Comments for Boyfriend Compulsive Liar at http://www.truthaboutdeception.com , comment 1 to 130 out of 20 comments http://www.truthaboutdeception.com Thu, 20 Nov 2008 05:34:16 +0100 FeedCreator 1.7.2 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1827 I am truly amazed at reading everyone's stories. I have wasted 8 years of my life with a man I thought was my complete soul mate, I'd have done absolutely anything for him and I even tried to change myself to suit his lying habits. I moved countries to be with him and was willing to give up my university education to be with him. I met him whilst he was ending a so called "bad" relationship. I told him to take his time and get out of it and I would wait for him. Unfortunately he was taking an extremely long time so, I asked im what he really wanted and he ensured me it was to be with me. I got so angry and frustrated waiting for him that I called up his ex and told her of what had been going on between us and she was completely dumbfound! He then told me she had been sexually abused by her father and contemplated suicide when her previous bf left her so stupid I let him take more time to leave her. Eventually, he left her and still to this day I wonder if she actually got rid of him... He promised me everything and I wanted all he offered. He went from telling direct lies to omitting actual facts such as attending birthday parties of girl and when later caught out where he had been he said he never told me as it was "insignificant" and I was "overreacting". Last month I yet, caught him out again telling a lie saying he was having drinks with is mates at their house when it turned out he was in the pub with his mates... What difference would it have made where he was??? My heart is breaking and I still love him but I know its not natural or healthy to be in this kind of relationship. Please can anyone give me advice as I'm now beginning to think maybe I am overreacting and that I have told my soul mate to get out of my life - hurting14 Sun, 16 Nov 2008 12:31:39 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1811 Ladies...I am seeing a pattern here. Our lying men are all charming, attentive, loving, etc...Could it be that they hope that makes up for all the lying? Do they feel guilt? They seem to have a power over us that makes us love them so much. Maybe it's b/c they are giving us what we crave...to feel special (claiming undying love), unique (praising our looks/talents), wanted (not going away when we kick them out), and taken care of (helping around the house, etc). SO it's not really HIM it's how he makes us FEEL. If we could only treat ourselves this way or generate the good feelings ourselves we would be able to let them go....just thinking there....what do you ladies think? I just want him to let me go. Please don't let him keep calling/emailing me. I need to let him go. - jab123 Fri, 07 Nov 2008 17:45:29 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1801 I'm getting married next July to the man of my dreams. He's sweet and loving and we have so much in common. I've never met a man that has ever come close to making me as happy as he does. Unfortunately, I'm coming to discover he's a compulsive liar. And a bad one at that. He makes up extravagant stories about things or omits the truth and it always comes back to bite him. Last night I found out about a lie he told me a few weeks ago and it was an unnecessary lie to begin with but the story he told with it was so grand and full of details I didn't even question it and in fact told some other people about what he did. I found out last night it was all a lie. The whole story. I have no idea what I'm supposed to do. I love him so much and I can't imagine my life with out him. I can't help him to change if he doesn't have the will to do it but I can't marry someone who lies the way he does. - Broken Hearted Tue, 04 Nov 2008 09:13:35 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1738 *Sigh*... I guess I'm not alone then. I have been seeing this man for almost 3 years. When I met him, I knew he had a girlfriend, but I fell for him anyway. We started a physical relationship eventually. I moved away and we continued it, even though I knew we shouldn't. He even suggested at one point that we end it, but I was so into him that I protested and he gave in. A little later, I 'ended' it with him and told him not to contact me ever again. Two weeks later, after having changed my phone number, he found a way to reach me. I caved in because I love him so much. Now, more than ever, he's always telling me he loves me even though he still lives with her. I see him on a regular basis, even though we're a couple of hours apart. I know this is wrong and unhealthy, but like so many of you, I've fallen for this guy. Sometimes his phone rings at 2am when I'm with him, and I know it's his girlfriend, but he denies it and makes some excuse as to why he has to go outside and return the phone call. I can't believe he thinks I don't know! I just feel so much for him that I don't know how to stop this. I