My CL had the near perfect excuse, Manic Depressive, always feeling low, always tired, often went to bed in the afternoons. Then the latest bout of depression occured, but this time, his phone was always in a different place, his call lists deleted, always on the computer, working so much overtime. I really didn't want to believe, but after him needing so much time on his own, which was so out of character, i checked his e-mail and found that day's e-mails from OW. She is his team leader at work. He left on boxing day after being confrounted, when i tearfully asked why he laughed in my face and said why do you think, and walked out. He now calls and says he has made a mistake but i could never forgive him !! He has cheated before i have since found out, mainly from his so called best friend, and 2 yrs ago was seeing one of his friends daughters, he still denies anything went on, bt then did drop into conversation in 1 of his many nasty phone call's that her farther. His supposed friend at work, thinks that her 18mth old baby is his, so this has now made me think that of course it's true, why else would he say that !
My lessen is always trust 1st instincts if you feel it's going wrong trust it, run with it and then you'll find your proof.
That is what my husband does. I caught him at a party the other night 3 times being kissed on the cheek by this woman. The 3rd time I said something. Then I caught him in the dark corner of the porch hugging her.He said I was crazy. This was after I left him there.,It took him over 30 minutes to call me after I left.
