Comments for Husband and the Other Woman at http://www.truthaboutdeception.com , comment 1 to 13 out of 13 comments http://www.truthaboutdeception.com Thu, 20 Nov 2008 04:50:51 +0100 FeedCreator 1.7.2 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/husband_and_the_other_woman.html#comment-1765 He is such a loser, I found my husband was talking to girls online acting like he was single,even while we were engaged.If there willing to sit up and act like there own actions are you fault then there totally not worth it. - Yeah Tue, 21 Oct 2008 13:15:07 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/husband_and_the_other_woman.html#comment-1653 Are you sure he signed over assets to her to fool her, or perhaps keep assets from you and his children. This guy is a dog. Who treats the mother of their children like he treats you? Is this what you want your kids to see and emulate in their relationships? As evil as you want to see his wife as being, HE FREELY CHOSE TO MARRY HER AND STAY WITH HER. She's got no magical powers to control him. In fact, no one ha control over him, especially no him. These guys are weak cowards with no self control and no respect for themselves or anyone else. They are damaged inside and seek validation from you, wife and whoever else they can to fill the bottomless pit of need they have, because they are lacking themselves. He lies to his wife, he lies to you, but the most frequent idiot he lies to is himself, with his justifications and bs he tells himself to allow him to keep treating human beings like crap. His own children!! He's a pig, cut him loose. - ..... Fri, 19 Sep 2008 08:05:10 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/husband_and_the_other_woman.html#comment-1626 My children's father signed everything over into his wife's name to assure her that he wanted to work on their Marriage. She forbid him to have anymore contact with me, and has since discovered once by me and the other by rambling through his phone last week, that he was very much so in contact with me. She has threatened to kill him and make it look like an Accident, etc. Now he's being distant and professes his love for me and the children. He still promises that he will not take me to Court for visitation with our babies and that what she wants him to do, but what she fails to realize, he will still be in contact with me. She has gone so far as to disconnect the phone in the house, cancel the Internet service, etc, but what she failed to also realize I had set him up a separate email account, months before, so that she wouldn't be inquiring about our chatting , she discovered that, but took it to be for business purposes. Wake up, you women are forcing your husbands to stay with you all, beg, crawl, etc out of Obligation, not pure love. I know I have been in your shoes before, and I spent years being miserable, because I did everything possible to block communication between my ex and his mistresses. I guess that why I grew depressed with this relationship, I know how it felt and I always looked down on the other woman, until I was in her shoes, now I really know that it's not the woman, although she had a choice to make, but it is the husband that break his promises to you all and the vows you all have shared. the other woman can do no more than he allows her too, and like wise. If he can't break contact, he's in love and it's painful for him. I realized that and moved on and became the other woman. I would rather be alone than to be with someone that was in love with another. it hurts like hell to love someone and not receive any love back. That's why it was hard for me to open my Heart up this last time until July and even then I wrestled with opening my Heart up and that's why all the arguing he and I have been experiencing and the breaking up, because it's an adjustment after your whole world has come crashing down. We relate on a lot of things and mainly because we had both been cheated on and played for fools in our past. - heartbroken in GA Wed, 10 Sep 2008 20:37:35 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/husband_and_the_other_woman.html#comment-1534 Why does a husband feel they have to call single or divorce women? Why does he send flowers to her when he can't see her? Why does he call her just a friend when she knows everything about me and my family? He has been caught 3 times calling and texting women. Why is it that all of them are single and he can't be friends with a married couple for me and him to be around? - Sharon Bailey Wed, 06 Aug 2008 16:46:24 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/husband_and_the_other_woman.html#comment-1533 Every time my husband goes to Alaska to visit his parents he always comes back with divorced woman's cell #. He has called a lot and sent flowers too. Found a txt message "I need you, wake up, I want to kisses your face." I know she lives in IL but why would a married man and a divorced woman want to talk 21 days out of the month? He said they are only friends! yea right! This is really killing me. Can someone help me deal with this? - SLB Wed, 06 Aug 2008 14:03:22 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/husband_and_the_other_woman.html#comment-1451 Honestly... I think you deserve better than this. Your husband may say that he need his own freedom or what so ever... that's trash!!! If there is nothing going on between them then they wouldn't have as much contact with each other. Common sense... Go with your instinct... - Kira559 Thu, 26 Jun 2008 04:10:07 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/husband_and_the_other_woman.html#comment-1065 About 4 years ago I found USA telephone numbers on phone bill so i rang them up. A women answered and when she heard my accent she said; I have been expecting a call from England you must the wife. I told my husband and he