want to believe him when he says there's nothing between them anymore, but if that were the case, he wouldn't still be with her. It blows my mind that I can realize all of this and still be here in this situation... - Ferrys G. Mon, 13 Oct 2008 17:31:00 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1706 I looked over almost every single post here and didn't find any references to females being the CL in the relationship (ok mainly because this is a forum about males > - Unknown. Fri, 03 Oct 2008 19:42:51 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1686 Hello. I can relate to all of your stories and I know first hand how painful this can be. I met this guy 2 1/2 years ago and thought he was great. The smartest sweetest guy I ever met. We are both in the military and he came to my unit. After dating for about a year I started getting some weird vibes and looks in my office so I pulled my platoon sgt to the side asking him about my boyfriend (who was married previously for 2 years). He didn't want to break confidentiality but told me in a round about kinda way. My boyfriend swore up and down that he wasn't and the divorce was final a year ago. Come to find out he was still married! We ended up going through a painful miscarriage right after that and my dumbass decided to stay with him ( with proof that he was legally separated to his wife). So a few months go by and we get married and move to Germany together.I figure he was divorced knowing we were both in the military you would think they'd know and I thought there would be some sort of data base so the town you get married in knows if your married or not. Every things fine for a few months, then I get an email from His wife? Ya his freakin wife! Hes been lying about everything this entire time! To top it all off I went away to school for a month and he never paid the rent. He told me everything was paid up. This afternoon I talked to the landlords they have been giving us eviction notices for a month. He kept this all from me. He told our landlords we would be out of the house in 2days. He kept 2 eviction notices from me and is still denying it even though I talked to the landlords myself! WTF? He wrecked his brand new car a year ago and swore he had insurance he left it in the states and finally when I confronted him about it again for the 100th time he admitted he had no insurance and is paying 500$ a month for a car that he has no idea where it is. He would even go so far as to tell me the car was ready have me leave work early only to tell me half way there that it was to late the shop was closed. He knew it wasn't fixed...he didn't even know where it was. He has ruined my life and everything I have tried to build for us. I am happy it has only been 2 1/2 years and not any longer. My advice to anyone in a situation like this is plain and simply just leave. Anywhere would be better than the torture that this type of person will do to you. People should not treat each other with such disregard. If he can do all this what else is he capable of. *JacciO - JacciO Mon, 29 Sep 2008 13:40:35 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1564 Ok everyone... I relate to all of your stories. I read them all!! I dated and became engaged to a compulsive and pathological liar. I loved him so deeply and still do. I thought I had died and gone to heaven when I met him. Charming, cute, attentive, funny. What a perfect guy. Until the pain started to set in.... The pain and tears to this sick twisted life was the worst I ever experienced. It got so bad with his lying that I became very ill over the past 5 years because of it.:( And the only answer to any of the insanity...the only answer to the hurt and pain is to STOP and leave them.! After 4 years of him cheating, lying, cheating, lying, lying, disappearing acts, lying more and more.... I left him!! I loved him so much and didn't want to leave. I was afraid to be lonely and afraid to be alone!! But what other choice in life did I have? I don't want to live like that! Who wants a liar for a boyfriend or husband? I would rather live alone and be true to myself, honest to others and break the cycle of craziness. My ex had so many problems... INCLUDING the lying which makes it even worse. I gave up on trying to track him down. Gave up on trying to figure out his lies. I gave up on trying to FIX him! I gave up on asking him anything because he never was honest about his answers. Why ask? Why try to fix? Why try to rationalize? Why try to mend it? Why try to wish it away. They are sick individuals...pathetic - burdened people who don't care about how their behavior hurts others. So accept it - they are who they are!! It is what it is!! They will NEVER change unless you want to wait 25 years for therapy to kick in. It's not worth it! Move on... find another wonderful boyfriend/girlfriend who really is normal and who cares. Or just be alone and enjoy the solitude and your friends. Let the chips fall where they may... and let YOUR life take over onto a healthier path. YOU go and get healthy and feel