Hi
This sucks to be writing this, but I need some advice.

My GF of 7 years was caught today.

I happened to look at her screen while she was in the bathroom. On there I saw a myspace.com link. So I go onto my computer and check it out.

To my displeasure it has half naked guys and girls as friends, and amaueter page (spelled wrong) etc etc.

My GF hates porn of any kind. I can't even look at a chick on TV.

on the myspace , it also states she is single, which really hurts.

I confronted her about it, and she states that she made the site for a friend, bullsh*t, that's why the site was deleted within 30 minutes.

What do I do? I feel so betrayed.

And I knew something wasn't right the last few months, because I would approach her on her computer, and she would push me away, even when tried to give her a hug

First of all, I want to say how sorry I am for you and it is genuine.

I had a somewhat similar experience.

I found an email on my boyfriends computer with a password to Reunion.com. I remember well how my heart beat hard and the tears were hot in my eyes when I read his profile on the site (yes-went to the site to check it out-huge mistake) and he described himself and his life and never once mentioned me. Just his kids-one of them he hasn't seen in years and doesn't care to-but not once did he speak of me after 6 years in our relationship. I did the wrong thing and confronted him and then did it the wrong way. All I got for a reason was I must have forgotten and then later I must have been mad at you for some reason . Both pathetic excuses for him wanting to reach out to someone else-some secret somebody who probably didn't exist. I think it is in everyone to have a need to experience the exhilaration of the secret if that makes any sense. The hard lesson in it for the finder of the secret is the exhilaration good or bad that we also experience when we discover the secret or lie. We now know thru the discovery, the same bizarre, addictive adrenaline pump or churned up feelings that our partner wanted to feel with the deception. And we almost could say we liked it.

Unfortunately it is in the negative and we feel pain. And now the question of fairness comes into play. Some people turn to pay back. Some do what I did and turn into snoopers and spies. And it can become obsessive and it can dictate your life. Promise yourself you won't do that. You in honesty probably already have. If you have, stop it now. Doing that just reinforces the distrust and doesn't solve the root problem. You may never know anyway why she did it in the first place. If you think she will tell you the truth you are kidding yourself. No one ever wants to admit indescretions that probably in truth meant absolutely nothing in the bigger picture of their lives. I quit asking why. Don't think that I am saying there wasn't damage done. But I still have to weigh the merit of it against all the good things that I still experience with my mate. I have to tell myself daily, not to be the accuser.

I read and study and try to find the right way to ask the questions or point out the things that hurt me rather than let it sink into that deep dark pit of unending suspicion and depression. There have been other things that have happened since and I find myself here looking for more answers as you are doing. Yeah, it sucks. But I want desperately to help MYSELF change--I can't make him change. Not possible. And when the day comes that my mental and physical health is in such jeopardy that I cannot continue, I want to be emotionally healthy enough to say get the hell outta my life and take your lies, deceptions and omissions with you when the door hits in you in the ass.