assured me she was a bit scanty and he just didn't wanna hurt her feelings, said she was only a friend and he will never phone her again. I cried so much and even he got upset. I believed him until September 2007 I found 4 years of hidden from bills and much to my amazement it had been going on since. In all he has been communicating for 5 and a half years. When I told him 2nd time his answer was not like before. He told me he loved her wanted to marry her and we have now started divorce proceedings. He talks to her on our house phone online and just constantly praises her, but always the first to put me down. I don't know why but I do still love him and I'm trying to win him back and it hurts me so much. - pippy Wed, 19 Dec 2007 14:20:32 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/husband_and_the_other_woman.html#comment-639 My husband threw our marriage away for a girl he met online. He knew her a month and told her things about me like "She's my Ex stalking me" and that "She breaks into my house and steals things". After all I stayed with him through! Any man that can throw his children and wife away for an online affair isn't worth it. Dump the bum before he dumps you. - informal Guest Wed, 07 Mar 2007 21:42:33 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/husband_and_the_other_woman.html#comment-552 My husband insists that he did not sleep with her, but they kissed once (he blamed me, because I had a fight with him) and I was away at that time. Anyway, we are now in a different country from that girl, but he insists on being in touch with her. She is blatant about her feelings for my husband, even though she knows that he is married, and she knows me. He said he has changed his life around for me and has left the country, given up his business etc etc to be with me. But is resentful that I want to control who he is in touch with. He does not understand that I do not want him to stop being touch with her because I want it, and he resents me for it, I need him to not be in touch with her, because he values our marriage, because he knows that it hurts me. He does not get it. My question is, why is he prepared to do all of that like moving and giving up his business (all really really big things) but not prepared to do a simple thing like not being in touch with her anymore, particularly since he says she does not mean anything to him and that she is useful to be in touch with because she can help him in his work from the other country? (She is only 24 and he is 42 - figure that!). Why does he not resent moving and leaving his business for me (so he says) but resents not being in touch with her? - InPain Tue, 06 Feb 2007 13:49:23 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/husband_and_the_other_woman.html#comment-437 Your husband is 44. She is 22. Wake up! Clearly he has broken your trust, and he is adamant about wanting it his way still! Get real! He is outright selfish as he is concerned only with his needs, not yours. That is a good enough reason for you to get out before you suffer more pain. He is not worth it. Just making use of you and probably having a good laugh with her, about you. You do not need him to feel good about yourself. You have yourself. Be smarter than him. Why? That 22 will soon realize he is not worth it either. He will have neither of you in the end. Just his own sorry ass! - Jane Mercy Tue, 09 Jan 2007 09:45:36 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/husband_and_the_other_woman.html#comment-124 I'm in the same boat, but we aren't married. He cheated with a married woman for years before we started dating. He continues to encourage their relationship. I hear about the phone calls (she has called and left messages with his secretary); the emails he sends to her (he sends the same to both of us, separately, of course); his desire to bring her anything she needs at any time; it will never end. He will always deny it means anything to him. But you know it does. I don't know why I am still here. - Guest Sat, 15 Jul 2006 20:24:16 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/husband_and_the_other_woman.html#comment-83 I've had a similar situation as the above female. I need to know apart from our own awareness and willingness to change by educating ourselves on our habitual behavior on betrayal of a marriage etc, what is there in place that ensures this will never happen again? There is no accountability eg. When one commits a crime stealing drugs etc they go to jail, not that I suggest this although what else is there? In my view this type of behavior is a crime a violation of the deepest type and men particularly are getting away with it decade after decade! Psychological abuse is life debilitating and should have a punishment that is life changing and that will leave a boundary not withstanding any model-code-self evaluation thats out there! I feel that any information is better than none but great information is the type that endorses real enforcement to the perpetrator of how to behave as a descent human being to anyone! Sleeping around is dealt with far too lightly something needs to change. With the right assessment tool to get to the truth and a law that insists on change or puts in place consequences to ones actions against another in terms of treatment in a relationship. Thanks... enjoyable morning looking through your site! - Guest Tue, 23 May 2006 18:37:27 +0100 http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/ask_an_expert/infidelity/husband_and_the_other_woman.html#comment-84 My sentiment goes all the way out to the above mentioned wife. No hard feelings though but just fear. Fearful and not wanting husband to share intimate moments with others. Why not share it with their own wives but rather trash it out on others where it does not belong? - Guest Tue, 16 May 2006 20:08:38 +0100