good about YOURSELF!! Good luck on your journey of LEAVING these sick - weird people!! And if anybody is out there that WANTS a nice relationship...you can email me at kanga58@hotmail.com I'm not giving up until I find a nice, honest and trustworthy man out there!! Good luck to everyone!! And GET HEALTHY!! Kanga - THE SAD KANGA GIRL Thu, 14 Aug 2008 16:23:34 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1529 Five months after discovering the massive extent of the lies and infidelities of my partner of eight years, I wrote the following ditty to myself. I've not shared this with anyone till here and now. I hope it somehow helps someone, like so many of the above comments have helped me. For six years I'd been slowly weeding out of my life several destructive friendships (including alcoholics) ... not realizing (or not admitting) that my partner was the most destructive relationship in my life by far. Soap Living yes, life stays boring but in a better way when you give up drama as a way of living when you part from angry piss heads from the twisted and the damaged and you say ‘ha ha!’ in smugness ‘I no longer live a soap’ ‘there they go again’ you mutter to yourself as they take their shit outdoors and the cop cars come calling they’re always in some trauma wanting to involve you but you’ve learnt a curt ‘alright’; for a smile, a listening ear just means you get embroiled so you’re the one most shocked that your living quietly character was due for some tall story lines that push believe too far that smiling, cooking husband demanding, yes, but generous so fluent with the flattery with promises, assurances that you overlooked some oddness (for you know that no one’s perfect) till the kipper of reality slapped you hard across the face and the stench of years of lies knocked your dream right out to orbit for you were just the back up to his sordid lustful grapplings your head just rings with questions: how many did he have? and who? and when? how often? you have to take a deep breath accept you’ll never know accept you played a part in the swallowing of deception you think of how ensnared you were by his trademark I’m hard-done-by his genuine insecurity and his cold hard-shoulder sulks if you dared to doubt his words his levels of denial his ease with any guilt that way he can transform it to always not his fault his skill at being blameless his ease with conjuring lies all these are quite disturbing: just how far might he go? so you’re pleased you got out now for without him you’re tons safer but being rather daft ... you both pity him his past and fear for him, his future - alfie Tue, 05 Aug 2008 04:12:37 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1465 I am living with my boyfriend of 5 months and in the beginning everything was so wonderful. He told me he has a 6 year old son who I love like my own. I also have three kids. Anyway he is constantly seeing his son and I accepted that cause that is is son, but I feel that he lies to me about his babymomma, he is always in her business even if she is with her boyfriend, he is constantly calling her, texting her and all this is arguing about their son. He works and then after work he goes to see his son, and then he comes to the house at 11pm and it is to sleep. His babymomma has told me that she does not want anything to do with him. And she is glad that he found someone that cares and loves him. But my question is why lie to me about it, he lies about their fights, and then when I know about the fights he stays shut and makes me feel like the bad guy. He tells me that he has to see his son everyday because his son as no one, and then he tells me that I make him feel like he has to forget his son, Her boyfriend can't spend time with him because that is another fight with them two, he complains about everything she does, just not so long ago his son and his mother went on vacation upstate with her boyfriend and he was here stressed out because he missed his son, and the she left his son with her boyfriend and he got mad about it, they argue over the phone, he calls her job to harass her, but then again everything he does or say he comes to me with a lie. Why is that? - struck by a lie Thu, 03 Jul 2008 13:24:28 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1430 I just ended a 7 month relationship with what I thought was a wonderful man. He seemed totally normal but I was constantly catching him in lies even from 7 hrs away! I hacked his email account and caught him telling other girls the exact same things he was telling me. There were tons of naked pics, etc. He even started telling a girl he loved her after knowing her online for only 3 weeks. I spoke to this man every day for 7 months and truly felt as though I loved him. I gave him several chances but the lying continued. I feel really stupid. Glad we never met! - met a compulsive liar online Sat, 14 Jun 2008 20:43:36 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1420 Listen girls I have been dating my "Romeo" for over two years. Boy oh boy I knew he was a compulsive liar