,ve been cheated on 3 time by my wife, and I can tell you this, the pain never goes away. Get real!!! She just wants to hurt you! Or control you! In the end you are the fool and all this time is for nothing!! I am 37 and cannot feel nothing but pain!!! - dw Mon, 05 Mar 2007 12:31:36 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/relationship_problems/angry_at_wife.html#comment-137 Well, my wife had a 2 year long affair. And with all the lies and me confronting she finally admitted to it. We saw some church counselors and I thought things were getting better, but they are not. This whole time those two still call each other on the cell phone. Three to five times a day for at least the past seven months. She sees nothing wrong and I see everything wrong with that. I forgave her for the affair. But with every phone call I see on the cell bill, it's hard to forget. It's like a slap in the face each time. I'm at my wits end with her. I want our marriage to work out but all these phone calls have got to stop. I've answered yes to every question on a ten question survey about depression. When I told my wife that, she just laughed. And she's on Zoloft. I don't know what to do. There's been suicides in my family and I'm afraid that I might be next if this issue is not resolved. I can't live like this anymore. - Guest Sat, 29 Jul 2006 23:53:44 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/relationship_problems/angry_at_wife.html#comment-133 When I first started seeing my boyfriend things were great until I suspected he was telling me some lies. I spoke to other people, got the truth and eventually confronted him. Although I knew the facts and absolute truth, he still denied he ever lied. We broke up for about 2 months and during that time he confessed to ALL the lies I caught him in and begged my forgiveness. I decided to give him another chance and things were really going well despite the fact that I have major trust issues with him now. Although just recently I caught him in another lie and I'm beginning to think it's useless to always have to forgive him. Sometimes I feel that he's insulting my intelligence because even though I know the truth, he continues to deny it. Other than the lies he's been the best guy I've ever met. We've been together 2 years now and I don't know if I can deal with the emotional stress. Sometimes I get the feeling he's betrayed me and I can't do anything about it. I get so angry at him and I treat him poorly. - Guest Fri, 28 Jul 2006 16:03:00 +0100