from day one but yet I stuck around. They are all great with words and moves...they know what women want, but do they? Because of all the problems in my relationship I began therapy myself about 6 months ago (thanks to my boyfriend telling me I was the reason he cheated and lied). Once I began to really understand my own issues I realized they contributed little to nothing to our problems as a couple. Girls don't be afraid to seek your own help it doesn't mean you're the cause of the problems at all. I have discovered that I have very poor self-esteem and once I learned to take care of me I began to gain the strength to leave him. I am still in the process of completely ending my relationship with "Romeo" only 6 girls later! It is certainly not easy and I have gone back many times, but with time it is the best for me. I am sure that you all have said before these guys that you would never date a lying cheater. Guess what that's who we are dating and we can't change them. I use to feel that my mission in the relationship if nothing else, was to make sure he realized his problem and to get help. I now see that only he can help him. Trust me he will never forget you and he will realize what he lost eventually if that means anything. There are great guys out there somewhere but we will never know unless we say we won't let them treat us this way anymore. - Ladies aren't we all in the same situation...as if it were all the same guy... Fri, 06 Jun 2008 22:14:16 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1418 I am absolutely blown away to find you all. Endured in isolation, the conflict of deeply loving someone who hurts me so much drove me to purging in a blog I call Dear 2.10 (dear210.blogspot.com). I'm in a somewhat remote area of the country, so in the absence of close friends and support groups I feel like I just stumbled on a gold mine. mmmmm (5/19/08) - you are doing everything right and your girl friend is lucky to have someone that's willing to take whatever steps necessary to cultivate a healthy relationship. Oxi (5/27/08) - I can appreciate your imagined perspective, in fact I try to convince and reassure myself using the same logic every day. But it doesn't make up for the lack of fundamentals. Honesty, integrity, and respect are the building blocks of relationships and an otherwise good relationship punctuated by their absence erodes the soul, esteem, and appreciation for the perpetrator. It's hard to articulate the level of humiliation and self loathing that follow, and the constant internal conflict of trying to reconcile the effects with my own genuine loving feelings. It's like standing on sand. Regardless of how independent and self sufficient of a life I've lead, it breathes a lack of solidity, security, and comfort into what I consider my number one priority, my relationship, and it is unnerving and complicated. I wrote in my blog, "If only things were as clear as third party assessments would make them," and I'm clearly not alone in that longing. Thank you all for taking the time to reach out. I would wish this on no one, but in my desperation to feel less alone I am incredibly grateful you're here. - Just M Fri, 06 Jun 2008 14:29:05 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1391 Consider this--note this is only my perspective on the situation, but it may help someone--even if he lies, even if he cheats, if he loves you and is willing to be with you forever despite that he has lets just call it a "hobby" you don't agree with. If this has been going on for a long time and he hasn't left you to be with someone else and it hasn't impeded on your time together, what does it matter? I mean, yes it hurts, but maybe we should look at it as something to embrace as one of his faults. Maybe he has a problem that he needs help with. Honestly, I can't be too sure since I don't really have that kind of experience and I can only imagine what it's like. If he treats you like dirt then he deserves to go out the door, but if he's indulging in a pleasure that he can or cannot control, perhaps its just that he needs something different. Maybe we can work with it instead of against it. Work it in with our normal life instead of trying to fight what is human nature. - Oxi Tue, 27 May 2008 17:42:56 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1389 wow. Seriously, we MUST all be in the same relationship. I have been seeing my CL for.. a year and a half. I fell deeply in love with him, and since then can't seem to escape. He has used me and lied to me the whole time, but i "know his heart" as most of you say.. I'm starting to think its not their hearts we know, but their true selves. We fall in love with them, and then the evil side that they can't control comes out. We have rent to pay in less than a week, and he has nothing. He lied to me all week about having almost the whole thing, then magically, someone stole it all. He even got in a fight with the kid outside!!! We promised to be 100% honest, and start from scratch, and apparently a friend called to say he found the money, and he left to go get it. His friend has been calling me constantly waiting for him to come over, and I just asked if he found any money, and he had no idea what I was talking about. The weird thing is, I almost don't feel anything anymore when i find out these things. I am 9 months pregnant, and at a high risk for losing my apartment in less than a week. I really have worried so much, that I cant bring myself to worry about these cold hard facts. This man, who is the love of my life, who i believe is my soul mate... I cant believe i type these things, let alone believe them.. But he has committed bank fraud, after knowing it was a 'last chance' bank account(young and dumb, but it was 5 years ago that i had a bad track record, and was just getting myself right) so now i have no way of having a bank account. He lies to me, and lies to me and I believe him. Even if I don't believe him I want to. I wish we could all sit in a room and hug each other and cry, and those of you that have left, I wish you could walk us broken ones through it, and comfort us when were in the throes of misery. Noone wants to leave a soul mate, especially when we have convinced ourselves that they love us, so obviously they will change. I know he wont, and I write letter after letter to my baby, apologizing for what I'm doing to them. I wish I would have known who he was first, and kept those beautiful eyes at a distance. That perfect smile from my view, and the illusion that i am his perfect woman maybe wouldn't have gotten such a stranglehold on me. If anyone wants to email me, to talk about 'our' situation (because we are all in the same one) or to encourage me, please, feel free. starr_poet@yahoo.com - Starrcrossedmommy Tue, 27 May 2008 00:17:54 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1380 I am trying to figure out what is going on with my relationship. I have kept the fact that I have been keeping in contact with my ex and a married female friend from my girlfriend. I guess that my contact could be described as an emotional affair although I have no physical contact with these women, only occasional e mails and phone calls. Recently, my girlfriend (1 yr) found out about the communication and called me out on it. I admitted to the contact but have kept it from her through the duration of our relationship. My view on the situation was that it was strictly platonic (which it was) but I was afraid to mention it to her for fear that she wouldn't accept and understand....am I a CL? This scares the hell out of me as I don't tell daily lies but have recognized some similar traits through all the posts. I have cut off any contact with these women (over the phone in front of my GF) and have no desire to maintain these relationships as my GR is my priority. I am soooo remorseful for keeping anything from my GF and have given her access to my phone and e mail to prove my sincerity. We have seen a therapist together and I have offered to see one individually or make sure I never keep something from her again. I have never done this in any relationship before (46 yrs old) but have found this to sort of take on a life of its own and compartmentalize this part of my life so as to keep it from her. I HATE what has happened and wanted it to "go away". I actually feel relief knowing that she knows and I don't have to worry about keeping a secret from the person that I love any more. She doesn't trust me...I get it, but lying isn't "me"...I feel that I got caught up in a situation that I was not strong enough to end on my own....I lied....it was so wrong. I have potentially destroyed the best relationship of my life...I am crushed but can understand why she would never want to see me again. I have been diagnosed with OCD and my therapist feels that my "compulsion" has caused me to make decisions that were not in my best interest...I am on welbutrin....she says I will be able to be able to make "responsible decisions" and not act on my compulsion...does anyone have any feedback on this? I am desperate to do the right thing and repair my relationship. - mmmmm Mon, 19 May 2008 00:09:54 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1341 woaaaaaaaa!I didn't think there were any other people out there like this. Oh my gosh, it took me 8 years to realize i was married to a CL. WHAT A CON MAN! GET OUT AS FAST AS YOU CAN! I have 3 children with this man that lies about anything from what he is eating to his profession to infidelity. This is truly uncharted territory for me because of the children. I am simply gathering information so that I can deal with this CL in a better way for my children's sake. Good Luck to all. Remember their disorder isn't your problem or responsibility. They will destroy your life with their lies. Get out and enjoy life. - krp Tue, 29 Apr 2008 23:10:47 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1340 First I'd like to say thank you all for the advice given. It truly is a comfort to know I'm not alone. I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday, and I'm pretty bummed about it, even though i know it wasn't my fault and that I told him I knew he was lying and even gave him multiple chances to make it right. I told him the last time he asked me for just "one last chance", that I would, but that if he lied again, it was over. We are 15 years apart in age, we're both divorced and he has two boys from him previous marriage. He was my tall, dark, and handsome prince charming...breaking it off with him hurt, a lot. I miss him and I did love him (the before-I-knew-he-was-a-CL man). I know in my heart that he hasn't cheated on me. But he lies about the stupid stuff. And we will go to great lengths to keep up the lie. He will even answer a 'phone call' and have an entire FAKE conversation to make me believe him. I mean...hes SO convincing it's almost impressive! But nonetheless, I can't be in a relationship without honesty. And if its lies about the little stuff, what's next? I think I made the right choice breaking up with him. But I care about him and I want to help him and support him, and I'm worried that breaking up with him will send him in the OPPOSITE direction of help. After reading all these other posts, my problem seems a bit trivial. But lying is lying and no matter how big or small, it is still painful. I welcome any additional advice! - Scout Tue, 29 Apr 2008 18:55:01 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1338 My boyfriend lies to me all the time. He lies about stupid things like how was your day! I am getting to the point, where I can't stand him. He never shows me affection, except for when he wants sex! I am fed up with him, I have asked him to leave, but he won't, only because he wants to annoy me. He fights with me constantly, and will never let me be right. He's never behind me, and never respects me. I think he needs help, he makes a joke of serious things, and he's screwing up our child by lying in front of our child. I need some kind of guidance, people tell me to leave him, but he won't leave.... - Reader-1 Tue, 29 Apr 2008 11:33:33 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1331 I have just gotten back with my boyfriend. I moved across the country to be with him. Since I've been back, I have found out that he was seeing someone during our break-up period. It started before we officially broke up (although in his head, we were broken up), and he hid her from me until I said that I would get back together with him. Since then, I have lost all trust in him. Every time I go through his things, I find another truth. Recently, I found out that after we got back together, he continued to see her (as a friend). I found this by checking his bank statements. My boyfriend is now angry at me for "snooping". He tells me that he doesn't tell me about her because it would upset me. He tells me that he's not lying. My relationship is similar to the other postings. He loves me and treats me well. He takes care of me. He also does not believe that he has a lying problem, although I have discovered that he has learned to lie throughout his entire life in order to deal with his difficult upbringing. Now, every time I get the truth out of him, I'm angry. He tells me that he doesn't have a safe place to express the truth. I am so saddened because I can imagine a wonderful future with him, but I do not trust him at all. He has turned all of this against me, saying that I need to let go of the past. Well, how do I let go of something that has happened so recently? I feel torn because I want to be with him, but he manipulates me into staying. What are normal relationships like? Is it ok for him to keep secrets from me in order to not get me upset? How do I get him to see that he is a compulsive liar and needs help? I have told him how I feel, and he thinks I'm using it as an excuse to get out of this relationship. Before we broke up, I completely trusted him. I never went through any of his things. Now, I can't help myself from seeking out the truth.. Every time I look, I find something. I too need help in getting help for my boyfriend. I do not want this relationship to end. But, I can't see it lasting much longer. My boyfriend is capable of justifying every single lie. I'm so happy to find others in the same situation because I'm upset with myself for sticking with him. Now, I realize that I'm not addicted to the drama, I just can see the good heart that my boyfriend has, and I truly love him. - confused and sad Thu, 24 Apr 2008 19:33:35 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/compulsive_lying/boyfriend_compulsive_liar.html#comment-1309 I am a cl, I have just realized it about a month ago. I always you know stretched stories when sharing with the guys. But now I'm married and I tried to just cold turkey it, but it doesn't work like that. I don't exactly know what to do, but in a family of addicts and alcoholics, I always thought I turned out pretty good. WRONG!!! It turns out that this is an addiction, I need help and this site lets me know I'm not alone in this. Any comments or advice will be much appreciated. - I understand Wed, 16 Apr 2008 20:59:17 +0100